Statement|Wang Lin
Editor|Lao Yu
"Who said this house belongs to you? this homestead belongs to my father, and we have added a third floor and bought furniture, and we have half of this house, and we will never be able to leave. ”
The above sentence is what my husband's own brother said to us a few days ago, and it is really chilling to hear.
"There is a good saying, brothers, settle accounts, one yard to one yard. When brothers and sisters grow up, they should always have a sense of boundaries, and they can no longer live together all day as before.
But 3 years ago, because my brother-in-law was newly married, we kindly lent him the house, and my brother-in-law not only did not have any gratitude, but also lent out hatred.
Hello everyone, my name is Wang Lin and I am 33 years old.
I have been married to my husband Ah Feng for 6 years, and in the past 6 years, we have been working outside to make money, rarely going home, and we come back for about a week at the end of each year.
Ah Feng and I are both relatively frugal people, although we don't have children, but the money we earn is not very willing to spend on ourselves, and the usual monthly salary is saved quickly.
Our ideas are very simple, it is not easy to make money, and it is good to save money for future careers or as a fund for children's education.
Since both of us are relatively frugal, three years ago, Ah Feng and I saved enough money to build a two-story house in the countryside of Ah Feng's hometown.
Although there are only two floors, the decoration is ok, the first floor is the kitchen, living room, and the second floor is where we rest and entertain.
Covering an area of 150 square meters, the experience is like the kind of duplex storey house in the city, and Ah Feng and I are very satisfied.
But although the house is good, Ah Feng and I are not blessed to enjoy it, we can't make money where we have a home, and there is no home where we make money.
After staying for a while, Ah Feng and I packed up our things and went out to work again.
But just half a year after going out, there was good news at home.
The news is that Ah Feng's own brother, my brother-in-law, is engaged and will get married at the end of the year.
Mother-in-law informed us on the phone and we were all very happy. Ah Feng was even discussing that he would dress handsome and help greet guests at home.
But then, the mother-in-law discussed something with Ah Feng on the phone.
The mother-in-law said: Ah Feng, when I was engaged this year, everything was easy to say on the in-laws' side, and the bride price was not very high.
But one thing is that when Alin and your brother and daughter-in-law get married, they can't live with us, they have to live separately.
We agreed to this request at the time.
But Alin is not as good as you, he doesn't have to worry about making money, where can he build a house, but it's not good to promise that others can't do it.
So what I mean is, can you let your brother and your brother-in-law go in for a while in the house you build?
After two years, Ah Feng built a new house by himself, how about letting them move out?
When my mother-in-law said this, Ah Feng did not agree immediately, but wanted to discuss it with me.
When Ah Feng told me the news, I didn't have much opinion.
In fact, I can see that Ah Feng also agreed to this request, but the house was built by us together, and he still asked my opinion out of respect.
And I felt that since they were all a family, I didn't want to embarrass Ah Feng and my brother-in-law, so I readily agreed to my mother-in-law's request.
When my mother-in-law learned that we had agreed, she thanked us very happily.
Even the brother-in-law said on the phone, "Sister-in-law, thank you so much to express your gratitude." ”
But sometimes, it's really hard to be a good person, Shengmien, and the things of fighting Mi Qiu are happening all the time, and it happens to me and Ah Feng.
At the beginning, he said that he would only lend the house to the uncle and his wife for a while, but he did not tell them that they should work hard to make money in the past few years and build their own house as soon as possible.
However, I found that at the beginning, my brother-in-law was full of enthusiasm and really wanted to make good money, but this momentum was only less than three months, and the whole person retreated.
In the past two or three years, the brother-in-law and sister-in-law have stayed at home, anyway, when they are hungry, they have rice grown by their father-in-law, and the vegetables are also grown in the countryside.
For them, we are just guests at home, and we come and stay for a few days every time and then leave, which does not affect them in the slightest.
The only change in the family is that when the brother-in-law was at home, he added a third floor to the house and bought some new furniture.
