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My name is Li Feng, I am 38 years old, and I have been married to my wife Yang Mei for 10 years and have a son and a daughter. I am a construction worker who fell from a height 3 years ago and injured my spinal cord and has been paralyzed in bed ever since. My wife, Yang Mei, has been taking care of me and the children, but recently there has been a rift in our relationship. I still had normal physiological needs, but Yangmei's reluctance to sleep with me made me suffer.
That day, I plucked up the courage to say to Yangmei: "Meimei, we haven't been intimate for a long time, and I miss your hug so much." ”
Yang Mei frowned, and said in a cold tone: "Fengfeng, you are a paralyzed patient now, and we should no longer have a married life." ”
I said eagerly, "Meimei, I know that you have been taking care of me and the children, and life is not easy, but please understand my needs, okay? I really miss our close relationship." ”
"No way!" Yangmei raised her voice, "You have to accept the reality, we can't have sex anymore, I only treat you as a patient who needs to be taken care of now!"
Yangmei's words pierced my heart, and I felt hopeless and painful, and I couldn't help but cry. Our relationship has become so cold that Yangmei no longer sees me as her husband, but only as a burden.
"Meimei, how can you say that about me, I am your husband!" I choked up.
"Fengfeng, you have to face the reality, you are now a paralyzed patient, and we can no longer have a normal married life. Yang Mei said coldly.
"Meimei, I know that I am disabled now, but I still have normal needs, and I am still full of love for you, please don't break my heart like this. "I couldn't stop crying.
"It's useless, Fengfeng, you have to accept the state we are in now. I will do my best to take care of your life, but I will not meet your unrealistic requirements. "Yangmei turned around and stopped looking at me.
I looked at Yangmei's indifferent back, and my heart was like a knife. We used to be so loving and so happy in marriage, but now we have become such a cold and desperate state. I know it's not easy for bayberry either, but why would she break my heart like this?
"Meimei, please look back at me, are you really completely loveless for me?" I cried.
Yangmei didn't look back and walked out of the room on her own.
I collapsed on the bed in pain, tears soaking through the pillow. Is this the end of our marriage? Am I really going to live the rest of my life alone?
When I think about our marriage, I am even more painful. We were college classmates, we loved each other deeply, and we naturally got married after graduation. After we got married, we took care of each other, and later we had lovely children. Even if I had an accident, Yangmei took care of me and my children without regrets. I knew it would be a huge burden for her, but I didn't expect her to become so cold and ununderstanding of my needs.
After a day, I tried to communicate with Yangmei again: "Meimei, let's have a good chat, I really miss you." ”
Yang Mei said impatiently: "Fengfeng, I have already made it clear to you, don't mention this matter again." ”
"Meimei, do you really have no feelings at all?" I pleaded, "I can understand your hard work, but please don't do this to me and give our marriage a chance." ”
"I've had enough!" Yang Mei suddenly said loudly, "Do you know how hard I have had all these years? Children, housework, and taking care of you, I have long been exhausted! You only think about yourself, never think about me!"
I was speechless, and I felt nothing but infinite grief. It turned out that in Yangmei's heart, I became a selfish burden.
"Meimei, I really know that I was wrong, I was too selfish. I choked up and said, "But please give me a chance to make amends, give our marriage a chance, okay?"
With that, Yangmei snatched the door and left me alone in the room. I burst into tears, and my heart was like a knife. Our marriage broke down in quarrels and misunderstandings.
After a few days, I got emotional and wanted to get out of bed to find the bayberry theory, but I forgot the fact that I was paralyzed, and one accidentally fell from the bed to the ground.
"You fool, how could you fall out of bed!" Yang Mei said as she helped me up.
"Meimei, please don't leave me. "I hugged the bayberry and cried bitterly.
Yangmei silently helped me back to bed, tears flashing in her eyes.
