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My name is Li Xiaofang, I am 28 years old this year, and I am married to my husband Zhang Xiaoming. We have been married for three years and have a lovely daughter named Zhang Xiaohua, who is three years old this year.
In order to get Xiaohua into a good school district, my parents bought a house on the outskirts of the city just for our family to live in. At the time, I thought they had done a bit too much, after all, the house was so expensive. But the parents said, "For the sake of our granddaughter, it is convenient for you to live in a school district room and go to school, as long as you two get along in harmony." ”
I was moved to tears, my parents were so nice. Xiao Ming also smiled and said, "Mom and Dad, you have worked hard, I will definitely treat Xiaofang and Xiaohua well." This house should be your gift to Xiaohua. ”
And just like that, we quickly moved into this three-bedroom school district house and started a new life. Xiaohua also adapts well and happily goes to kindergarten every day.
A few days ago, Xiao Ming suddenly said to me: "I want to write the names of me and my ex-wife on the title certificate of this house." ”
I was surprised and asked, "Why do you want to write your ex-wife's name? This house was obviously bought by my parents, so what does it have to do with your ex-wife?"
Xiao Ming said impatiently: "This house was mainly bought with the money I earned, and my ex-wife also worked hard when I started my business, so it is appropriate to add her name." ”
I still disagree, insisting that the house should only have the two of us in our names. Xiao Ming's face immediately sank: "I said that if I want to write, I will write, there is no room for negotiation!"
I was very sad to see him have such a tough attitude. Isn't this the house my parents bought for the sake of Xiaohua, but now they want to write the name of a person who has nothing to do with us, how can we agree?
But after thinking about it, I will not change my mind if I oppose Xiao Ming repeatedly. In the past few years, once he has made a decision, he has insisted on doing it according to his own ideas, and he will not listen to my opinion at all. There are countless examples of my objections to fruitlessness, and in the end it is not up to him to have the final say.
Xiao Ming was very satisfied with my change of attitude, and said with a smile: "Look, isn't this all good?" In the future, you will listen to me about the house, and I will take care of it. ”
I held back tears and nodded. After this concession, my heart was filled with despair and pain.
I began to reflect on my married life over the past few years. I gave so much, but I didn't get Xiao Ming's reward and respect. I married him, had children, and managed the household for him, but he never cared about my feelings. This house incident showed his selfishness and did not take my and my parents' efforts into account at all.
"Xiao Fang, what are you thinking?" Xiao Ming's voice suddenly pulled me back to reality.
"Ah, nothing. I hurriedly wiped away my tears and pretended to be calm.
"Hey, I know you don't mind about the house. But trust me, it's the best option for all of us. Xiao Ming seemed to take my unhappiness as a momentary anger.
I didn't answer, silently put away the dishes and chopsticks. I began to think that maybe Xiao Ming didn't love me as much as I thought. For him, getting married is just about making life more convenient.
"Mom, don't be sad. Xiaohua tugged at the corner of my coat and looked at me with concern.
"Baby, Mommy is fine, you go play. I forced a smile on my face, feeling sorry that Xiaohua was affected by our unhappiness.
That night, I had insomnia until the wee hours of the morning. It dawned on me that maybe it was time for me to end this marriage. If I keep compromising and tolerating, I will lose myself. I need to start over and live a life of respect.
Xiao Ming looked at me in shock: "Xiao Fang, what are you talking about stupidly? We already have children, how can you say divorce?"
"I thought about it all night, and the decision was serious. I said firmly.
Xiao Ming's face immediately changed: "Okay, you can leave if you want! But the child and me, don't want the house!"
I didn't expect him to react so violently, and I was very sad in my heart, but I still said, "Okay, whatever you say is what you say." ”
I turned around and wanted to leave, but Xiao Ming grabbed my wrist: "You listen to me, if you dare to leave, I will make you look good!"
He said as he slapped me hard. The slap landed firmly in my face, and it hurt me so much that I burst into tears. I looked at Xiao Ming, who looked like a stranger in front of me, in horror, and suddenly became scared.
