I have been a very obedient person since I was a child, and I have always been respectful and almost obedient to the opinions of my family. Although this personality has always allowed me to be smooth sailing in the family, it has also often been a little weak on certain issues.
That day, my mother-in-law suddenly came to our house and said to me with a serious face, "Your brother-in-law is getting married, and we need to vacate the master bedroom for them."
I tried to persuade my mother-in-law, but she forcibly suppressed me as a family tradition and an elder: "You are a daughter-in-law, you should be filial and think about the family."
At this moment, my dad walked out, holding a real estate deed in his hand, and he said to his mother-in-law solemnly, "I'll count three times, get out!" I had never seen such a father, but his attitude made me feel a little warm.
My father's words touched me deeply. It turned out that I had been running away from this contradiction all along, but I didn't expect that it was me who gave up insisting on myself.
However, my father's words did not deter my mother-in-law, and she still insisted on vacating the master bedroom. This problem, which has become an irreconcilable contradiction between me and my mother-in-law, has become more acute every day, and the contradictions and frictions between us have escalated.
In the days that followed, my husband and I were caught in a family storm, and because of this incident, there was a rift in our relationship.
Just when I thought it was impossible to change, my dad said, "There are some things that you can't avoid, no matter how difficult it is, you have to face it."
These words once again stimulated a certain nerve in my heart.
I picked myself up again and resolved not to be as indecisive as I had been. I approached my mother-in-law and told her that I would not accommodate her request.
This change caused a shock to the family. And the growth of my heart also allowed me to see another version of myself.
The next few days may be even more difficult, but I believe that I have become strong enough and determined enough to face everything.
"How can you support her in rebelling against me?!" the mother-in-law's voice became sharper.
"Mom, this matter is not that simple, you also have to consider her feelings. There was a hint of helplessness in her husband's tone.
I heard it clearly, and endless bitterness welled up in my heart. I didn't think it would cause so much trouble to my family, I just wanted to protect my bottom line, but I didn't expect it to cause disputes within the family.
However, just then, I received a call from my father. He said he wanted to meet me alone and talk about family.
It is important that you believe in yourself and not be swayed by external pressures.
My father's words warmed me, and I knew that I was not alone. I have learned that family conflicts are head-on, and escaping is not the solution, and only by firming up one's position can we find the exit of the problem.
In the face of conflicts and disputes in my family, I decided to stick to my bottom line and learn to respect the choices of others.
May the conflicts in the family be resolved, and may each of us be able to gain inner peace and firmness.
The wedding date is approaching, and the conflicts in the family are also invisibly magnified. I felt like a trapped little animal, suffocated by the pressures and contradictions around me.
This time, I didn't have my father's encouragement or my mother-in-law's understanding. I felt lonely and helpless, as if I was trapped in a predicament from which I could not extricate myself.
I knew that only I could change all that. I'm not a weak person, I'm going to fight for my persistence.
Perhaps, life is always full of all kinds of unavoidable contradictions and disputes. In this whirlpool, I seem to have found another more resilient self.
Life is a constant challenge of facing contradictions and disputes, and I have to face them bravely and not be knocked down.