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My name is Brother Zhang, I am 45 years old, I do business in Beijing, and I have my wife and son Xiao Ming at home. Xiao Ming is 20 years old, a college student, and has a girlfriend, Xiao Fang.
Last week, I was passing by the mall and saw a nice coat and bought it for my son, Xiao Ming. This coat is worth almost 3,000 yuan, and the style is fashionable and handsome, I think Xiao Ming will like it.
On the weekend, I packed the coat gift box and said to Xiao Ming: "Son, this is my gift to you, I hope you like it!"
Xiao Ming happily opened the gift box, and his eyes lit up when he saw the coat inside: "Dad, this coat is so handsome! The brand is also very famous, it must be very expensive, right?"
I smiled and said, "Son, if you like it." I saw that I thought it was suitable for you, so I bought it and gave it to you. ”
Xiao Ming was very happy, tried on the coat, looked left and right in front of the mirror, and praised a few words: "Dad, you know me too well! The design of this coat is really handsome, I like it very much! Wearing it at school can definitely attract a lot of attention!"
I am very happy to see my son so happy. Although this coat is expensive, I think it is worth it to make my son happy.
When the two met at Starbucks, Xiao Fang saw Xiao Ming's new coat at a glance, and said in surprise: "Xiao Ming, this coat is really handsome!
Xiao Ming said proudly: "Yes, this is a gift that my father bought me last week, and it is still a very expensive brand, 3,000 yuan." ”
Xiaofang exclaimed: "Wow, your father really loves you and gave you such an expensive gift." Quick, you go around and let me see!"
Xiao Ming stood up and spun around, showing his coat to Xiao Fang. Xiao Fang kept nodding: "It's really super handsome! The design is also very fashionable, you wear it very well, it's just the embodiment of clothes!"
Xiao Ming was very proud and said, "Then you can try it too, it must be very suitable for you." ”
As he spoke, he took off his coat and handed it to Xiao Fang. Xiao Fang happily took it, put on the coat with Xiao Ming's support, and then turned around in front of Xiao Ming.
"Well, I'll just say it's going to suit you very well!" Xiao Ming said happily.
Xiao Fang smiled, nodded and said, "You're right, I wear this coat and it fits perfectly, your father's vision is really good!"
My son, Xiao Ming, is 20 years old and is studying at a well-known university in Beijing. He made a girlfriend, Xiaofang, and the two had a good relationship.
Seeing that Xiao Fang also liked this coat, Xiao Ming said happily: "Okay, you can wear it for a few days first? Anyway, I have other clothes to wear." ”
Xiaofang hesitated: "No, after all, this is a gift from your father, why am I embarrassed to wear it?"
Xiao Ming said: "It's okay, my dad also hopes that more people will like this coat." You can wear it for two days, and then return it to me in a few days. ”
Xiao Fang smiled and said, "Okay, I'll take it for the time being." I really like this coat too, thank you so much for your dad for having such a good eye!"
When I heard that Xiao Ming had lent his coat to Xiao Fang temporarily, I was a little surprised, but I didn't say anything. Anyway, the coat was bought for him, and he could do whatever he wanted.
Two days later, Xiao Ming suddenly called me, and his tone sounded a little excited: "Dad, do you know? The coat I gave to Xiao Fang is now worn by her brother!"
I was surprised and said, "What? What's going on?"
Xiao Ming said: "I originally lent Xiao Fang to wear it for two days, and asked her to return it to me today." But she said that she gave her coat to her brother Xiaolong to wear! I told her that it was my coat, how could she wear it for others, and she said that Xiaolong liked this dress very much, so she borrowed it for a few days. I'm so angry, this coat is a gift from you, how can she take it for others to wear!"
I persuaded, "Son, calm down, let's take our time." Maybe Xiaofang has some difficulties, you communicate with her well. ”
Xiao Ming was still very angry: "I have made it clear to her that this coat is very important to me, and it is your heart for me." She even lent it to someone else to wear, it's so unusual!"
