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My name is Xiaofang, I am 28 years old, my husband Ah Qiang and I are high school classmates, and we got married after five years of love. After we got married, we gave birth to a lovely daughter, Xiaoqing. Now that Xiaoqing is one and a half years old, I recently found out that I am pregnant again.
The mother-in-law is a traditional old-fashioned person with a patriarchal mentality. When I gave birth to Xiaoqing before, she didn't pay much attention to it and didn't help with the children. Keung and I are both very busy at work, and sometimes we can't find time to take care of Xiaoqing, so we can only leave her at home and be taken care of by my mother-in-law for a while.
I said to my mother-in-law worriedly, "Mom, I'm pregnant again." This time the child may be a little prince!"
The mother-in-law snorted coldly: "I won't do it! I was not less tired last time I gave birth to Xiaoqing, but now that the old woman is older again, and her back hurts badly, how can I still have the energy to help you take care of the child? I don't care if you came by accident or on purpose, anyway, I can't take it!" Hearing my mother-in-law refuse so resolutely, I fell into frustration and despair. I was so aggrieved that tears were about to fall. I begged my mother-in-law for a long time with kind words, but my mother-in-law was unmoved, and I only felt discouraged.
At this moment, I mustered up all my courage and decided to have a showdown with my mother-in-law and tell my true thoughts:
The mother-in-law sneered: "It's not like I haven't given birth to a child, and I know that it's not easy to be a mother." It's just that you are ambitious, and the child was born and lost to me, I am an old man, and I really can't bear it! The last time I gave birth to Xiaoqing, my back hurt so much that I was almost useless, have you ever felt sorry for me?"
I blamed myself and felt distressed, and hurriedly explained: "Mom, I understand, I'm really sorry! It's just that the small family is broken, and I really can't afford to raise a confinement sister-in-law, I am too presumptuous to put the responsibility of taking care of the children on you. This time, I will definitely apply for a longer maternity leave and take care of the baby by myself. Please do me one last favor, when the child is two or three years old, I will definitely hire a confinement lady to repay your parenting grace!"
My mother-in-law seemed to be moved by my sincere words, and her face finally softened: "My old bones can't bear it, but my body is still strong! Don't just think about having children all day long, you should also honor and honor me, an old man!"
It turned out that my mother-in-law also loved me and was willing to help me take care of the baby, how grateful I was to her!
At the very moment of our reconciliation, I suddenly felt a cramping pain in my lower abdomen, and the pain was so bad that I immediately bent down and almost fell to the ground. My mother-in-law was shocked when she saw this, and hurriedly helped me and asked her husband to call an ambulance. I was sweating profusely, and I just felt like it was terrible.
All the way to the obstetrics department of the hospital, I was pushed into the emergency room for resuscitation. The mother-in-law sat at the door of the operating room, folded her hands and prayed sincerely. After two hours, the doctor finally came out worried.
"Madame's situation is not very optimistic. Congenital uterine dysplasia and the risk of flocculent fetal pregnancy in this pregnancy, I have been pregnant for three months, but the size of the intrauterine pregnancy is like a one-month fetus. Just now we performed emergency surgery on the patient, the fetus has been miscarried, and in order to ensure the patient's physical safety, we have to remove her uterus. "The doctor explained to us one by one.
After hearing these words, I suddenly felt that the sky had fallen! I was still immersed in the joy of being a mother, but in the blink of an eye, all hope was shattered. The womb is gone, which means I will never be able to have another baby in my life! I was on the verge of collapse, tears welling up in my eyes. Why, why is God so unfair! Not only did they take away my children, but they also deprived me of my qualifications to be a mother. I could never have a child of my own again, and I was devastated.
My mother-in-law also cried bitterly, she held my hand and repeated "I'm sorry" over and over again. I know my mother-in-law is so guilty that she refused to take care of my baby before, and now such a tragic thing has happened.
When I was on the verge of an emotional breakdown, my mother-in-law cheered up and began to comfort me: "Xiaofang, you must cheer up! Although we have unfortunately lost our child, there is still something more important that has not been lost, that is, you are still alive and healthy! There will be a long time to come, and we will definitely find a way to get through the difficulties." ”
I took a deep breath and barely held back my tears: "Thank you, Mom, I know." It's just that it's too sudden, and I really can't accept this fact. I've always dreamed of having a big family, and now that dream is shattered, I need time to accept and adjust my mindset. ”
My mother-in-law held my hand intimately and comforted me softly. Her warm hand carried a steady stream of strength, and my numb heart gradually came alive.
After the surgery, I was placed in the ward for observation and treatment. During this time, my mother-in-law came to visit me every day and took care of all my daily life. I also gradually regained some strength and mood.
One day, when my mother-in-law came to change my dressing, I finally mustered up the courage and spread out with her and said, "Mom, I can understand your difficulties for you who were unwilling to help me bring my second child before, and I don't blame you." But I'm really sad, I miss Xiaoqing so much!"
