Behind every successful man, there is a woman who pays silently, Yao Ming can become the pride of Chinese basketball, his mother Fang Fengdi, the former captain of the Chinese women's basketball team, is not only a good player who dares to fight on the court, but also a good mother who is good at educating her children, a CEO with excellent vision, and a good mother-in-law who is sensible.
Hello everyone, I'm Kong Yiji, who doesn't like to steal books, and today let's walk into the story of former women's basketball captain Fang Fengdi!
01 Organization: Let's fall in love
Fang Fengdi was born in 1949, and at the age of 15, she was selected to enter the Shanghai Jing'an District Youth Sports School because of her outstanding height, and officially started the road of basketball, and was selected to play in the Shanghai Women's Basketball Youth Team after graduation.
Although Fang Fengdi's height has reached 1.88 meters, her physical fitness is not as good as that of other players, so she has been training very hard, when she first started practicing, the court was still muddy, and after a day of practice, her whole body was mud, and her shoes were sandy.
Hard work is a fine tradition left by the older generation, no matter how difficult the conditions are, they will never give up easily, have the courage to move forward, and work hard, and Fang Fengdi also relied on her own efforts to successfully enter the national team in 1972, and quickly became the captain of the national team.
In 1974, Fang Fengdi led the Chinese women's basketball team to participate in the Asian Games for the first time as the captain and led the team to third place.
In 1976, in order to achieve good results in the Asian Championships, Fang Fengdi took the Chinese women's basketball team to Japan to play a warm-up match, Japan is the runner-up of the World Championships, strong, the Chinese women's basketball team 6 games are fiascos, losing an average of 27 points per game, during the game, Fang Fengdi was injured by a teammate by mistake in the knee, at that time only through acupuncture, massage, medicine and wine and other ways to relieve, and then endure the pain to continue to participate in the game, and this has also become an old injury, only to find out that it is a torn meniscus when examined 33 years later.
After returning to China, Fang Fengdi continued to train with injuries, and led the Chinese women's basketball team to a beautiful turnaround battle at the 1976 Hong Kong Asian Championships, defeating Japan and South Korea one after another, and winning the first Asian championship of the Chinese women's basketball team with a complete victory.
Because of the difficult conditions at that time, Fang Fengdi could not get timely treatment many times, accumulating an injury, when it was learned that China would not participate in the 1980 Moscow Olympics, Fang Fengdi and other veterans chose to retire.
After retiring, Fang Fengdi was assigned to work at the Shanghai Sports Research Institute, after work, the organization was very concerned about Fang Fengdi's personal affairs, and the organization introduced her to Yao Zhiyuan, who worked in the Maritime Safety Bureau.
Yao Zhiyuan was the main center of the Shanghai men's basketball team, with a height of 2.08 meters, after he retired, the organization arranged for him to go to the port to be responsible for ship inspection, mainly responsible for seeing if there was any smuggling entrainment, the leader said to him: You are tall, it is easy to check, others have to climb the ladder, you don't have to, you can see it when you stand there!
At that time, the most popular thing was to introduce the object, and the organization brought Yao Zhiyuan to Fang Fengdi: "Introduce to you, Comrade Dafang, this is Comrade Yao, you two should fall in love." ”
Although Fang Fengdi is 3 years older than Yao Zhiyuan, the two of them are at least suitable for Gao He's personality, and the organizational leaders believe that between husband and wife, it is best to complement each other's personalities, if the temper is hard, there must be endless trouble at home, a tough man has to be matched with a gentle woman, and if you want to be generous, you have to be gentle.
Fang Fengdi is tough when she plays in the national team, she is very assertive in what she does, or she can't be the captain, and Yao Zhiyuan is a bit of a "water snake waist", he likes to be a good man, he laughs when he sees everyone, and he is responsible for implementing the orders by himself, so after Fang Fengdi and Yao Zhiyuan got married, they have always been Qin Se and Ming, and they are very affectionate.
02 gave birth to a big fat boy
On September 12, 1980, Fang Fengdi, who was pregnant for ten months, was put into the delivery room at five or six o'clock in the morning, but she was still born at five or six o'clock in the afternoon.
Yao Zhiyuan, on the other hand, was pacing back and forth in the corridor outside the birth, rubbing his hands from time to time, and said vigorously: "This is not yet alive, I am dying!" When I saw a doctor and nurse, I asked: "Haven't you given birth yet?"
The reason why Yao Zhiyuan was so anxious was that he was worried that Fang Fengdi would have a difficult birth, and the other reason was because he was going to participate in the finals of the Nine Cities Games that night (he was recalled after retiring).