Later, I learned from Xiao Ming that Xiaofang had a younger brother, Xiaolong, who was 15 years old this year and was in junior high school. Xiaolong's personality is more rebellious, but he especially likes brand-name clothes, so Xiaofang lent him this coat to wear in order to make his brother happy.
I persuaded Xiao Ming to communicate with Xiao Fang again and understand her difficulties. Although Xiao Ming was reluctant, he still went to talk to Xiao Fang.
After the two met, Xiao Ming directly expressed his dissatisfaction: "Xiao Fang, I borrowed clothes from you out of trust, but I didn't expect you to take them to your brother to wear, I'm very angry." That coat is very important to me, and it's hard for me to accept that you're doing that. ”
I'll let him wear it first, and I'll wait for him to wear it for a few days before I explain it to you. But I did not think it through, and I should have asked for your consent first, and I'm really sorry. ”
Xiao Ming listened to Xiao Fang's explanation, and his face improved slightly, but he still said: "I can understand your distress, but this coat is very important to me, and it is my father's heart for me." Even if you lend it to your brother, you should ask for my permission. ”
Xiao Fang nodded and said, "You're right, it's my fault, I've decided to lend it to my brother." But at that time, I was in a hurry to make my brother happy, so I didn't think much about it. I really knew I was wrong. ”
Xiao Ming saw that Xiao Fang was sincerely reflecting, and he didn't blame her anymore, but he still said: "What I am most unhappy about now is that I told your brother that I wanted the coat back, but he didn't agree to give it back to me! ”
Xiao Fang sighed and said, "It's hard for me to do this. My brother is more stubborn, and now he is very proud to wear this designer coat, and I can't persuade him. But don't worry, I'll find a way to talk to him and get my coat back for you. It's really my lack of thought and causing you so much trouble, I really blame myself and feel very sad. ”
Seeing that Xiao Fang looked like she was about to cry, Xiao Ming's face softened: "Actually, I am also responsible for this matter, and I shouldn't lend you my coat so easily." We're all at fault, but since it's happened, let's find a way to fix it. ”
Xiao Ming nodded and said, "I know, Dad." At first, I only saw my own opinions, but then I listened to Xiaofang's explanation and began to put myself in her shoes. We have made an appointment that she will find a way to talk to her brother in the next few days and ask for the coat to be returned to me. ”
Two days later, Xiao Fang looked for Xiao Ming and said in a very ashamed tone: "Xiao Ming, I'm really sorry, I talked to my brother a few times, but he just refused to give me a coat." I know it's important to you, and I'll find other ways to make it up to you. I'm really sorry for causing you such trouble. ”
Xiao Ming was also embarrassed and said: "What should I do now, I don't want to go directly to your brother to theorize, I feel that it is not appropriate." ”
The two discussed for a while, and Xiao Fang said: "Otherwise, I'll give you money, and you go buy a new one to compensate you?" I know that the value of feelings is very important to you, but if you can't come back, I can only compensate you like this." ”
Xiao Ming hesitated for a moment and said, "I understand your good intentions, but this matter is no longer a matter of money." I just feel like our friendship has hurt and that affects me even more. ”
Xiao Fang nodded and said, "You're right, I'm too anxious to compensate you, but I ignore that friendship is the most important thing." I really blame myself for not being able to properly value our friendship. Can you give me a chance to start over?"
Xiao Ming was silent for a while, and then said, "My mood is still a little complicated now, but since the matter has come to this, we have no other choice but to start over." Giving you a chance to rebuild your friendship is also a growth for me. ”
Xiao Ming nodded and said, "Yes, Dad, after this incident, I have matured a lot." Friendship should not be hurt for material gains, and that is really a valuable lesson for me. ”
Later, Xiao Ming told me all about the incident and his feelings, and I couldn't help but sigh that my son had really grown up.
