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Aunt Wang, a mother-in-law, is 68 years old this year and is retired at home. She has a strong personality and is Xi used to doing things in the same way. My relationship with my mother-in-law has never been very good, and she often says that I am not careful enough and not filial enough.
Just last Saturday, my mother-in-law suddenly said that she wanted the whole family to have a meeting to discuss some "house rules". I had a vague feeling in my heart that something wasn't right, but I couldn't just say no.
At 7 o'clock that night, my mother-in-law called everyone in the family to the living room, and first praised my sister-in-law and sister-in-law, saying that they were filial and capable, and they were model daughters-in-law. Then the mother-in-law cleared her throat and said, "I am 68 years old this year, and my body bones are not very good, so I need more care from my daughters-in-law to prepare meals at night." So I decided that from today onwards, every night at 8 o'clock, Xiaohong would accompany me to eat in the dining room, chatting while eating, and then tidy up the kitchen before going to rest. ”
I was stunned when I heard this "new rule", and immediately said: "Mom, Xiao Ming and I get off work late every day, it's six or seven o'clock when we come home, I still have to cook and wash clothes, if I can't eat until eight o'clock, then when will I rest?"
The mother-in-law said disapprerovingly: "What's the big deal, I'm so old, I just want to eat a hot meal and chat, and I can't rest? Besides, my daughter-in-law should serve her mother-in-law, which is a matter of course." ”
I wanted to explain more, but my husband interrupted me. He smiled and said to me, "What Mom said makes sense, you can just accompany Mom to dinner, and it won't be troublesome." ”
I glared at him, thinking to myself, I cook and wash dishes without you, how can it be so simple. Seeing that I didn't speak, my mother-in-law continued, "Since it's decided, let's start implementing it tonight." I'll tell your dad and second aunt later, and let your sister supervise it too. This is also good for you in the future. ”
When I heard my mother-in-law say this, my heart was very angry. I tried to control my emotions and said as calmly as possible: "Mom, Xiao Ming and I are both very busy at work, and I can't have dinner until eight o'clock every day." I'll try to cook as early as possible, can you come at half-past six? I'll talk to you too. ”
The mother-in-law's face sank, and she said in a tough tone: "It's too early to eat at half past six, and I won't have dinner until eight o'clock." And as I said, you have to be obedient, there is no room for negotiation!"
I couldn't hold back any longer, and replied directly: "Then I can only say no! I have my own life, it's not what you say!" After speaking, I went back to my room, and I was very irritable.
It's only been a day, and I've been
It's only been a day, and I'm already irritable. I couldn't sleep last night, tossing and turning until two o'clock in the morning before falling asleep. When I woke up in the morning, the dark circles under my eyes were as heavy as a panda.
When I went to work, I was absent-minded and my productivity was very low. Xiao Ming saw that I was not in the right state, and asked with concern: "You look tired, did you not sleep well last night?"
I nodded and said, "yes, I really can't accept your mother's new rules, and it upsets me." ”
Xiao Ming smiled and said: "Mom, that person is more traditional, don't mind too much, with me, I will find a way to talk to her." ”
I let out a "hmm" in a discouraged manner, thinking to myself what you are talking about, your mother is so strong, she won't listen to you.
When I came home from work in the evening, I opened the door and saw my mother-in-law and my sister sitting and chatting in the living room. When my sister saw me, she said in a serious tone: "Sister, Mom said, from today onwards, you must have dinner at eight o'clock every day, and I will check it." ”
I ignored her and went straight to the kitchen. The mother-in-law shouted behind her back: "Don't eat dinner before eight o'clock!
I couldn't bear it anymore and shouted back: "I can't arrange my own life and rest!" After that, I started to make dinner.
At half past seven, Xiao Ming returned. He looked at me, then at my mother-in-law and sister who were waiting in the dining room, and came over to persuade me: "Don't be angry, just accompany your mother, I will help you wash the dishes and clean up at night, and you should rest early." ”
I gave him a blank look: "Just you, wash the dishes for an hour." I don't agree with this unreasonable request, and you don't want to help your mother-in-law speak!"
Xiao Ming looked helpless: "Then what do you want? I can't persuade my mother!"
"Break up!" I blurted out the word, startling Xiao Ming.
He said in a panic: "You, you calm down, let's have a good chat and don't quarrel." ”
I took a deep breath and said, "I'm calm. If your mom continues to be vexatious, we can only break up. I'm fed up and don't want to be controlled by your mom all day!"
After that, I went to the dining room with two dishes. My mother-in-law and sister looked at me with a smug expression. The mother-in-law said, "It's eight o'clock, come and eat with me." You go get the dishes and chopsticks. ”
I said coldly, "I won't eat it, you can eat it." I went back to my hometown for a few days. ”
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The mother-in-law was surprised and said, "What do you mean?
