Free love, feelings must have an attitude of Buddha
Over the years, Zeng Li has fallen in love twice with an actor who is not outstanding. The first boyfriend is a well-known and powerful actor in the industry, and the two sparked love when they cooperated in filming and started a sweet relationship.
Zeng Li likes his gentleness and thoughtfulness very much, the two of them talk sweetly about Xiao Xin. However, the good times did not last long, and the lover's excessive possession and control made Zeng Li feel more and more breathless.
In the end, she decisively proposed to break up and chose to regain her freedom.
After the continuation, the actor's boyfriend who is not highly educated simply needs Zeng Li's more emotional care. However, success could not compensate for his inner inferiority complex and insecurity.
In the end, Zeng Li was still disappointed by his suspicious control behavior, and the two could only turn around and part.
After experiencing the ups and downs of two relationships, Zeng Li became more calm and Buddhist. She realizes that the most valuable thing about love is that two people give each other space, not imprison or control.
She also understands that if there is a lack of basic trust, it is difficult to last long with the burning fire of love. So, when she meets a suitor who does not respect freedom, she learns to refuse decisively and wait for the arrival of a true soulmate.
Zeng Li will explain himself from time to time: The world is so big, one day I will meet the person who really values me. She is willing to give her heart to love, but she must also keep her soul free to fly.
Living in your own time zone
When actresses of the same age in the entertainment industry are anxious about career development and maintaining their appearance, 46-year-old Zeng Li still looks calm and calm. She doesn't deliberately fight back against titles like the queen of the movie or the goddess of charm, and she doesn't lose sleep because of the fine lines that appear on her face.
Zeng Li chooses to live in his own "time zone" and live and work at his own pace.
In fact, she has also been confused about her acting path. For example, in the year of graduation, she gave up the opportunity to become the heroine of "My Father and Mother", and later made her classmate Zhang Ziyi famous in one fell swoop; Another example is the nominations that made her the best supporting actor at the major award ceremonies...... These did make her self-confidence frustrated, and she had a slight inferiority complex.
However, she was soon able to adjust her mindset and give herself positive energy. She understands that the web of destiny is intricate, and that each of us plays out our own lives at our own nodes.
You don't need to worry too much about success or failure, and the most important thing is to grasp the moment and play your own part.
It has been said that the most beautiful scenery is not on the other side of the mountain, but at the foot. The same is true in life, we don't have to rush blindly to somewhere that seems better, the most important thing is to stop and learn to enjoy and be grateful for what we have now.
As a result, Zeng Li chose to live peacefully in his own small world, which had nothing to do with secular comparisons. From time to time, she goes out to some friends' small gatherings, and reads, drinks tea, and strolls quietly after work...... Let the time flow melodiously.
She also shares the bits and pieces of her life on social media to resonate with like-minded souls around her. It's simple, but it's also happy.
Such a day is the kind of life state she idealizes.
Wonderful summary
In this society that values fame, fortune and status, and advocates hard work, Zeng Li uses his 46 years of life to interpret another paradigm charmingly.
She does not participate in the exaggerated hype and business competition of celebrities, but just takes one step at a time, quietly interpreting every role to the best. But he can easily deal with other people's vexatious troubles.
Her life is simple and contented, and she can change in the world of love. The most convincing thing is that she always lives at her own pace and is not swayed by the judgment of others.
When most people are anxious and running around under the framework of social rules, Zeng Li is confident and calm. She uses a Buddhist attitude and pace to vividly interpret what is the true meaning of a wonderful life.
Perhaps, we should all stop and listen and learn Xi from her inner voice.