At more than six o'clock, someone from the team called Yao Zhiyuan to warm up, Yao Zhiyuan said very anxiously: "Ouch, my daughter-in-law hasn't given birth yet!"
"That's not possible, the game is the most important thing. As a veteran player, you have to think about the interests of the organization first, and you have to go. ”
Although Yao Zhiyuan is very worried about his daughter-in-law, he also knows that he is the main center, if he does not play, then Shanghai will definitely miss the championship.
Although his daughter-in-law was giving birth, Yao Zhiyuan did well that night and helped the team win the championship.
After awarding the award, Yao Zhiyuan walked down from the podium with the gold medal, and suddenly a teaching assistant came over and patted him on the shoulder and said, "Da Yao, your daughter-in-law has given birth, it is a son, and the mother and son are safe!"
As soon as Yao Zhiyuan heard this, he didn't care what the leader didn't lead anymore, so he immediately ran to the hospital without greeting him.
When he arrived at the hospital, Yao Zhiyuan first looked at Fang Fengdi, and then took his son from the nurse, saw why it was so big, and then weighed it, weighing as much as 10.2 pounds, and then Yao Zhiyuan finally knew why he had to give birth for more than ten hours.
Fang Fengdi was already injured, and she gave birth to Yao Ming and experienced unbearable pain for ordinary people, so after giving birth to a child, she had no milk, so she could only give Yao Ming milk, but at that time, she had to buy a ticket for everything, Yao Ming could only drink it, and the milk ticket at home could only be eaten for half a year, which made Fang Fengdi anxious, Yao Ming had no milk to drink, what could be done?
However, there is a Taoist concept that still makes sense - children bring their own rations, when Fang Fengdi and Yao Zhiyuan were at a loss, Yao Zhiyuan suddenly met a friend who worked in a milk factory, he heard that there was a child in Yao's family who had no milk to eat, so he promised to give him a two-year milk card, which allowed Yao Ming to have milk to drink in the next few years.
Fang Fengdi has attached great importance to Yao Ming's education since she was a child, she didn't want Yao Ming to play at first, but hoped that he would study hard, go to college in the future, and find an easier job, of course, she never forced Yao Ming to do anything, she would give him the right to choose.
Fang Fengdi has been strict and strict with Yao Ming since he was a child, although he is not required to do everything well, but he must be required to do his best in everything he does, and he can't give up easily, under Fang Fengdi's request, Yao Ming has become an obedient, humble and polite child since he was a child, no matter what others give, he must ask his mother before eating, even if someone else beats him, he does not fight back or scold, but takes the initiative to find the other party's parents and say: Uncle, XX beat me again!
When Yao Ming was nine years old, Yao Ming had acute nephritis, and after being cured, Fang Fengdi found that Yao Ming's left ear hearing was basically lost, so she took him around to seek medical treatment, but there was no result, and finally the doctor said: Kidney and ear communication, this may be a sequelae, there is no rule of law, maybe it will be good to grow up in the future!
Yao Ming showed extraordinary height when he was in kindergarten, so he was approached by many basketball people, but Fang Fengdi always insisted on not letting go, and did not send Yao Ming to school, but only occasionally took him to play ball and cultivate some interest for him.
But when Yao Ming was 14 years old, his height had broken through two meters, and there were signs of climbing, industry insiders realized that this was a good seedling of a center, Li Qiuping and Chen Dechun came to Fang Fengdi many times for this reason, but Fang Fengdi felt that Yao Ming's physical fitness and physique were relatively poor, Yao Ming was "narrow shoulders and wide buttocks", "long body and short arms", "basic loss of hearing in the left ear" at that time...... Under various conditions, Fang Fengdi was afraid that her son would have no future when he played.
But seeing Yao Ming's height getting taller and taller, Fang Fengdi also fell into contemplation, and finally gave Yao Ming the right to choose and gave him a chance to play basketball.
03 CEO of Team Yao
In 1994, at the age of 14, Yao Ming officially joined the Shanghai Youth Team and began his basketball life.
Since then, Fang Fengdi, who has never deliberately guided Yao Ming to contact basketball, began to deliberately guide Yao Ming to approach basketball, as long as Yao Ming goes home on the weekend, they will forcibly escort Yao Ming to watch NBA games, so that he can learn Xi tactics and understand skills, maybe it is his own agreement in the dark, the first game Yao Ming watched was the game between the Houston Rockets and the New York Knicks.