I ignored her, went directly to the room to pack some necessities, and then said to Xiao Ming, who was at a loss: "I'll go back to my parents' house for a few days, calm down, and think about our affairs." ”
Xiao Ming said anxiously: "Don't be like this, let's have a good talk." Mother-in-law, that person is a bit traditional, don't take it to heart. ”
I ignored him and walked out with my bag. Xiao Ming then took my hand and said, "Why are you so excited, I love you, we can't break up." ”
I shook off his hand and said, "I love you too, but I've had enough! ”
The mother-in-law was also anxious at this time, and said, "How can you go back to your parents' house?" My request is not wrong, just have dinner, is it necessary?"
I looked back at my mother-in-law, held back tears and said, "You forced me! I have my own life, you can't keep trying to control me!"
With that, I left the house without looking back. Sitting in the taxi, I finally held back my tears. I called my mom and said there was an argument and I wanted to go home for a few days. Mom was worried, but she still said gently: "Mom is always welcome here, come back and talk about it slowly." ”
When I returned to my parents' house, my mother saw my haggard appearance, wiped my tears in distress, and said, "Don't be sad, Mom is here." It's true that mother-in-law is stubborn, but you young people also have to learn to be tolerant. ”
I choked up and said, "I've been putting up with it for a long time, she always wants to control me, I can't stand it." I really love Xiao Ming, but I also have my own life. ”
Mom sighed and said, "You can't blame your mother-in-law for this, Xiao Ming is also responsible." He should speak for you and let your mother-in-law not go overboard. You young people must unite and don't let the elders tear you apart. ”
I thought about it, and my mother made sense. Xiao Ming has not supported me enough in front of my mother-in-law in the past few years. This time, he didn't help me speak, just thinking about making my mother-in-law happy.
I hesitated and said, "I need some time to figure it out." You should also think carefully about who you want to choose. ”
After hanging up the phone, my mother came to persuade me again: "People are not sages, children, you have to learn to be tolerant." My mother-in-law is old and can't change her temper. You and Xiao Ming have only been married for a few years, and cherish their feelings. ”
I sent a message to Xiao Ming and said, "I'm back, but with conditions, I hope you can support me and don't always favor my mother-in-law." ”
Xiao Ming replied in seconds: "I know, I know, come back quickly, I miss you so much!"
I saw that his tone was still so improper, I don't know if he took my words to heart.
When I got home at noon, Xiao Ming excitedly greeted me and wanted to hug me, but I politely avoided me. I said coldly, "Do you agree to my conditions?"
Xiao Ming smiled and said, "Agree and agree, I agree with everything you say." ”
I ignored his perfunctory and went straight to my mother-in-law to talk. The mother-in-law still has a tough attitude: "It's useless for you to run back to your parents' house, the rules still have to be followed." ”
I took a deep breath and said as calmly as I could, "Mom, I respect you as an elder, but please also respect me. I have been married to Xiao Ming for three years and have our own lives. You can't control my every move with a parental attitude. I can accompany you to dinner and chat, but I can't accept being unreasonably controlled. ”
The mother-in-law said dissatisfiedly: "Are you talking to your mother-in-law about the conditions? I am kind and want you to rest early!"
I continued, "I understand your kindness, but Ming and I also need personal space. If we have to live on your schedule every day, we feel a lot of stress. I think we should understand and respect each other. ”
The mother-in-law snorted: "You young people are really now, and your mother-in-law won't listen to anything!"
At this time, Xiao Ming finally spoke: "Mom, what Hong said also makes sense. She is also busy at work and needs her own rhythm of life. We've just gotten married, so you want to give us a little bit of personal space and don't always schedule our time. ”
I looked at Xiao Ming in surprise, he really supported me in front of my mother-in-law!
The mother-in-law was obviously also surprised, she didn't expect Xiao Ming to say such a thing. The mother-in-law hesitated for a moment, and finally said, "Okay, I won't arrange for you." But once a week you come back for dinner and talk to me. ”
I breathed a sigh of relief and said, "That's fine, I'll be back with you every week." ”
Although the mother-in-law still looked unhappy, she finally did not insist on eating at eight o'clock every day.
I looked at his serious eyes, and the knot in my heart slowly opened. I said, "Then you can't break your word." I'll watch you. ”
Xiao Ming nodded heavily: "I will never break my promise again!" I will let my mother-in-law learn to respect you." ”
I laughed and rubbed his hair. It seems that after this dispute, Xiao Ming has matured a little and knows how to deal with family relationships. I believe that from now on, we will get closer and closer, and we will become more and more capable of being with our mother-in-law
I believe that from now on, we will get closer and closer, and we will become more and more able to communicate well with our mother-in-law.
