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Yesterday, my three good sisters, Li Mei, Wang Ping, and Zhang Xiao, got together for dinner and chat. It's been a long time since we've seen each other, and there's a lot of heartfelt things to talk about.
"Meimei, how are you doing?" I asked with a smile.
"It's okay, it's quite stressful at work, but my love life is going well. Li Mei took a sip of tea and said mysteriously.
"Oh, tell us about it, is your boyfriend good to you?" Wang Ping immediately asked.
"He was very nice to me and gave me a golden necklace yesterday, super beautiful!" Li Mei blushed and smiled like a little girl.
All three of them coaxed: "Wow, yes, it seems to be true love!"
"Of course, I think he's about to propose. Li Mei replied shyly.
"Sister Meimei met true love the first time she fell in love, and I was so envious. Zhang Xiao interjected, "Unlike me, the boys I meet are worse than the other." ”
"It's not all bad, I remember that your ex-boyfriend is handsome and has a good family background. I asked.
"What's the use of being handsome, with a very bad temper and a strong desire to control, it's a shadow of love!" Zhang Xiao said dissatisfied.
"Haha, we Xiaoxiao are just too picky and have too high requirements for boys. Wang Ping said with a smile.
"That's because I haven't met true love yet. I feel that feelings must be based on equality and respect, and I cannot tolerate the unreasonable demands of the other party. Zhang Xiao said seriously.
The three of them nodded, and what Zhang Xiao said made sense. I looked at the time and jokingly said, "We seem to be talking a little far, let's go back to Meimei, don't hide it, tell us the story of you and your boyfriend!"
"Well, I'll tell you about our relationship. Li Mei organized the language and began to speak.
"Hearing you say that, you have a very good relationship. Zhang Xiao commented.
"yes, I think I'm really lucky to have met him. Li Mei had a happy expression on her face.
"Haha, judging by your reaction, there must be, right?" Wang Ping asked with a smile.
"Come on, little girl, it's all in this age, it's normal to have some intimacy when you fall in love. I quipped.
"What? You've been in love for a year, and your relationship is so good, how can you refuse?" Zhang Xiao asked in surprise.
"I can understand your concerns, but refusing may make him feel that you don't trust him. I thought to myself.
"yes, that could take a toll on your relationship. Wang Ping nodded.
"Why don't you talk to him about it directly? express your thoughts and listen to his opinions. Zhang Xiao suggested.
"Well, communication is really important. Li Mei thought for a moment, "I can try to talk to him." ”
"Don't be too direct when communicating, be considerate of his feelings. I reminded Li Mei.
"No problem, I'll pay attention to the way. Li Mei said with a smile.
All three of them cheered for Li Mei and expressed their understanding and support for her. I looked at the time and decided to change the subject: "Okay, let's talk about Pingping's recent situation." Did you find the right person?"
"Hehe, I've found my partner, let me introduce you to you!" Wang Ping said happily.
"Wow, so fast!" Zhang Xiao exclaimed.
"It was introduced by a friend of my brother, handsome, stable at work, and most importantly, very person. Wang Ping gushed about her new boyfriend.
"Looks like you like him a lot. I laughed.
"yes, I think he's probably the Prince Charming in my mind. Wang Ping blushed.
"So how far have you got?" Li Mei asked curiously.
"Oh, why are you like this too!" Zhang Xiao said disappointedly, "I thought you would be more open." ”
"It's okay, we all understand. This matter requires complete readiness and willingness on both sides. I comforted Wang Ping and said.
"Well, maybe he's not ready yet. Li Mei said, "Why don't you try to talk to him about this issue as well to see if you have the same ideas." ”
"You're right, I can find a time to talk. Wang Ping nodded.
"Communication is important, but don't put too much pressure on him either. Zhang Xiao reminded Wang Ping.
"I know, I'm going to be measured. Wang Ping said with a smile.