My mother-in-law patted my hand gently and said, "Silly girl, that's all wrong with me." The most important thing in life is mutual understanding and tolerance! My old antique head is full of old ideas, and I really should let the great wheel of the times crush it! These days, if I think carefully, even if you have ten children, I will encourage and support you. Because it's your choice and right. I'm so unenlightened. ”
I couldn't hold back my tears. It turned out that this change not only made me grow, but also made my mother-in-law's worldview change dramatically. She finally understood me and accepted me as a daughter-in-law. I am grateful for this baptism in my life, which has enhanced the affection and understanding between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I finally saw that I still have my husband and Xiaoqing by my side, and the big tree of my mother-in-law will always be my backing. The moment I came home from the hospital, I was as excited as a child. Xiaoqing ran over and hugged my thighs, and her bright smile made me cry instantly. My baby, my heart, my mother is not willing to be separated from you for a day!
My mother-in-law helped me sit on the sofa, and then went to the kitchen to warm a bowl of red dates and wolfberry soup for me. I was moved to accept my mother-in-law's kindness, although I lost a child, but I am still grateful to God for giving me such a mother-in-law who loves me and loves me.
A month later, I fully recovered and started to get back to work. Every morning, my mother-in-law would wake me up on time and then send Xiaoqing to my arms to breastfeed. At noon, I would video play with the baby between work. At the end of the day, I am no longer as tired and hopeless as before, because I know that no matter how difficult the work is, I will always come home with my lovely daughter and considerate mother-in-law.
After half a year, Xiaoqing gradually became able to walk and talk. Her sweet call "Grandma" made her mother-in-law so happy that she couldn't close her mouth. Playing and dancing with Xiaoqing day and night has made her mother-in-law's health much better, no longer has back pain like before, and the whole person looks a lot more energetic.
My husband and I started planning to buy a house, and after five years of marriage, we should have a little nest of our own. My mother-in-law was very excited, and she took out all the savings she had accumulated for decades, and she must help us buy a house. At first, I politely declined my mother-in-law's kindness, it was all her hard-earned money, how could I be embarrassed to ask for it? But my mother-in-law insisted on giving it, she said that the happiest and most regretless thing in this life is to help us as a young man. After all, I didn't resist my mother-in-law's enthusiasm, so I had to tearfully accept her sponsorship.
I often reflect on myself that life cannot be 100% satisfactory. I have experienced life and death, but I have also gained sincerity and tolerance. Thank God for giving me my only precious daughter, and thank God for giving me a mother-in-law like a mother. I will always cherish the people in front of me and seize every ray of sunshine in my life. In the blink of an eye, my Xiaoqing is already a lively and cute little girl. I woke her up every morning, and she was holding my arm in a daze and wouldn't get up. "Mom, let me sleep for another five minutes!" Her sweet coquettish voice made me laugh. When she put on her school uniform and carried her small school bag, I personally drove her to school.
Let her get out of the car, she will always pester me and kiss me a few times, and say a few words "Mom, I love you super invincible!" And then walked away. Every now and then, I will sigh that my daughter has grown up, remembering that she was so small and delicate when she was born, and now she is a coquettish and talking little adult.
My mother-in-law is getting old, and her hair is graying a lot. The figure who used to be busy in the kitchen is now slowly becoming more and more struggling. My husband and I discussed inviting an aunt to come over to help cook and clean, and there was a special car driver to take my mother-in-law to dance classes and painting classes in the community. We also started to do regular physical check-ups for my mother-in-law, dispensing medicine and supplementing calcium. My mother-in-law said gratefully that in her later years, with the company of our good children, she had no regrets and no worries.
I have often reflected on myself, I have experienced life and death, and I have experienced the pain of losing a loved one. That's why I know how to cherish it more. I will use all my love to protect this little family. When I get old, when my hair turns gray, I will definitely become Xiaoqing's best and dearest confidant.
"Thank you, Grandma! I'm super happy!" Xiaoqing sweetly kissed her mother-in-law on the cheek.
The mother-in-law doted on her granddaughter, who had grown up, and her eyes were full of tears of relief.
In the blink of an eye, Xiaoqing has graduated from high school and was admitted to the university of her choice. My husband and I sent her to a city hundreds of miles away from home and started her independent life.
"Mom, don't worry, I will definitely work hard to learn Xi and take care of my daily life. "Xiaoqing hugged me and didn't let go, just like when I was a child when I pulled her to kindergarten, she stuck to my little skirt.
I couldn't hold back my tears and gently patted my daughter's shoulder: "Mom will miss you!
After my daughter became independent, my husband and I were quiet. Only every morning at breakfast, I still have the Xi habit of preparing three plates. Then looking at Xiaoqing's empty position, the couple looked at each other and smiled, and ate breakfast silently.