That night, Xiao Ming helped me wash the dishes and gave me a massage to relax. I smiled and said, "You're a good guy, it's very promising!"
Xiao Ming also joked: "I have decided to listen to you in the future and let you worry less." ”
I laughed and slapped him on the arm: "Okay, then I'll direct you to work!"
We chatted with each other, and the atmosphere gradually became lively. It dawned on me that after an argument, our relationship seemed to be closer.
I smiled and nodded: "Well, we talked all night yesterday, and the relationship is better than before!"
Xiao Zhao teased me: "Oh, reconcile after a quarrel, the time for the strongest feelings has come!"
I blushed and didn't contradict her. Indeed, after this conflict, Xiao Ming and I seem to have begun to understand each other better and give each other a little more space.
As soon as the weekend arrived, Xiao Ming offered to eat at my favorite restaurant. After dinner, we strolled along the river, hand in hand. I happily said, "Thank you, I haven't been this happy in a long time." ”
Xiao Ming hugged me into his arms: "From now on, we will go out on dates every week, just like when we first started in love!"
I smiled and nodded, my heart full of happiness.
When I got home, my mother-in-law was watching TV. She didn't say anything when she saw us crooked, just sighed.
I walked over and sat next to my mother-in-law, and said with a smile: "Mom, today I went out to eat with Xiao Ming, and we also took a walk by the river, and the atmosphere was very romantic!"
The mother-in-law nodded and said, "It's okay, you young people go out to have fun and have fun." Just don't forget that there are elderly people and children to take care of at home. ”
I shook my mother-in-law's hand and said, "Mom, of course I remember that my family is the most important thing. It's just that Xiao Ming and I just got married, and we need a little time together, can you understand?"
My mother-in-law didn't be stronger this time, she looked at me and said, "Also, the most important thing is that you have a good relationship." As long as you don't forget to be filial to your parents, I will be satisfied. ”
This conflict, which ended in reconciliation, showed me the importance of mutual understanding and respect between family members. Experiencing quarrels and misunderstandings has made me cherish this relationship even more. I believe that from now on, we will become a closer family.
After experiencing this conflict, my relationship with Xiao Ming has become better and better, and I have become more and more considerate of my mother-in-law's thoughts.
We go out on regular dates on weekends and spend our weekdays at home. Sometimes I take the initiative to give my mother-in-law a massage and talk about interesting things about her when she was young. My mother-in-law would also help me with household chores when I was tired.
One night, our family sat around the dinner table for dinner. My mother-in-law smiled and said to me, "Xiaohong, this green dish is so delicious, it's my hometown dish that I taught you, right?"
I nodded and said, "Yes, Mom, I remember you said that with the method of your hometown, it will be better to add some bean paste." I tried it today and it worked great!"
The mother-in-law said happily: "This dish you make is more decent than mine, when I first got married, the vegetables were not delicious." You were born to be a good and capable daughter-in-law!"
I was a little embarrassed, but I said happily, "Thank you mom for the compliment!" I will continue to work hard to learn how to cook all kinds of delicious dishes and make you happy every day. ”
Xiao Ming also interjected: "Mom, teach Hong, if you have any good recipes in the future, her skills are getting better and better!"
After dinner, Xiao Ming took the initiative to clean up the dishes and chopsticks, and I accompanied my mother-in-law to watch the TV series. My mother-in-law smiled and said to me: "Now young people are really young people, and they also need their husbands to wash the dishes, how could we have such a good life back then!"
I laughed too: "Times are different now, Mom." Xiao Ming should also share some housework, not all to me. We young people value equality between men and women. ”
The mother-in-law nodded: "Yes, what you said makes sense." When I got married, I did all the housework alone, which was really hard. You young people will live happier!"
I am glad to see that my mother-in-law's mind is slowly changing and she is beginning to accept modern marriage.
In this way, the three of us became more and more harmonious. My mother-in-law was noticeably less controlling, and she began to respect my life with Xiao Ming.
My mother-in-law held the baby and refused to put it down, and said to me with a smile: "Xiaohong, thank you for giving me such a lovely baby! In the future, I will help you take care of the child every day, and you can go to work with confidence." ”
I was so touched that I shook my mother-in-law's hand and said, "Then it's troublesome Mom! I will feel much more at ease with you by my side." ”
From marriage to childbirth, our family relationship has become more and more intimate. I am grateful that this misunderstanding has given us growth and brought everyone together. I will continue to work hard to build a bond with my family