Introduction:
After having a baby, many times the elderly in the family will become our important helpers and supporters. However, when the elderly do not actively participate in the upbringing and care of their children, some may turn to relatives for help. However, from my personal experience and reflections, I have found that there are two things that are best not to ask relatives for help, because it is easy to be wronged by doing so. In this article, I will give a detailed analysis of these two things and share my insights and recommendations.
Do not expect relatives to take care of the day-to-day care of the child
The relationship between relatives is inherently complex, so we should be moderately vigilant when entrusting our children to our relatives. First of all, the family conditions and financial situation of the relative may not be able to meet the needs of the child's life and growth. They may not have enough time and energy to care for their children, or they may lack the knowledge and experience to do so. For example, they may not know how to properly feed their babies or respond to unexpected situations in their children. This can lead to a child not being properly cared for and protected in a relative's home, and may even pose a risk to the child's health and safety.
Secondly, debt relationships and power relations between relatives can also cause unpredictable distress in the care of children. There may be an imbalance in resources and burdens between relatives, which can lead to conflicts and disputes between relatives. For example, if you leave a child in the care of a relative who has other important family and work matters to attend to, they may be distracted from the child's care or unable to do their due diligence when the child needs them. In this case, you may be blamed and blamed by your relatives and will not be able to get the support and help you deserve.
Therefore, I recommend that in this case, reduce dependence on relatives and try to find other solutions to the problem of caring for the child. Consider hiring a professional babysitter or choosing a reliable nursery to ensure that your child is better cared for and loved. Of course, when choosing a nanny or childcare center, it is also necessary to conduct sufficient research and research to ensure that they have good upbringing and professional skills.
Don't rely on relatives to help resolve family disputes and conflicts
Family disputes and conflicts are common, and sometimes we may hope that relatives can help us resolve them. However, in my observations, relying on relatives to resolve family disputes often leads to more problems and conflicts.
First of all, the position and opinion of relatives may not be completely impartial and objective. They may have their own biases and interests and are unable to make impartial judgments and rulings on issues. This can lead to further complications and exacerbation of the problem, and further deepen the conflict.
Second, relying on relatives to resolve family disputes can affect the relationship between relatives. Whether your relatives support you or support each other, the process of solving the problem can hurt the harmony and friendship between relatives. In this case, in addition to the pain caused by the family dispute itself, you may also be at risk of becoming estranged from your relatives.
Therefore, I believe that when family disputes and conflicts arise, we should try our best to seek a more objective and fair way to resolve them. Consider consulting with a relevant professional, such as a lawyer or counsellor, who is able to provide neutral advice and reasonable solutions. At the same time, we should also learn the ability to deal with family disputes, including communication and compromise skills, so that we can better solve problems and maintain family harmony and harmony.
Summary:
After having a baby, when the elderly do not actively participate in the care of the child, we may turn to relatives for help. However, from my personal experience and reflections, I have found that there are two things that are best not to ask relatives for help, because it is easy to be wronged by doing so. First of all, do not expect relatives to be responsible for the day-to-day care of the child, since the conditions and relationships of the relatives may not meet the needs of the child and can lead to unpredictable disputes and contradictions. Secondly, do not rely on relatives to resolve family disputes and conflicts, because the position and views of relatives may not be objective and impartial, and may affect the relationship between relatives. Therefore, we should look for other ways to resolve and learn the ability to deal with family disputes. In this way, we are able to protect ourselves and our children, while maintaining family harmony and stability.