All three cheered for Wang Ping and expressed their support for her choice. Wang Ping looked relieved and seemed grateful for everyone's understanding.
"Then let's talk about Xiaoxiao's recent emotional situation, do you have a favorite object?" I turned to Zhang Xiao and asked.
"There are no new suitors, but my ex-boyfriend still contacts me from time to time, which bothers me. Zhang Xiao said with a frown.
"What? That controlling ex-boyfriend?" Li Mei asked in surprise.
"It's him, who has been pestering me since the breakup, annoying me. Zhang Xiao said dissatisfiedly.
"Does he want to get back together? What are you going to do with it?" Wang Ping asked with concern.
"Who knows what he's thinking. But compounding is impossible, I've made it clear. Zhang Xiao said categorically.
"Wouldn't it be dangerous for him to pester you like this?" I said worriedly, "Do you want to call the police?"
"I have that concern too. It's not to the point where I need to call the police, but I'll always be safe. Zhang Xiao said.
"That's good. If there are any dangers, be sure to tell us. Li Mei held Zhang Xiao's hand and said.
"No problem, don't worry. I've been in this relationship, and I don't easily believe guys' rhetoric. Zhang Xiao said with a smile.
"Well, experience makes us grow. Wang Ping said with emotion.
"yes, we've all learned Xi things along the way. I asked.
"Speaking of which, I have a question for you. Zhang Xiao hesitated for a moment, but still spoke: "If your boyfriend or partner offers to have a relationship, will you agree?"
Li Mei and Wang Ping were both stunned and fell into deep thought.
This is a really difficult question to answer. "I understand the plight girls face, but I also believe that they have the right to make their own choices." ”
"Yes, this should not be forced by either party, the initiative should be in the hands of the girl. Li Mei echoed.
"I feel that the relationship can only be further developed if both parties are completely willing and ready. Wang Ping said.
"I agree with you. Zhang Xiao nodded, "But the reality is often complicated, girls face pressure from their boyfriends and society, and refusing to have a relationship may lead to misunderstandings on the other side." ”
"It's really a dilemma. I said.
"Yes, that's what I'm facing. Li Mei sighed, "I'm worried that the rejection will make him feel that I don't trust him." ”
"But if you're not ready yourself, barely trying to get a good result. Zhang Xiao reminded.
"I understand Meimei's concerns, but I still recommend that you communicate openly with him. I said to Li Mei.
"Well, you're right, I'll try to talk to him about it and express my thoughts. Li Mei nodded.
"Regardless of the outcome, we will support your choice. Wang Ping held Li Mei's hand in support.
"Thank you!" Li Mei said movingly.
"Then if it were you, what would you choose?" Zhang Xiao looked at Wang Ping and asked.
"Your idea is good. In any case, don't go against your will. I said to Wang Ping.
"yes, I see. Wang Ping nodded.
"What will you do if the subject doesn't understand and insists on having a relationship?" Zhang Xiao continued to ask.
"I felt that if I couldn't resolve my differences peacefully, breaking up might be the only option. I said slowly.
"But it might be difficult to do it. Li Mei said.
"yes, it's complicated. Wang Ping sighed.
"You're right, there is always a distance between ideals and reality. I nodded, "But we'll at least stick to our principles." ”
"Well, you're right!" Zhang Xiao agreed.
All three of them were filled with emotion and fell into deep thought. At this point, I looked at the time and proposed, "It's getting late, let's end today's meeting first." This discussion gave us a lot to think about and also allowed us to go further
At this point, I looked at the time and proposed, "It's getting late, let's end today's meeting first." This discussion gave us a lot to think about and a better understanding of each other's ideas. ”
"yes, I've benefited a lot. Li Mei nodded and said, "This chat gave me the courage to communicate with my boyfriend." ”
"Come on, don't hesitate to let us know if you need anything. Wang Ping held Li Mei's hand and said.
"No problem, your support is important to me. Li Mei said gratefully.