Under Fang Fengdi's intentional training, Yao Ming gradually developed the Xi of watching NBA games, at that time many games were played in the middle of the night, but no matter how late, Yao Ming had to watch it before going to sleep, at first, Yao Ming did not discuss basketball with Fang Fengdi and his wife, but gradually, Yao Ming began to study himself, and constantly asked his parents questions, and his basketball understanding ability rose rapidly.
Since Yao Ming officially embarked on the career path, Fang Fengdi's role began to change, she almost single-handedly took care of Yao Ming's big and small affairs in life, never let Yao Ming do housework, and helped him arrange everything, just to let Yao Ming play without distractions.
Because he has been carefully studying the NBA game, and his parents have taught him to solve his doubts, Yao Mingzai's basketball career has been smooth, and he was promoted to the Shanghai men's basketball team shortly after entering the youth team, and helped the team play from the second division to the first division, becoming the top center in the domestic basketball world, and he can be compared with Wang Zhizhi, Battle and other old-timers who are a few years older than him.
In 2000, Yao Ming won the favor of the national team, and Wang Zhizhi and Battle formed three center combinations to participate in the Sydney Olympics together.
Because of his outstanding performance in the Sydney Olympics, Yao Ming began to receive widespread attention from domestic and foreign scouts, especially after the peak showdown with Wang Zhizhi in 2001, Yao Ming's exposure continued to increase, and he attracted the attention of many NBA teams.
As Yao Ming's market value climbed, a Chinese-American in Shanghai named Zhang Mingji found Fang Fengdi and proposed to Fang Fengdi to form a "Yao Team", with a professional team responsible for Yao Ming's packaging and promotion, and Zhang Mingji also served as Yao Ming's agent.
At that time, there was no professional agent team in China, and the Basketball Association did not have an agent exam, but Fang Fengdi showed her excellent vision and immediately nodded and agreed, Zhang Mingji was responsible for forming the team and was responsible for the main work, and she personally supervised the work, the purpose was to let Yao Ming play without distractions.
It can be said that without Fang Fengdi's decision, Yao Ming may not be elected as the NBA champion in 2002, and his career may not be smoother than Wang Zhizhi.
In addition, Yao Ming's going abroad was not smooth back then, and it was Fang Fengdi who mediated and agreed to the commercial commission plan proposed by the Basketball Association, which prompted Yao Ming to play in the NBA, otherwise, Yao Ming might really retire.
Yao Ming officially went to the NBA, Fang Fengdi took the old man to follow the past to take care of Yao Ming's life, although Yao Ming earned hundreds of millions of yuan in just one year, but Fang Fengdi never insisted on not hiring a nanny, and personally cooked for Yao Ming, two meals a day, four meat and two vegetables per meal, and a soup, and he had to be busy in the kitchen for 5 or 6 hours a day.
Fang Fengdi and Yao Zhiyuan will go to watch every game of Yao Ming, and the Rockets have also provided them with free VIP seats at home, and the couple have been cheering Yao Ming on
Fang and Yao Zhiyuan were in their 50s when they arrived in the United States, but for Yao's sake, they immediately applied for a driver's license and English training classes, and to this day, Fang Fengdi remembers that the cost of the driver's license test was $24 per person.
In addition to taking care of Yao Ming's daily life, Fang Fengdi also became the CEO of "Yao Zhi's team", personally managing Yao Ming's hundreds of millions of assets, when playing, Yao Ming never cared about money, and he didn't even know how much money he had, he said: "Those are not things I have to worry about, I mean, now." ”
It can be said that under the leadership of Fang Fengdi, the "Yao Team" has almost solved all the troubles outside Yao Ming's court, so that he doesn't have to worry about anything except playing, of course, except for finding a wife.
04 A sensible mother-in-law
Fang Fengdi and Yao Zhiyuan were not easy to find a partner because of their height, so what they were most worried about was Yao Ming's marriage problem, but they matured emotionally very early, and fell in love with Ye Li of the women's basketball team as early as 1997, and began a crazy chase.
, Ye Li's height has reached 1.9 meters, and she is a Shanghainese and a member of the women's basketball team, so Fang Fengdi is still very optimistic about this daughter-in-law, anyway, compared to Lauren Jackson, American stars and the like, Fang Fengdi prefers Ye Li.
In 2005, Ye Li went to the United States for the first time to visit Yao Ming, and lived in Yao Ming's house, Fang Fengdi did not allow the two to chat behind closed doors, and asked Ye Li to return to the guest room to rest at ten o'clock, because it was too late and inconvenient.
The reason why Fang Fengdi did this was because she didn't want her son's excellent genes to be passed on easily, and she didn't want to cause any trouble with getting pregnant out of wedlock, because it would affect Yao Ming's reputation, so she has always protected Yao Ming.
