Zou Wei and Yan Ni's marriage
In 2004, a phone call from the crew completely changed Yan Ni's fate. She trembled with excitement, the director of the movie "Wulin Gaiden" actually asked her to play the role of Lin Yueru! This is Yan Ni's dream opportunity, which can make her famous in the entertainment industry.
She excitedly circled around the house, ready to be the first to tell her husband Zou Wei the good news. Who knew that Zou Wei said the words of breaking up to Yan Ni with a serious face at this time-"Let's end this marriage."
This sentence was like a thunderbolt from the sky, Yan Ni's face turned pale, she couldn't believe her ears, everything in front of her seemed to be replayed in slow motion. With a bang, she fell to her knees, tears welling up in her eyes, and the excitement just now was swept away.
In fact, they have been married for many years, but there have always been disagreements.
In order to pursue her acting career, Yan Ni often goes out to work and is relatively indifferent to her family. And Zou Wei has always persuaded her to stay in Beijing to accompany her family, but Yan Ni insisted on her dream and never listened to advice, which became a sore spot for the two.
In 1998, after Yan Ni gave birth to a daughter, she immediately made a comeback for the sake of her career and handed over her newborn child to her in-laws to raise. Zou Wei was very dissatisfied with her disregarding her family like this, and his long-suppressed anger finally broke out at this time and chose to divorce Yan Ni.
Zou Wei's words were like a thunderbolt from the blue, which caught Yan Ni off guard. She squatted on the ground and cried bitterly, but she was powerless to reverse this seemingly sudden ending. The marriage ended in such a misunderstanding, leaving two broken hearts.
Life after divorce
The end of the marriage had dealt a huge blow to Zou Wei and Yan Ni, and they couldn't bear to tell their parents the news for the time being, for fear that they would be frightened. However, the experienced old man still noticed the clue after all.
Yan Ni's eyes were red, and she finally confided the truth. "We're divorced.
The two honests couldn't accept this reality, and asked Zou Wei to go home many times to apologize to Yan Ni, hoping that they could remarry. But Zou Wei was resolute, and the ship of marriage could not be turned back.
For the sake of their granddaughter, the in-laws still agreed to let their 3-year-old daughter stay with them to raise her. After the divorce, the lives of the two changed dramatically. Yan Ni's career is thriving, her appearance is more charming, and she has successfully reached the peak of her acting career; And Zou Wei started a new single life, and gradually realized that separate development may be the best choice.
The impact of this marriage change on both parents is extremely profound, but Yan Ni has not cut off contact with her in-laws, she often goes home to visit, and she is as filial to her in-laws as ever, and the relationship between the two families has not broken down.
The daughter has become the bond of connection between them and maintains this family bond.
The transformation of the relationship between the two
After experiencing the ups and downs of marriage, the relationship between Zou Wei and Yan Ni has also quietly changed in the precipitation of time. They have changed from loving couples to ordinary friends, and they can no longer see the newlywed Yan'er and sweetness, only a faint friendship remains.
When Zou Wei remarried, Yan Ni did not have the slightest guilt and jealousy, and she sincerely wished Zou Wei to find a close lover and live a happy life. Because she also gradually understood that feelings did not come reluctantly, and since they had come to an end, it was better to bless each other wholeheartedly.
And Zou Wei is also gradually grateful to Yan Nilai, although she is no longer his wife, she still goes home regularly to visit her in-laws and takes care of them carefully, just as at the beginning. This family affection, which transcends the legal relationship, has become the cornerstone of the relationship between the two.
It's been 18 years since the divorce, and they have each found happiness. The vigorous divorce back then, in retrospect, was just an opportunity for their relationship to change, from husband and wife to friends, which made them get along more harmoniously and comfortably.
The tree of affection needs to be watered with time and experience before it can bear fruit.
The story of Zou Wei and Yan Ni inspires us that marriage may be the peak of love, but love should not be bound by legal relationships, and only with a tolerant and kind heart can we become true bosom friends.
The current situation of the two after the divorce
18 years have passed since the divorce, and Zou Wei and Yan Ni have continued to move forward on the emotional road. They are no longer the only ones for each other, but they have both found their own happiness.
Yan Ni was brilliant in her career for a while, but her beauty is still the same. She experienced several periods of pursuit and companionship by her young boyfriend, and tasted the sweetness of love. And Zou Wei has already married someone else's husband and lives a peaceful and comfortable life.
When they decided to divorce, they may regret it to outsiders, but they have no remorse for their lives today. Because marriage requires both parties to operate together, since there is less gathering and more separation, it is better to go their separate ways and find a suitable confidant again.
In the past 18 years, Zou Wei and Yan Ni have maintained appropriate boundaries and lived unrelated lives. But they have not forgotten their families, especially Yan Ni, who still respects her in-laws and maintains this deep family relationship.
The daughter has also grown up to be the pride of the two families. When asked if he regretted his hasty decision, Zou Wei replied indifferently that I now feel satisfied and happy in my life.
Now that we have entered a new chapter, why bother looking back? I am sincerely glad that Yan Ni has found happiness.
Perhaps, according to common sense, they could have grown old together, but in the end they chose to break up peacefully. This also reminds us that marriage is based on feelings after all, and it needs to be taken care of by both parties, and cannot be forced.
The important thing is to live in the present moment and cherish the people in front of you, so that you can live a full life.
The revelation of the story
Although the story of Zou Wei and Yan Ni ended in divorce, it gives us a lot of inspiration worth thinking about.
First, marriage requires both parties to manage it with care. Zou Wei longs for a stable family, while Yan Ni pursues a career, and the two have differences in life values, which leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
We should communicate and listen more with our partner in order to maintain the longevity of our marriage.
Second, a breakup does not mean the end of the relationship. Although Zou Wei and Yan Ni divorced, they did not sever their ties, and their daughter and in-laws became the bond between them and their family relationship. This kind of true affection that transcends legal relations is worth learning from Xi.
Third, choose your own path to happiness. They all found their soulmates in the end. Marriage does not equal happiness, the important thing is to find a life that suits you.
You don't have to force it, you don't have to look back, it's the right choice to live in the moment.
We will all encounter many problems in life, but as long as we have a kind and tolerant heart and maintain hope, we will definitely be able to go through the ups and downs and start a better life again.
Thank you Zou Wei and Yan Ni for giving us these inspirations, and may their path become brighter and brighter.