But Ah Feng and I know that although the uncle said that he earned the money, but as he usually looks lazy and lazy, we can also guess that it must not have been built by himself, but the money given by his in-laws.
If this was in normal times, Ah Feng and I didn't care too much, after all, they were all a family, and they would have stayed for a while if they wanted to.
But this year, the situation is different, I found out that I was pregnant in July, and now I am almost 6 months old, and I have quit my job.
It just so happened that Ah Feng's factory also closed down, and the weather was cold this year, making it inconvenient to find a job, so Ah Feng and I had no choice but to go home first.
When I went home last week, Ah Feng and I discussed on the way that this time we should let my brother-in-law go back to my in-laws' old house to live.
When the two of us were at home, our family and friends were there, and it was a bit awkward to live together.
Ah Feng also nodded and said yes, only in this way can his younger brother learn to make money on his own.
We just came home last week, and we didn't rush to let the uncle and them leave, just wanted to use a tactful way.
When I chatted with my brother and daughter-in-law, I said: I am pregnant, and I may be at home in the future, Ah Feng will not go to other places next year, and we will develop in my hometown in the future.
Generally speaking, sensible people will know that it is time to move.
But my brother and daughter-in-law didn't seem to understand and said: That's good, in the future, we will have a companion at home, and it will be lively to live together.
The younger brother-in-law pretended not to understand, and Ah Feng couldn't open his mouth to talk to his younger brother.
So I asked Ah Feng to tell my mother-in-law, and let my mother-in-law tell my brother-in-law tactfully, which might be more effective.
But when Ah Feng finished talking to his mother-in-law, his mother-in-law said with a look of embarrassment: That's not good, you let them come back to live, where are they Xi to it.
Ah Feng: Mom, Linlin is about to give birth, and I'm also at home, so it's not good for everyone to live together, so I have to let my brother build a house by himself.
Mother-in-law: Isn't this a lack of money? If you have money, you must build a house, you don't need to say it, now it's the end of the year, let's talk about it after this year, as soon as you go home, let your brother and sister-in-law move things away, outsiders will gossip when they see them.
Besides, your brother-in-law's family still thinks that your brother built the house.
Faced with his mother-in-law's words, Ah Feng didn't know how to refute it, and after Ah Feng and I discussed, the two of us unanimously decided to just finish this year and let them build their own houses next spring.
But for the next three or four days, I still Xi very unaccustomed to it.
First of all, there are a lot of fox friends and dog friends of the uncle, and there are also many friends of the younger brother and daughter-in-law.
I'm pregnant, I can't smell smoke, I can't hear, and I'm irritable when they come.
Secondly, my brother-in-law's mother's family often comes over, and as soon as they come, the atmosphere is very awkward.
Because my brother-in-law's family thinks that Ah Feng and I can't afford to build a house, we stay at my brother's house all day long and don't want to leave.
Yesterday morning, my brother-in-law's mother's family left, and a group of friends came to play mahjong at home, because the mahjong was too noisy.
I couldn't help but chase these friends away.
In the evening, Ah Feng and I seriously talked about it with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law, which means that they are here, which has affected our lives.
The words have been said so clearly, normal people should blush and know to leave.
But the younger brother-in-law had a gloomy face, and the brother-in-law didn't speak at first, but later said: It's impossible to move out.
His reason is: the homestead belongs to his father-in-law, which is jointly owned by everyone, and in addition, he also added a third floor to this home and bought some furniture, so this family has half of him, and it is impossible for him to move away.
Ah Feng was very angry about his brother-in-law's words, and the two brothers quarreled like this.
In the end, the in-laws also came, but the in-laws just made peace, saying that there was no need for the family to fight, and one and a half of them lived first, and they would talk about it after this winter.
My father-in-law said that he promised not to let outsiders come over again to affect us, and asked his brother-in-law not to bring his mother's family over.
Although we each took a step back in this matter, Ah Feng and I both knew that it was us who really suffered.
Now that everyone lives together, the atmosphere is very awkward, and I don't know what to do.
If I knew this was the case, I shouldn't have agreed to their request in the first place.