"We are all good sisters and will help each other. Zhang Xiao said with a smile.
"By the way, Xiaoxiao, if there is anything new, you must tell us. I said with concern, "It's dangerous for you to face your ex-boyfriend alone." ”
"Got it, I'll be safe, you don't have to worry. Zhang Xiao nodded.
"Then let's get back together another day, and we'll be in touch when we have time!" Wang Ping proposed.
"Okay, next time I'll talk about your progress with your new boyfriend. Li Mei said with a smile.
"Oh, don't laugh at me!" Wang Ping blushed.
We all laughed and agreed to meet again next time.
"Hey, Meimei, how are you talking?" I asked with concern.
"Thank you for your concern. "I spoke frankly to him about this issue and expressed my concerns." ”
"And what about his reaction?"
"He said he could understand my thoughts, wouldn't force me, and would wait until I was fully ready. ”
"Great! It seems that he really loves you and respects you. ”
"yes, I'm lucky. Li Mei's tone was full of happiness.
"Remember, make decisions based on your own wishes. ”
"Got it, I will. Thank you again!"
After talking to Li Mei on the phone, I felt that their relationship was developing in a benign direction, and Li Mei became more confident. This kind of friendship that supports each other is really valuable.
A few days later, Wang Ping called me and shared with me how she communicated with her boyfriend. Wang Ping chose to wait for both parties to be fully ready, and her boyfriend also expressed understanding and respect.
"You've handled it very well! This shows that your previous relationship was on a strong footing. "I am sincerely happy for Wang Ping.
"yes, I'm so lucky. Wang Ping's tone was full of joy.
I believe that through this discussion and communication, they will have a better concept of love and learn to establish peace with their partners
A few days later, Zhang Xiao also called, with anxiety in his tone: "Hello, I'm Xiaoxiao." My ex-boyfriend has been harassing me more and more recently, what should I do?"
I immediately asked with concern, "What did he do, did he threaten your safety?"
"He texted me to meet him and stopped me on my way to work, which scared me. Zhang Xiao said nervously, "I am worried that this kind of harassment will continue or even escalate." ”
"You've done a good job, it's right to just say no to him. I affirmed, "This situation should probably be reported to the police." ”
"You're right, I can't tolerate it any longer. Zhang Xiao said, "I will go to the police for help." ”
"Remember, your safety is paramount. We have your full back. ”
"Thank you, thanks to your support, I have the courage to face this. Zhang Xiao's tone was full of emotion.
I feel sorry for Zhang Xiao, but I also admire her courage. Later, with our encouragement and support, Zhang Xiao decisively called the police to deal with the matter. The police gave her ex-boyfriend a warning and asked him not to harass Zhang Xiao again. It was a difficult process for Zhang Xiao, but she learned to protect herself and no longer tolerate unhealthy relationships.
It also made me reflect on how decisive and wise I should be when faced with similar situations. There are some irreconcilable differences, and ending the relationship may be the best option.
After some more time, the three of them decided to meet again to discuss recent life progress.
"Meimei, are you getting along well with your boyfriend?" I asked with concern.
"Very good! Our relationship has grown. Li Mei's face was full of happiness.
"Great! I wish you all a long life!"
"Thank you, and I wish you the best of luck finding the right partner soon. ”
"Pingping, we're looking forward to hearing about you and your boyfriend. Zhang Xiao said with a smile.
"Well, we've already gone one step further. Wang Ping blushed, "He is a very considerate person." ”
"Wow, congratulations!" We are all happy for Wang Ping.
"Xiaoxiao, your ex-boyfriend didn't harass you anymore, did he?" Li Mei asked with concern.
"No! Calling the police is the right choice. Zhang Xiao said, "I will never tolerate unequal relationships again." ”
"Great! You're really strong. ”
We all applauded Zhang Xiao and decided to continue to support each other and move towards a better future together.