Why are people not treated well by their children when they are old, do you know what's going on? Take a seat to see if you're like this? I don't know if you've noticed that there is an abnormal phenomenon now. It is why more and more old people are not treated by their children, this is a phenomenon that should not exist for thousands of years, as the saying goes, children do not dislike ugly dogs and do not dislike poverty, but now why are people old and children are not willing to approach? Even some people's parents are sick and find all kinds of reasons not to visit, I really don't know whether the society has changed, or people have become old and bad, today we will talk about this topic, filial piety is the traditional virtue of our Chinese nation, but now there are many families have become very deformed, parents work hard to raise their children, but when they are old, they have to look at their children's faces and act, do things only in front of their children, and when they are old, they become children, and children will blame their parents at every turn.
It is not that these people are not filial or abuse the elderly, but that there is a kind of impatience in the tone of their speech, and this abnormal phenomenon is also worth pondering for each of us? Is this a kind of generation gap between the times? Now that society is developing too fast, young people's lifestyles and ways of thinking are very different from those of the previous generation? Many old people can't keep up with the rhythm at all, and they will naturally use their thinking patterns to preach to young people, so young people will become more and more alienated from the elderly, mainly in the following three aspects, look at how many of you account for in front of the screen?
First, some of the elderly at home is to say the same, strong very, the big and small things in the family are all hands-on, even the privacy of the children she has to break the casserole to ask in the end, do not know how to respect children, each adult is an independent individual, has their own standards for judging things, parents can listen but do not interfere, and even some have a family, parents also have to meddle in the family affairs of the young couple, so that they can live according to their own lifestyle,
Young people want to sleep lazily after a day off, do you want them to get up and eat breakfast in the morning, they don't clean up the house, you go and help them clean up, and they keep nagging, young people like to eat takeout, do you say that they waste and won't live? Do you think you manage too much, and there will be no conflict between their husband and wife for a long time? How many families have broken down their marriages because of excessive intervention by their parents? Therefore, as an old man, you should let go when you should let go, and let young people experience life by themselves.
The second is a patriarchal family, such a family, often the more doting the parents of the child the more old can not be counted on, the child who grows up in doting, always self-centered, will not take into account the feelings of others at all, because he has developed a selfish personality since childhood, this kind of person often does not know how to be grateful, let alone filial piety to parents. Especially in families with many children in our generation, the preference for sons is the most serious.
Especially after the old man is sick, the daughter who is busy serving the most is the son, and the son also has to serve, but there are very few, I mean the family with many brothers and sisters in the family, the father will not move when he is sick and can not take care of himself is the daughter who serves more, saying that the girl takes care of the thoughtfulness, the mother is sick and can not take care of herself, and the daughter serves more, the son will say that he is inconvenient for the man, but it is the son's in the family property, and it is the daughter's business to serve the parents, how unfair. These realities do exist, but many elderly people do not think so, and some children pay more at home, but their parents do not approve, but those who do not come to visit a few times a year are the most liked by their parents.
The third is that many old people are very stubborn, everything likes to raise the bar with others, their own ideas are particularly right, no one can say what they want to do, eight cows can't pull back, my downstairs Sister Li said that her mother, every day to hide from them to buy health care supplies, you ask him he said that it is free of charge, does not cost money, but also can cure all diseases, a call to listen to the class, the words of the people are convinced, the family persuaded many times is not to listen, sometimes the drug back does not even have instructions, some are simple packaging, at first glance are not formal goods, but his mother is convinced,
I still have to give Sister Li to let her eat with her, saying that there is no disease prevention, Sister Li doesn't want him to be angry, but Sister Li took it back and threw it away, do you dare to eat, his mother's salary was spent on health care products, his mother died last year, and when sorting out the old man's belongings, he found that there were many things that had not even been unpacked, there were health care clothes and pants, massagers, and medicine pillows, etc., you said that sometimes there is no way to take such an old man. But for our generation, we should learn from the experience of the previous generation, take its essence and remove its dross, first of all, we must keep up with the changes of the times, accept more new things, and reduce the generation gap in communication with young people. Look at things from the other person's point of view. To be a well-liked old man, what do readers and friends think about the fact that the elderly are not welcome now? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area.