The old people who were born in the 50s and 60s, many people think that more children can be more blessed, daughters can never be trusted, and relying on sons to support the elderly is the most reliable.
At that time, people were proud to have a son, and people like me who only gave birth to a daughter were often rejected by relatives and friends, and said that if they didn't have a son, they would be ruined.
Even my parents looked down on me, and my daughter-in-law never raised her head at her in-laws' house, as if giving birth to a daughter was the original sin.
But decades have passed, and we, who only gave birth to a daughter, have become the object of envy in the eyes of others, and some of those relatives who are proud of their sons are still struggling for life.
My name is Song Guangju and I am 63 years old
As the third child in the family, I had two older sisters and two younger brothers, and it was common to have four or five children in the family in those days.
At that time, the conditions were poor, and it was common to lack clothes and clothing, but parents still chose to have so many children, mainly to have more sons.
Their thinking has always been patriarchal, so much so that later, when my wife was unable to have children due to postpartum hemorrhage, my parents never gave this daughter-in-law a good face.
At that time, my wife often secretly shed tears, and I could only keep persuading, "What's wrong without a son? The girl is not our child? We nurture her well to become a talent, better than anything else." ”
After many times of my relief, my wife also slowly accepted the reality that since her daughter is not treated by her family, then we will hurt ourselves.
In order to prevent my wife and daughter from being looked down upon by their parents, I rarely lead them back to my mother-in-law's house, and even if it is my own parents, I do not allow others to look down on my children.
In my family, the most popular with my parents is my fourth brother, who directly gave birth to a pair of twin sons, and my fourth brother's daughter-in-law is also a mother and son, and my parents look down on me.
Every time I go back to my mother-in-law's house, I sit as a guest, and I don't have to work in the kitchen, and I am often praised by my in-laws, saying that the four of them will enjoy a happy life in the future. And my daughter-in-law is often the one who is thankless and helpful.
Even my daughter is often marginalized by her cousins, everyone is reluctant to share good food with her, and even in the eyes of her grandparents, she is the most unlikable.
In fact, I saw all this, and I just silently swore in my heart that I must be good to my wife and daughter.
In those years, our family was poor, and our husband and wife were reluctant to eat or drink, so the money saved was used to buy food and clothing for our children. even lent money for her to study for a doctorate, and my family members always sneered, "Why do you want to read such a book for a girl? Sooner or later, she will get married, and she will spend extra money to lose money!"
Every time I hear such words, I will unceremoniously reply, "My daughter didn't eat your rice, I will spend money on her, I am willing!"
My relatives were really angry when they saw me, and they slowly stopped saying these cool things in the open, but I knew that they must have said a lot behind my back.
The more others say this about me, the more I have to be good to my daughter, my daughter has also been angry over the years, she was admitted to Shanghai Jiaotong University, studied for graduate school and finally entered the world's top 500 work, and at the same time gained love at work. Now, daughters and sons-in-law can be independent at work, with an annual salary of hundreds of thousands.
My daughter has been delicate since she was a child, and she knows that because she is a daughter, she has made us suffer a lot of white eyes, but in fact, the child knows everything.
Since my daughter joined the work and got married, our old couple had a better life, and my daughter and son-in-law took us to the city and bought an independent building, which was in their community, just to take care of us for convenience.
Daughter, son-in-law will give us 8,000 yuan of pocket money every month, and they are also responsible for the big expenses of the family.
Now I have time to travel around the country, and every time I send a lot of photos to my circle of friends, I actually want to slap those people in the face.
And the ones who give me the most praise are often our brothers and sisters who once looked down on us.
Especially my fourth brother, the two twin sons have not yet been targeted, because they have been pampered since childhood, flying and domineering, resulting in not concentrating on work now, blindly gnawing at the old.
Poor my fourth brother, who is nearly 60 years old, is still moving bricks at the construction site, and people who are not yet 60 years old are like 70-year-old men.
Now, at the New Year's family gatherings, my wife and I are no longer looked down upon, but treated as guests, and many of them want my daughter to arrange a good job for her children, and live most of their lives, suddenly sighing that people can be so fickle.
When I told my daughter about this, she smiled and said, "I won't do anything for people who look down on me, and even if I have the ability, I won't help them." ”
But when I see my brothers and sisters having trouble finding jobs because of their children, I always can't bear it, after all, they are compatriots, and I still have to help if I can.
But the daughter said categorically, "The people who look down on you must have broken up while walking, and some family relationships were also broken while walking." "Let me look away a little bit.
At this time, I felt that my daughter had really grown up, but I still wanted to persuade my daughter to think about it again, after all, it was all in the past, and family affection could never be severed.
But I don't know how to talk to my daughter, you say, should I still persuade my daughter?
Isn't it a bit unkind for my daughter to do this?
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