I shook off his hand, crouched on the ground with my head in my hands, and began to cry. Xiao Ming's face became ugly when he saw me like this.
"I'm doing this for our good! Think it out for yourself!" He yelled with red eyes, and slammed the door.
I wiped my tears and stood up, my heart like a knife. I really didn't expect that Xiao Ming would actually hit me. How did our marriage become like this?
"Mom, don't cry. Xiaohua was also awakened by our noisy sound and ran over to hug my legs.
Holding back tears, I picked up the little flower and went back to my room. "Baby, I'm sorry to wake you up. Mommy is fine, let's sleep. ”
Xiaohua slept in my arms, and I gently stroked her hair. I began to think about my future with Xiaohua. Maybe I should really divorce Xiao Ming and start a new life with Xiaohua. I believe the law and my parents will help me.
When Xiao Ming came back in the evening, his attitude changed completely, and he said to me with a smile on his face: "Xiao Fang, calm down, let's have a good talk." Things won't be as bad as you think, and we can start over. ”
I said coldly, "Can you start over?" Is that the way you beat me up to start over? I won't change my mind, please respect my decision. ”
"That slap was my fault, you were not clear in my mind at that time, and I regret it very much now. Xiao Ming begged bitterly.
"I'm sorry, it's too late. I shook my head firmly, "I believe divorce is good for all of us." Please, don't make this any sadder. ”
Xiao Ming saw that my attitude was resolute, and his face became ugly. He said viciously, "Yes, you can do whatever you want, but I tell you, you will regret it!"
I ignored his threats and began to pack. I believe that the law and family will protect me and Xiaohua and will not let Xiao Ming hurt us. I'm about to start a new life.
A month later, the divorce case was officially opened. I filed a claim for custody and division of property, and Xiao Ming's lawyer is still fighting for ownership of the house. Although I was still scared and sad in my heart, I had to face it bravely. It will all pass, I told myself.
The judge finally ruled that the custody of Xiaohua belonged to me, and the property was divided proportionally. I'm relieved, at least Xiaohua can stay with me and won't be hurt.
"I don't agree with this verdict! The child should be with me, and the house is mine. Xiao Ming angrily interrupted the judge, and was about to step forward to make a move.
"Please calm down, this is the verdict of the law. The judge said solemnly.
I grabbed my parents who wanted to come forward and motioned for them not to get excited. After this lawsuit, I understood that Xiao Ming's behavior was unreasonable, and arguing with him was futile.
"The verdict was delivered within a week and the court was dissolved. The judge rang the gavel, marking the end of the marriage.
"Mom, we won!" Xiaohua happily took my hand.
"yes, everything will be fine. I picked her up, and I felt the big stone in my heart finally hit the ground.
On the way home, I looked at the familiar street scene outside the car window and suddenly felt an inexplicable relief. I can finally start a new life.
A month later, I moved out of that house with Xiaohua. I rented a small apartment nearby and started my life as a single mother. When working during the day, Xiaohua will be in kindergarten; In the evenings, I would cook my own meals and accompany her to complete her homework.
It wasn't easy at first, but I felt happy. I can devote myself to Flora without worrying about arguing. Xiaohua has also adapted well and has maintained excellent results.
I will take her to the psychiatrist regularly to make sure that her growth is not affected. The doctor said that Xiaohua has a cheerful personality and should not have much of a problem. I am grateful that God has blessed my daughter.
One day, I picked up Xiaohua from school and found Xiao Ming standing outside the school gate. His face was covered with stubble, his expression was decadent, and he looked terrible. I vigilantly pulled Xiaohua over, but he didn't react, just silently watched us leave.
Later, I heard from a colleague that Xiao Ming's company had suffered serious losses recently, its business was in a slump, and it was on the verge of bankruptcy. I don't know how to feel, I just hope he doesn't bother us again.
As the days went by, I felt stronger and stronger, and more and more emboldened. I believe that with my own ability, I will definitely be able to give Xiaohua the best life.
I often look proudly at Xiaohua's happy smiling face and thank God for giving us
In a blink of an eye, Xiaohua was already in elementary school. We moved to the school district, and every day I dropped her off at school and then drove her to work.