"I'm sorry, Meimei, but I was too selfish. I clasped Yangmei's hand, "I know that it has not been easy for you all these years, but I only think about myself and never think about you." I was wrong, really wrong, please give me a chance to make amends. ”
Yang Mei looked at me, and tears finally burst out of her eyes: "Fengfeng, in fact, I have worked very hard and tired all these years, so I will be so indifferent to you." But I know it's not right, it's just going to make our relationship worse. I'm also at fault, and I shouldn't have broken your heart like this. ”
I squeezed Yangmei's hand and said excitedly, "Meimei, I'm so happy that you're finally willing to listen to me." We're all wrong, but for the sake of these 10 years of marriage, we can definitely start over, can't we?"
Yang Mei nodded, tears still rolling in her eyes: "Well, we must communicate well, and we can't let the misunderstanding get deeper and deeper and come to the point of divorce." ”
"Meimei, I promise to care more about you in the future, and I will understand your hard work. I said sincerely, "I can't just think about my own needs and ignore your feelings." Will you forgive me?"
"I forgive you, Fengfeng. Yang Mei finally smiled, "I also want to apologize to you, I shouldn't have broken your heart like that." You are my husband and we will slowly solve the problem between us. ”
I was so happy that I put my arm around Yangmei's shoulders and shed tears of excitement. We have finally regained the possibility of communication, and I am sure that our marriage will slowly get back on track.
From that day on, Yangmei and I began to exchange feelings in earnest. I expressed my needs, but at the same time actively encouraged Yang Mei to talk about her difficulties. I began to put myself in her shoes and took the initiative to help her with household chores when I was fine. Yangmei no longer refused to care about my physical needs, and our relationship finally regained warmth.
"Meimei, I'll press your shoulder at night, you've worked hard all these years. "One night, I said to bayberry.
"Okay. Yang Mei smiled and sat down on the edge of my bed, "Actually, with you, I don't think life is so bitter." ”
"Me too, Meimei. While helping the bayberry massage, I sighed, "With you, my life is full of hope." ”
"Well, we'll be with each other all the time. Yangmei said softly.
I feel extremely happy and satisfied. After this quarrel, our relationship became stronger because we learned to understand, considerate, and support each other. This is the true meaning of marriage, and I will always cherish bayberry.
Since then, Yangmei no longer refuses to be intimate with me, and my physiological needs have been met. I no longer only think about myself, but always think about bayberry. Yangmei would cook me a delicious dinner after work, and then we would watch TV, chat, and spend a warm evening together.
One day, Yang Mei excitedly said to me: "Fengfeng, I'm going to take you to the movies, this movie has a good review, and the movie theater has just been renovated with barrier-free facilities, you can easily enter and exit!"
I was overjoyed: "Great, Meimei! We haven't been out together for a long time, and I'm going to be cold." Be sure to enjoy the movie this time!"
So, Yang Mei prepared carefully, she put on the best clothes for me, and checked the condition of the wheelchair. Coming to the cinema and the staff were very welcoming to help us and made me feel incredibly warm.
The movie is very exciting, and we watched it with relish. While watching the movie, Yangmei looked at me from time to time to make sure I felt comfortable. I was so touched that I clasped her hand and said, "Meimei, with a caring wife like you, I am the happiest person in the world!"
Since then, Yangmei will often take me out for a walk, to parks, supermarkets, libraries and other places. I saw that there was no boredom in her eyes, only full of love. I also no longer think about my own needs, but how to make bayberry happy.
"Great!" I happily said, "Our baby is getting better and better!
So our family attended the award ceremony for our daughter. Seeing our daughter on stage and receiving the award, we were all so excited that we shed tears. Yang Mei shook my hand and said with emotion: "Children are the driving force for our hard work." ”
"Yes, we have to keep working hard for them!" I feel it too.
The growth of the children has made my life and that of Yangmei more fulfilling. We are no longer just running around for a living, but we have found a higher purpose to keep our marriage going. This has also strengthened our courage and confidence in the face of difficulties.
