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My name is Lin Xiaodong and I am 50 years old. My life changed dramatically two months ago, when my second wife, Li Hong, filed for divorce from me. The reason is simple, my three grandchildren have moved in with us.
"Xiaodong, I married you to enjoy the world of two with you, not to take care of a large family!" Li Hong's voice was full of resentment.
We sat on the sofa in the living room, and Li Hong's words exploded like a bomb in the quiet room. I touched the teacup in my hand, and the tea was already cold. Outside, the laughter of the grandchildren drifted in through the half-open windows, in stark contrast to Li Hong's anger.
"But they're my grandsons, Red, and I can't leave them alone. "I tried to keep my composure, even though I knew that there was no conflict to be avoided on this topic.
"I knew they were your grandsons, but I didn't expect that I would become a free nanny and cook!" Li Hong's voice grew louder and higher.
I got up and went to the window and watched my three grandchildren playing in the yard. The eldest is called Xiao Ming, who is ten years old this year, and is the child of my eldest son, Xiao Qiang, who is eight years old, is the son of my daughter, and the youngest Xiaobai, who is just five years old, is the child of my second son. Since they moved in, the home has become lively, but it has also brought many unexpected troubles.
That night, the eldest son Lin Hai and his wife Su Lin made a surprise visit. After they sat down, Lin Hai got straight to the point: "Dad, we know the situation of you and Aunt Li. Can we help with something?"
I shook my head and smiled wryly: "Your own life is busy enough, so let me handle it myself." ”
Su Lin looked at me, then at Li Hong, and said softly, "Uncle Lin, if needed, we can take the children out to play on weekends and give you some space." ”
I knew she had good intentions, but I knew in my heart that this kind of thing could not be solved in a space of a day or two.
Li Hong didn't participate in our conversation, she went to the kitchen to get busy. I looked at her back, filled with guilt. Our marriage was supposed to be a comfort in our old age, but I didn't expect it to be the way it is.
The next day, I went to find my second son, Lin Fei, who had been doing business all year round, hoping that he would take Xiaobai away. But Lin Fei's attitude disappointed me: "Dad, my current business has just started, and I really don't have the energy to take care of Xiaobai." Please take care of me for a while longer. ”
Looking at his busy appearance, I knew he wasn't talking about excuses. But in this way, the contradiction between me and Li Hong will only deepen.
When I got home, I found Li Hong chatting with her good friend, Aunt Wang. Aunt Wang is a straightforward person, and when she saw me, she said, "Xiaodong,
"Xiaodong, you have to find a way to solve this matter. Li Hong is not here to be a nanny, you have to talk about it. Aunt Wang's words hit the nail on the head.
I nodded, knowing in my heart that this problem would have to be faced sooner or later. After dinner, I pulled Li Hong to sit down and took a deep breath: "Hong, I know that the current situation is very unfair to you. I think we can find a way to make this home fair to all of us. ”
Li Hong looked at me with a little tiredness in her eyes: "Xiaodong, it's not that I don't like children, but I also need my own space." I really can't stand it like this. ”
"I understand that I will talk to the parents of the children and see if they can share some of the responsibilities. I said, but I didn't know that it would be easy.
On the third day, I once again summoned my eldest son and daughter, as well as my second son, who had spoken on the phone. I said bluntly: "The children's affairs can't all be pressed on me and your Aunt Li. We are not young anymore and need your help. ”
The eldest son, Lin Hai, was silent for a while, and then said, "Dad, I understand. We can take turns taking the kids out on weekends to ease your burden. ”
Daughter Lin Fang also nodded: "Yes, I can also take Xiaoqiang and his cousins to the park, or arrange some activities." ”
I looked at my second son Lin Fei, who was silent on the other end of the phone for a while: "Dad, I'll try to arrange my time." But I'm really busy and probably can't help much. ”
Although the results were not satisfactory, at least some progress has been made. In the evening, I told Li Hong the news, and she seemed a little relieved, but still a little worried.
As the days passed, the children's care was eased, but the atmosphere at home was still tense. Li Hong gradually began to communicate more with the children, but I knew that this did not completely solve the problem.