Of course, this does not mean that Fang Fengdi does not like Ye Li, in 2005, when Ye Li suffered from injuries, Fang Fengdi urged Yao Ming to let Ye Li retire and get married quickly, because she knew that women's basketball players have to suffer far more than men's basketball players.
Before getting married, Fang Fengdi arranged almost everything for Yao Ming, Yao Ming almost "opened his mouth for food, stretched out his hand for clothes", listened to his mother for everything, and even during the honeymoon trip, Yao Ming's whereabouts were always under his mother's control, and he could receive a call from his mother at every stop and accept his mother's arrangement.
This made Ye Li, who had been self-reliant since childhood, feel very uncomfortable, and she thought that Yao Ming should re-cultivate the ability of "self-reliance", so she encouraged him to turn off his mobile phone and learn to take care of himself, and also encouraged her to do housework and clean up her own things.
After Yao Ming and Ye Li went home, Fang Fengdi found that her son actually started to do housework, seeing it in her eyes and hurting in her heart, she was angry and began to complain that Ye Li was not a qualified daughter-in-law, how could she let her son do things other than playing, but seeing that Yao Ming's game status was not affected, and people became energetic, Fang Fengdi realized that Ye Li was right again, and took the initiative to apologize to Ye Li.
Although Fang Fengdi is a financial expert, Yao Ming's billions of assets can also be taken care of in an orderly manner, but as long as it is what Yao Ming wants, she never asks the price and spends money lavishly, but Ye Li has been frugal since she was a child, she has to shop around for everything, bargain everywhere, and even sometimes take her mother-in-law on foot when she goes out, Fang Fengdi was a little uncomfortable at first: Yezi, don't be too thrifty, our family still has money for a car.
Slowly, Fang Fengdi was influenced by Ye Li, and began to make careful calculations, asking which supermarket was cheaper to buy groceries or something, and her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were often very happy to save more than a dozen dollars.
In 2008, Yao Ming suffered a knee injury, after the examination, the doctor told Fang Fengdi and Ye Li that they had to choose between season reimbursement and absence from the Beijing Olympics, which was a very painful choice, Fang Fengdi knew that this choice was painful, did not want to make Yao Ming sad, Xi to the big bag she decided to help Yao Ming make a choice, so the first time to warn Ye Li, do not tell Yao Ming about the injury.
But Ye Li didn't listen to Fang Fengdi, and when she got home, she told Yao Ming what the doctor said, and between giving up millions of dollars and participating in the Beijing Olympics, Yao Ming was unable to choose, so anxious that he beat his chest and cried.
After Fang Fengdi heard Yao Ming's cry, she immediately rushed over, pushed Ye Li away, and ran back to the room angrily.
After appeasing Yao Ming, Ye Li came over and said: Mom, I told Yao Ming the truth, there is a reason, the Beijing Olympics is his life and his foundation, Yao Ming is not a child anymore, he should bear his own responsibility, Mom, you can't be the master for the rest of your life.
Fang Fengdi listened to Ye Li's words, she was deeply touched, and realized that she couldn't always help Yao Ming make choices, after all, she couldn't accompany Yao Ming for a lifetime, she finally understood Ye Li's hard work, and shed tears of relief: "Ye Zi, you are a child who knows the general situation, I am really relieved to hand over Yao Ming to you." ”
Since then, Fang Fengdi has gradually handed over the affairs of the family to Ye Li to take care of, and no longer cares about business matters, leaving them all to Yao Ming and Ye Li to decide, from a hostess who takes care of everything, to an old lady who cares for her old age.
In 2010, Yao Ming's daughter Yao Qinlei was born, Fang Fengdi was very happy, and Yao Zhiyuan shouldered the responsibility of taking care of her granddaughter, and Ye Li was also very relieved to hand over her daughter to her parents-in-law to teach, and she learned Xi with peace of mind and became a qualified hostess.
Fang Fengdi's teaching of her granddaughter is the same as teaching Yao Ming at the beginning, she is strict with her, she must learn to be a person in advance, so Yao Qinlei has been very obedient since she was a child, and she is a polite and filial child.
Now Fang Fengdi is 74 years old, Yao Zhiyuan is also 71 years old, they no longer care about Yao Ming's career, Yao Ming and Ye Li are in China, the two of them take care of 13-year-old Yao Qinlei in the United States, take good care of Yao Qinlei, and her height is more than 1.8 meters.
Fang Fengdi made great contributions to the national women's basketball team when she was a player, leaving an injury, and after retiring, she cultivated a basketball superstar like Yao Ming, wishing her all the best in her later years!
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