One night, Yangmei leaned into my arms and said softly: "Fengfeng, remember when we first got married, could we quarrel over any trivial matter?"
I smiled and nodded: "Remember, I have a very good memory, and if your cooking is a little unpleasant to my taste, I will lose my temper." ”
"We were so childish then, and it's kind of funny to think about it now. Yang Mei also smiled, "However, it is through those noisy quarrels that we will slowly learn to understand each other and cherish our feelings." ”
"You're right, Meimei. I sighed, "Only after experiencing a low point can we cherish our current happiness more." I will always remember the lesson of that big quarrel and will no longer think only about myself. ”
"Me too, Fengfeng. Yang Mei hugged my hand, "We will always go through the ups and downs of life together, right?"
"Definitely, my dear wife. I kissed bayberry lightly on the cheek.
Now, Yangmei and I have completely regained our original sweetness and understanding. Every morning, Yangmei would gently wake me up and give me a good morning kiss. I will also remember to massage her shoulders to let her relax. In the evenings, we would watch TV together and share interesting stories about each other's lives. Yangmei would hold me in her arms and let me feel her love.
I often say to Yangmei: "My dear, with you by my side, I am the happiest person in the world." ”
Yangmei will also say to me sweetly: "Me too, being with you is the greatest happiness in my life." ”
Watching children grow up every day, our lives become more and more colorful. The love between me and Yangmei has also become stronger and more lasting in the baptism of the years.
"Fengfeng, the new year is here again, we will definitely be happier!" When the New Year's bell rang, Yangmei held my hand and said.
"Definitely, Meimei. As long as you're by my side. I looked affectionately into the eyes of bayberry.
No matter what kind of ups and downs there will be in life, with bayberry by my side, I can face it bravely. I thank God for giving me such a lovely and kind wife. I will always love her, take care of her, and take care of her as she cared for me.
This is the love story of me and Yangmei. It's been through the lows, but it's made our relationship stronger and more hopeful. I know very well that marriage requires the understanding and dedication of both parties, and it will last longer if it goes through trials.
One day, I said to Yangmei: "Meimei, let's go on a picnic in the suburbs this weekend." It's been a long time since we've hung out together!"
"Okay!" Yang Mei said happily, "It just so happens that the weather is also very good, we can bring our children with us." ”
So on the weekend, we happily went to the suburbs, spread out picnic cloths, and breathe in the fresh air. Yangmei prepared my favorite dishes, as well as snacks that the kids loved. Watching them eat with relish, Yangmei and I also smiled happily.
"Mom and Dad, let's go play hide and seek in the woods!" The children took us by the hand after eating.
"Okay, you guys go play, Daddy is resting under this tree. I said.
"Dad, you're here too!" The children begged.
I hesitated, and Yang Mei said gently: "Fengfeng, with me here, don't worry, let's go play together!"
So, with the support of bayberry, I also went to the woods and played hide and seek with the children. Yangmei always keeps an eye on my safety, but I'm already fully involved in it, chasing me with the children, and having a lot of fun.
On this day, our family spent a happy and warm weekend. Looking at the smiling faces of the children, my heart and Yangmei's hearts were also full of happiness.
"Did you have fun today?" On the way home, Yangmei asked me softly.
"It's fun!" I said excitedly, "What makes me happiest is that you have been taking care of me and allowing me to play freely." This feeling of being loved is simply wonderful. ”
"That's good. Yangmei's eyes flashed with tears, "As long as you are happy, I am willing to do anything." ”
I clasped Yangmei's hand and said gratefully: "Honey, with you by my side, I am the happiest person in the world!"
After that quarrel, my relationship with Yangmei became stronger because we learned to cherish every moment of the present. There will be challenges in life, but with love, we can overcome everything.
I often say to Yangmei: "No matter what, I will always love you and take care of you." ”
Yangmei will also answer me: "Me too, my dear, I will always be with you." ”