One weekend, I took the kids to the park and left Li Hong alone at home to rest. In the park, the children were laughing and laughing, and I sat on the bench, looking at their backs, and my heart was mixed.
"Grandpa, what's wrong with you?" Xiao Ming ran over and asked with concern.
I touched his head: "It's okay, grandpa is just a little tired." ”
That night, Li Hong suddenly said to me, "Xiaodong, I think we can try to communicate more with the children and understand them better." Perhaps, this way we can get along better. ”
I looked at her and a glimmer of hope welled up in my heart. Over the next few weeks, we started trying to change. Li Hong and I are more involved in the children's activities and try to understand their world. Slowly, the atmosphere in the house began to change.
However, just when we thought things were starting to get better, an unexpected piece of news shattered the silence. My eldest son Lin Hai and daughter-in-law Su Lin need to go on a long-term business trip to other places because of work
We want to leave Xiao Ming to our care.
Li Hong and I looked at each other, and we could see the worry in each other's eyes. Xiao Ming's stay means that our pressure will increase again. At night, we sat in the bedroom, and Li Hong whispered: "Xiaodong, I know that Xiao Ming is your grandson, and we can't ignore it." But we also need to have our own lives, and we can't live entirely for our children. ”
I nodded, feeling helpless: "I understand, I will talk to them again to see if there is any other solution." ”
The next day, I had a video call with Lin Hai Surin. I tried to remain as calm as I could, voicing our concerns: "Hai, we're willing to help take care of Xiao Ming, but you also have to consider our situation. We also need our own space and time. ”
Lin Hai looked a little hesitant, but finally nodded: "Dad, I understand." We will soon find other ways to ease your burden. ”
After hanging up, I breathed a sigh of relief, but also knew that this was only a temporary solution. Li Hong leaned on my shoulder and whispered, "Xiaodong, no matter what, we have to face it together." ”
In the next few days, Xiao Ming's presence did bring us a lot of fun, but it also added a lot of the burden of care. Li Hong began to try to be friends with Xiao Ming, the two cooked together, watched TV together, and gradually, a special relationship was established between her and Xiao Ming.
One night, I found Li Hong and Xiao Ming reading a book together in the living room, and Xiao Ming leaned next to her and listened to her tell stories. I stood quietly in the doorway, looking at this warm scene, and a warm current welled up in my heart.
But life is always full of uncertainties. A week later, my daughter Lin Fang needed to leave Xiaoqiang in our care for the time being because of a change in work. This is another heavy blow to us.
Li Hong looked at me, her eyes full of helplessness: "Xiaodong, can we really handle it?"
I sighed and touched her hand: "Red, we can only do our best." Children will grow up one day, and what we can do now is to give them as much a warm home as possible. ”
With Xiaoqiang joining, the house becomes more lively, but also more noisy. Li Hong and I tried our best to adapt to this change, even though we felt exhausted at times.
Just when we were trying to adapt to the new life, our second son Lin Fei called and said that his business had improved and he could take Xiaobai back. This is undoubtedly good news for us, but at the same time, it is a bit reluctant.
On the day Xiaobai left, our whole family took him to the station. Xiaobai hugged me and Li Hong tightly, with tears in his eyes: "Grandparents, I will miss you." ”
Watching the car gradually drive away, Li Hong and I held hands, and there was an indescribable feeling in our hearts. When I got home, there was less laughter and laughter at home, but there was a little more tranquility.
This tranquility did not last
Continued for too long. Soon after, the situation of my eldest daughter Lin Fang had a new change, she needed to go abroad for training for half a year because of the adjustment of her work, and Xiaoqiang could only continue to stay with us.
In the face of this series of changes, Li Hong and I both felt a little powerless. One night, as we sat on the balcony and looked at the night sky, Li Hong whispered: "Xiaodong, sometimes I wonder if we all have to spend our old age in such a busy life?"
I held her hand and had the same doubts in my heart: "Red, I don't know either." But what I do know is that I don't want you to suffer because of me. ”
Li Hong leaned on my shoulder: "Xiaodong, in fact, I feel very relieved to have you by my side." We face it together, no matter how difficult it is, we are not afraid. ”
We sat quietly like this, although there was endless exhaustion in our hearts, but we also had each other's support and comfort.