"Mom, I can walk to school by myself, you don't have to send me every day. Xiaohua said to me one day.
"Is it dangerous to walk on your own?" I'm still not reassured.
"I'm already an older kid and I'll be safe. Mom, you believe me!" Xiaohua said seriously.
Seeing her sensible appearance, I nodded and said, "Okay then, but you have to send a message on time to let me know that you are safely at school." ”
"Received! I'll send a message on time!" Xiaohua happily agreed.
I looked at her confident back and felt like she had grown a lot. I had to learn to let go and give her more freedom.
On my way home from school, I passed by a restaurant that was about to close and found Xiao Ming sitting inside, barely touching the food in front of him.
I've rarely heard from him again in recent years. He seems to have had a hard time after going bankrupt and has moved out of our old house. I hesitated, but walked in.
"Xiao Ming, are you okay?" I asked tentatively.
He looked up at me with surprise in his eyes: "Xiaofang, why did you come here?"
"I'm doing okay. Xiao Ming looked away, his face gloomy.
"That's good. It's time for me to go, take care. I got up and wanted to leave.
"Xiaofang, wait. Xiao Ming stopped me, "Over the years, I have been reflecting on what I have done. I really knew I was wrong, and I paid the price. I just want to say, I'm really sorry and thank you for teaching me a lesson. ”
I nodded: "Let it pass." I'm doing well now, and Xiaohua is doing well, and that's enough. ”
"Yes, I also saw that Xiaohua grew up and became beautiful. You did very well. Xiao Ming smiled reluctantly.
"Then I'll go first, goodbye. I turned and walked out the door.
"Xiaofang, thank you. I will always remember the lesson. Xiao Ming said behind me.
I left the restaurant feeling calm for the first time in a long time. I forgave Xiao Ming, and I also forgave my past self. I can finally really look forward.
Today, I am a woman in my own right. I have a stable job, a daughter who is growing up happily, and I have found meaning in life. The pain of the past has made me happy today, and I don't
Today, I am a woman in my own right. I have a stable job, a daughter who is growing up happily, and I have found meaning in life. The pain of the past has made me happy today, and I will not forget it, but I will not be bound by the past.
The days passed, and the little flower grew up. She turned into a beautiful and generous girl with excellent grades and was loved by her teachers and classmates. I looked at her confident smile and was so proud of her.
One day when I came home from school, Xiaohuashen said to me mysteriously, "Mom, I have a secret to tell you. ”
"What's the secret?" I asked with a smile.
"I've got a boyfriend!" Xiaohua blushed.
"What? boyfriend?" I was a little surprised, "Who?"
"As far as the prince in my class is concerned, he is the best boy in the class, and he is also handsome. Xiaohua said shyly, "He confessed to me after school yesterday, and then we were together." ”
"That's right. I smiled and patted her head, "Mom has no opinion, but you have to respect each other and discuss any problems with Mom, you know?"
"Got it, Mom, don't worry!" Xiaohua hugged me happily.
In the blink of an eye, Xiaohua has graduated from high school. She was admitted to the university of her choice and is about to live away from home.
"Mom, I'm going to miss you. On the day I moved into the dormitory, Xiaohua hugged me and was reluctant to let go.
"My baby has grown up and will be living on his own in the future. Remember to take care of yourself and tell your mom if you have any questions. I couldn't hold back my tears.
"I will, Mom! I love you!" said Xiaohua with red eyes.
I watched her back as she left, and my heart was full of love and pride. I knew she would have a better life than I did.
Today, I'm a senior editor. The work went very smoothly and my colleagues and boss appreciated me.
Occasionally I think of Xiao Ming. I heard that he got married again later, and his life gradually got on track. I'm happy for him.
At a party, a colleague said to me, "Xiaofang, you are really amazing, you raised your children by yourself, and your career has been so successful." You are my role model. ”
I smiled and thanked her. On the way home, I burst into tears. I finally felt that I was needed and valued. My life is meaningful.
Yes, I survived, and I lived well. It's all myself