Mom and daughter-in-law fell into the river at the same time, who to save first? The ancients had already given the answer!

Love is a beautiful thing, and in the process of getting along with men and women, women always ask some strange questions. These questions plague men all the time. Especially this ultimate question: I fell into the river with your mother, who do you save first?

The difficulty of this question

This question is actually really difficult to answer because it involves a lot of things.

Thinking about it at a deeper level, in fact, this question is a question of who to love more.

Thinking about it further, the answer she wanted must be to love her more.

But if you answer it directly, it seems that you have fallen into the trap of this question again.

There are a few pitfalls:

If you hesitate, it means that your love is not firm, and if you do not hesitate, it means that you are very sloppy, and then it rises to personal personality problems.

If you answer that you save your mother, it may mean that you don't love her, and if you answer that you save her, it may not mean that you love her, and then it rises to the question of personal conduct.

So there is no answer to this question?

In fact, the answer has been given in ancient Chinese and Western books.

China's answer.

"The Seventeenth Year of Zuo Chuan, Huan Gong, Huan Gong" records such a story:

Sacrifice Zhongzhuan, Zheng Bo suffered, and made his son-in-law Yong kill him. will enjoy the suburbs. Yongji knew it, and said that his mother said: "Who is the father and the husband?" and his mother said: "The husband is also the husband, and the father is only one, and Hu Kebi is also?" and then told the priest Zhong and said: "The Yong family will give up his room and enjoy the son in the suburbs. Sacrifice Zhong to kill Yongjiao, and the corpse of the Zhou family. The public said, "If you seek to reach a woman, it is better for her to die." 」

Translation:

Sacrificial Zhong's dictatorship, Zheng Ligong regarded him as a great trouble, so he secretly instructed Saizhong's son-in-law Yongjie to kill him. Yongjie prepared to feast on the outskirts of the festival, and then started. However, he told his wife, Yongji, the daughter of Sai Zhong, about this. Yong Ji asked her mother, "Who is closer to your father or her husband?" Her mother said, "Any man can be your husband, but you have only one father, how can you be compared?" So Yong Ji told her father, "Yong is not at his house but is entertaining you in the suburbs, I suspect that something is wrong with this, so I tell you to be careful." When Sai Zhong found out, he killed Yongjie and threw the body by Zhou's pond. Zheng Li took Yongjie's body in a public car and fled from Zheng Guo, saying: "Discuss the big things with the women, and they deserve to die." ”

The story doesn't tell the answer to this question straightforwardly. But it was reflected on another level, when Yong Ji knew that her husband was going to kill her father, she asked her mother who was more important, husband and father, and her mother's answer was: "Everyone can be your husband, and there is only one father." ”

In fact, this answer answers the question raised in this article, that is, there is only one mother, and everyone can be your wife.

However, this answer is not satisfactory because there is a logical paradox. That is, for Yongji, Sai Zhong is her father, but for her mother, Sai Zhong is her husband, so according to her logic, isn't her husband unimportant?

This story made a group of people fall into thinking, and a group of people fell into the whirlpool of ethics.

Husband and father, should they be closer?

Husband or son-in-law, who is closer?

Father-in-law or monarch, who is closer?

The answer of the West.

The Bible is the most amazing book in the world, and it has had a great influence on Western civilization.

In the book of Genesis, it is mentioned that God created the woman from the ribs of a man. Genesis 2:24 also says, "A man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." Ephesians 5:28: In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies, and to love their wives is to love themselves. Eph. 5:33 - But every one of you ought to love his wife as himself, and let her honor her husband.

Then the problem arises, women are part of a man's body, and a man should love his wife as he loves his body. Therefore, men must love their bodies.

And where does the man's body come from? The answer is from the parents, from the mother, and the mother conceived in October and gave birth to the man, so the man's body is part of the mother.

Since men should love their bodies, and men's bodies are part of their mothers, men should also love their mothers.

To sum up: the woman is a part of the man (the destined lover), and the man is in turn part of the mother's body. God also admonishes us to love our bodies.

But the Bible also says that we are to leave our parents and become one with our wives. Other words. Men and women together are a complete individual. That is, my daughter-in-law and I are one person, and our parents are another person, but we come from our parents. We may not repay ourselves, but we must repay our parents for their kindness. As for the woman, we are one in ourselves, so what is the separation of one another?

For example, men and women are both human beings, but they think differently, and some women, although they are women, have the thinking of men, and vice versa. The same contains the difference, and the difference contains the same.

The cultures of the East and the West are different, but they are similar. Eastern and Western cultures, like men and women, are only when they are combined to become a complete culture.

We should not be pretentious or resist Western culture, but should adopt a scientific attitude to eliminate the false and retain the true, to extract the essence from the rough, and to apply what we have learned, so as to ultimately promote the development of the entire human civilization.

Back to the original question:

It is love for the mother, and love for the wife. The same is love, but the difference is that the nature of love is different. One is family affection, and the other is love.

Why should a woman compare a man's love for his mother with his love for herself? If she must give an answer, according to the above analysis, family affection is independent, while love is one.