Over time, we have gradually adapted to life with children. Xiao Ming and Xiao Qiang also began to understand our hard work and became more sensible. They will take the initiative to help with household chores, and sometimes they will create some small surprises for us, which brings a lot of joy to our lives.
One day, Lin Hai and Su Lin came back from out of town and were very touched to see that we got along well with the children. Lin Hai said: "Mom and Dad, thank you for your hard work during this time. We decided not to travel anymore and wanted to live with our children. ”
Li Hong and I listened, and our hearts were full of relief. We know that although this time has been hard, our efforts have not been in vain, and the relationship between our families has deepened.
Soon after, Lin Fang also returned from abroad, with infinite gratitude and apologies to us: "Mom and Dad, I'm really sorry for letting you bear so much. ”
"It's okay, Fang, your growth and happiness is our greatest comfort. Li Hong said softly.
With the return of the children's parents, our lives are gradually returning to peace. Li Hong and I started planning activities for both of us, such as traveling, participating in interest groups, and so on. We regained our happy days as a couple.
One day, I proposed, "Red, we can write a book about this experience." Perhaps, our story can provide some inspiration and courage for those who encounter similar difficulties. ”
Li Hong smiled and nodded: "I think it's a good idea." Our experience is truly worth sharing. ”
So, we started writing. We chronicle this extraordinary journey, our joys, pains, challenges, and growth. The process of writing made us revisit the experience and deepened our feelings.
On the day our book was completed, Li Hong and I looked at each other and smiled, knowing that this was not only the completion of a book, but also the beginning of a new chapter in our lives. We sat at our desks, holding hands, our hearts filled with anticipation and hope for the future.
Since then, our birth
Life has begun to take on a new twist. After the release of our book, it unexpectedly received a lot of attention. Some are people facing similar difficulties who find empathy and strength in our stories, while others are readers interested in family relationships and old age who are amazed and honored by our experiences.
At a readers' meeting, a middle-aged woman stepped forward with tears in her eyes: "Mr. Lin and Ms. Li, your story has given me a lot of courage. I also lost myself in taking care of my grandchildren, but after reading your books, I understand that even in the midst of family responsibilities, you can find your own happiness. ”
Hearing this, Li Hong and I were very pleased. Our experiences, if they have a positive impact on others, are more satisfying than anything else.
As time passed, our lives gradually returned to peace. The kids occasionally come to stay at home, but most of the time, Li Hong and I can enjoy the world together. We began to fulfill our previous plans, traveling, participating in interest groups, and even starting to learn to draw and Xi photography, these new hobbies brought new colors to our lives.
One day, Li Hong and I were sitting on the beach by the sea, watching the sunset slowly sink, and I said with emotion: "Hong, do you think our experience is just like the sunset, although there is the sadness of the sunset, but there is also the beauty of the afterglow?"
Li Hong leaned on my shoulder and said gently, "Yes, Xiaodong." Our experience is like a sunset, there are moments of set, but there are also moments of brilliance. Most importantly, we've walked it together. ”
This went on for a while, until one day, our eldest son, Lin Hai, came up with an idea: "Mom and Dad, we want to make a documentary about the family story and record the life and challenges of our generation." What do you think?"
Li Hong and I glanced at each other and saw the excitement in each other's eyes. "That's a great idea!" we said in unison.
Over the next few months, we worked with the children to look back on the past, interviewing, shooting, and editing. This process not only allowed us to relive many precious memories, but also gave us a deeper understanding of the meaning of family and the value of life.
When the documentary was finished and premiered at a family gathering, everyone was deeply moved. Watching the images circulating on the screen, listening to our laughter and conversations coming from the background music, everyone's eyes glistened with tears.
After the release of the documentary, it has received wide attention from all walks of life. Through this documentary, many people have seen the resilience and love of ordinary families in the face of life's challenges. We have received countless letters of thanks and blessings, which have made us deeply feel how valuable everything we do.
That's all life is
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