What kind of people are the most annoying in life?
I think it should not be those who don't know anything, but those who know half of it in heaven and everything on earth.
What do you know, what you say is the truth, and make people believe it, this is going to harm others.
The philosopher Socrates said, "The only thing I know is that I know nothing." ”
It is true that a large part of the philosopher's "ignorance" is feigned, in order to show his humility, to be quiet, to treat others with respect, and to avoid too many words and misfortunes.
Top smart people always have the quality of "pretending".
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Dew, is a stupid act.
People are in good spirits when they are happy, and they always want to show their hands so that everyone can see them.
Xiang Yu at the end of the Qin Dynasty was invincible and soon became the overlord at that time.
He said to the people around him: "Wealth does not return to the hometown, just like a brocade at night." ”
Yes, he used to be in his hometown, he was an unknown poor boy, and now he is an overlord, and he wants to go to his hometown to show off. The people around you look at yourself with admiration, this is endless glory.
At the Hongmen banquet, Xiang Yu's subordinates decided to get rid of their biggest competitor Liu Bang.
But Xiang Yu put on a high-minded look, and Liu Bang quickly gained insight into the abnormal situation.
Liu Bang said weakly: "I didn't expect to be able to enter Guanzhong. You listened to what the villain said, causing us to have a misunderstanding. ”
Xiang Yu saw Liu Bang showing weakness, and he was even more proud: "That's what Cao Wuxian said, otherwise how could I be angry." ”
Later, Liu Bang won and established the Western Han Dynasty. From the analysis of the confrontation between Liu Bang and Xiang Yu, Liu Bang is pretending to be a pig and eating a tiger, Xiang Yu is a loss when the moon is full, and overflowing when the water is full.
As a big man, he can move out of his own power at any time and deter others, but he is actually exposing everything about himself, but instead letting the other party "know himself and know that he will win all battles".
Of course, in real life, we are mostly small people, and there is not much to reveal. It's just that some people can't help but brag about themselves, and say that they don't have it.
Yuan Mei, a writer in the Qing Dynasty, spent a lot of money to build a Sui Garden, and also hung a couplet: There are lofty mountains and mountains, lush forests and bamboos in this place;
The three tombs, five classics, eight ropes and nine mounds represent ancient books: "Three Tombs", "Five Classics", "Eight Suo" and "Nine Mounds".
There is a local genius Zhao Yi, after seeing the couplet, he walked into Suiyuan, opened his mouth to borrow books, and specified "Three Graves" and "Five Classics".
Yuan Mei stayed awkwardly aside, because these books had long been extinct, and Confucius might not have read them. Next, he withdrew the couplet and apologized.
In fact, whether you show your wisdom, ambition, force, money, the true feelings of your husband and wife, the ugliness of your family, your children's work, etc., you will bring trouble to yourself.
The ancients gave us advice: "It is better to pick tea from the deep mountains than to drink the wine of Flower Street." ”
The more capable a person is, the more he should yearn for the mountains, instead of showing off on the streets, let alone drinking any flower wine, so that everyone can applaud themselves and cast envious eyes.
Come to think of it, what you reveal will only arouse other people's jealousy, hatred, and calculation, and let people see everything about you clearly, so that they can accurately hit you, and they are all clever and mistaken by cleverness.
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It is a kind of great wisdom.
Bacon wrote in his Treatise on Life: "Talents that are flaunted on the outside are admirable, but those that are hidden bring good fortune." ”
Hide your intelligence from others so that you can better protect yourself.
And the best way to hide it is to learn to "pretend".
When a man is rich, he pretends to be poor.
You have money, or are making a fortune, and you have a good path. Don't shout everywhere and don't spend too much money, but dress modestly and continue to live "the same life as before."
And don't buy any rich furniture, but wear gold and silver. You can even complain to the people around you that you haven't made any money lately.
Especially when you get together with relatives and friends, you talk about your difficulties, and when you talk about money, just deal with a few words. Hospitality should also be simple, don't look generous, and move out all kinds of fine clothes and food.
Everyone knows that you are not easy, you don't have any money, you will mock a few words, it doesn't matter, and you avoid the trouble of borrowing money and calculating.
When people are strong, they pretend to be weak.
You have the strength, don't show it.
Let's say you go to the gym and you're covered in muscles, but you have to get dressed and don't be on the street, shirtless, it's too ugly.
People are in high positions, don't bully others. Avoid when you go downhill, meet someone again, cause embarrassment, and be spat on.
A strong person should be a waiter and maintain the humility he deserves. Smile and bow your head, you will make yourself stronger.
When people are at the bottom, they bind books.
Zhong Xuan, a great calligrapher in the Wei and Jin dynasties, repeatedly practiced Xi calligraphy when he was not famous, and practiced Xi on the quilt with his fingers, resulting in holes in the quilt.
Before he died, he said to his children: "The reason why I can succeed is not because I read the words of celebrities, but because I pay more than others." ”
Yes, when people go to high places, they must pretend to be wise and improve their cognition. Never follow the crowd and learn a little bit of fur kung fu.
If you load books all your life, you will be a step higher, and you will feel stupid and not learn enough.
When people are in a crowd, they pretend to be stupid.
You definitely want to socialize, but you don't want to "stand out from the crowd", but be an obscure person. The key is to be stupid.
It doesn't matter if you say the wrong thing, everyone knows that you are stupid and don't care.
Sometimes, you pretend to be confused, but you can make yourself move in and out freely. Especially when it comes to leaving early, if you keep quiet, people won't notice you too much.
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Pretending is still a kind of big pattern, putting everything in the world in your arms, and then you find that no matter how smart you are, you are just a speck of dust.
The reason why great wisdom is respected by countless people is because the wisdom in it is endless.
The ancients said: "It is better to be shrewd than kind, and it is better to be cunning than to be honest." ”
To be a man, stupid, quiet, simple, not to be eye-catching anywhere, but to be able to grow freely.
The heart is like the sea, there is tolerance is great, people are like the earth, and virtue is loaded.
Whether life is happy or not is your own perception, and outsiders can't empathize, so you don't want to tell others everything.
It should be pretended, there is no success or failure, it is just self-satisfaction.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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