After graduating from university, I chose to stay in the city to work, while my parents still live in their hometown.
During the Spring Festival this year, I asked for leave in advance and planned to go home early to surprise my parents.
On the eve of the Chinese New Year, I returned home and found my home busy. My wife was busy tidying up the room and setting up the festive atmosphere.
I walked over, put my arm around her shoulder, and asked, "Why are you so busy today?" she turned her head and said with a smile, "Of course it's to greet you, otherwise how can it have a New Year's flavor."
The two of us finally settled down under the exaggeration of our parents, and everything seemed to be quietly changing. My parents never seem to be old, but their gray hair still makes my heart ache.
I shyly said, "I like you." She coquettishly continued, "I want to see your happy smile."
At dinner the next day, our whole family sat down to eat together, and there was a lot of laughter and laughter. After eating, his wife suddenly proposed to perform a skit for everyone.
My parents agreed, so we moved the table away and made room for her. She started acting, playing a humorous character and never stopped along the way.
Her performance made the whole family laugh and the scene was very lively.
On the way back home from my parents' house in the evening, my wife took the initiative to say, "I know you are in a heavy mood today, but I am also very happy to see you happy for my performance."
She turned her head sideways, her eyes shining brightly, and said softly, "We are a family, guarding each other and accompanying each other."
On my first day back on the job, I returned to the office in a happy mood. However, my wife's attitude suddenly changed, and she began to be cold to me.
When I asked, my wife finally couldn't help but tell the reason. She said she felt like she wasn't getting enough attention and care because I was always putting too much time into my work and neglecting the importance of my family.
I realized that I might have really neglected my family, and I was a little overwhelmed for a moment.
This incident made me think about the balance between family and work, and I began to try to adjust my time, ask my boss to take time off, and spend as much time as possible with my family.
I'm very aggrieved, I'm trying my best to adjust, but I don't know what she wants me to do.
One night, I couldn't help but ask her, "What do you want from me?" I have done my best!" She was silent for a moment, and then expressed her dissatisfaction: "I just hope that you can take the initiative to care for me, more company, more care, and not just a one-sided apology."
Since then, I have begun to communicate with her more actively, greeting her, caring about her work and life, telling her my work status, hoping to alleviate conflicts in common communication.
During this experience, I learned the importance of mutual tolerance and understanding, and I also learned to care more about my family instead of just blindly running around for work.
The improvement of my relationship with my wife has also made me cherish our relationship even more.
Looking at the side face of my wife falling asleep, I suddenly felt an indescribable feeling in my heart. After so many years of separation, I have always felt that my wife is unfathomable, and I feel that there are always some things that I can't guess.
I was worried if there was something bothering her, or if she wasn't getting along well with my parents. This worry makes it difficult for me to sleep.
I looked at her facial expression and knew what she was hiding. I can't help but feel a little angry, thinking that we, as husband and wife, should be able to share the good and bad with each other.
The depression in my heart only intensified.
That afternoon, I decided to have a good talk with her. I told her all the doubts and worries in my heart, hoping that she could be honest with me instead of always carrying it alone.
When I heard this, my heart was shocked, and I knew that it was time for me to explain my relationship with her parents.
We talked for a long time, and I told her about my expectations of the family and the love I had for them, promising her that I would work it out with my family.
But there was still a layer between us, and it was a little unsettling to me.