A few days later, one day I was cooking at home, and suddenly I received a call from Xiao Fang, she said in an excited tone: "Uncle, I have something to return to Xiao Ming, are you at home?
I was a little surprised, but I said, "Okay, you can come over with your things." ”
An hour later, Xiao Fang came to my house with a gift box and said to me, "Uncle, this is the way to compensate Xiao Ming after thinking about it for a long time." Please help me give him this gift box first, I'm sure he'll love it!"
I took the gift box and felt that it was light and soft, not like clothes. Xiao Fang smiled mysteriously and said, "Uncle, this is what I specially purchased for Xiao Ming, please be sure to give it to him yourself! Then I'll go back first, as soon as he receives the gift, please tell me his reaction!"
I watched Xiaofang leave, and I was also curious about what was in this gift box. When Xiao Ming came home in the evening, I handed him the gift box and said, "Son, this is given to you by Xiao Fang." ”
Xiao Ming was surprised to open the gift box, and inside it turned out to be a very beautiful red scarf!
Xiao Ming was very happy, called Xiao Fang and said, "I received your gift, this scarf is so beautiful! It is also embroidered with my name, it must be specially customized by you, right? Thank you, I really like it!"
Xiao Fang said happily: "Great, you like it! I originally wanted to buy a dress for you, but I think it would be more heartfelt to embroider a scarf by hand." It doesn't make up for that coat, but it can at least apologize and allow our friendship to start again. ”
Xiao Ming said movingly: "Yes, the significance of this scarf is far greater than its value. Our friendship will go from strength to strength after this turmoil. It's a good lesson for us and it's made us grow a lot. ”
Xiao Ming also smiled: "Not all, I mainly want to tell you that the problem between me and Xiao Fang has been solved." This scarf is a new start for me!"
I nodded and said, "I'm glad you were able to resolve the misunderstanding and restore the friendship." This ability will be useful in your future lives. ”
Xiao Ming said: "Yes, Dad, this experience has taught me a lot of truths. I began to learn to put myself in other people's shoes and not just consider my own opinions. In addition, I have learned the importance of communication and understanding. ”
I smiled and patted my son on the shoulder and said, "You're starting to mature, Daddy is proud of you!" The most positive lessons you can take from this experience are the most rewarding. ”
Xiao Ming nodded, and his expression became much more cheerful. I believe that this turmoil has a positive and far-reaching impact on the relationship between him and Xiaofang. The tree of their friendship will also take root and grow in the wind and rain in the future.
The relationship between people is like this, and it takes constant ups and downs to cultivate sincere feelings. I believe that the ship of friendship between Xiao Ming and Xiao Fang will also sail more smoothly in the future journey of life.
This coat incident eventually turned into a heartwarming story. Whenever I think about it, I say, "We live to go through all kinds of things." ”
After the coat incident, I often think about the disputes and misunderstandings between Xiao Ming and Xiao Fang at that time, and the process of rebuilding their friendship in the end. I often talk to him about this and reflect on the inspiration that this experience has brought him.
One day after dinner, I made a cup of tea for my son and said with a smile: "Son, remembering that you and Xiaofang quarreled over that coat, I still find it very interesting." At that time, you two were blushing, do you feel anything now?"
Xiao Ming also smiled: "Haha, Xiao Fang and I were indeed children's tempers at that time. Looking back now, I do feel a bit ignorant and naïve at the time. ”
I nodded and said, "But it's also inspired you a lot, isn't it? ”
Xiao Ming said: "Yes, Dad, after experiencing this, I have a deeper understanding of friendship. I've learned to be rational in the midst of arguments and put myself in my friend's shoes instead of just thinking about my own position. This has helped me a lot. ”
"Not only that," I said, "but it also taught you the importance of communication." When misunderstandings arise, we must learn to communicate with the other person, express our thoughts, and also listen to the other person's explanations. ”
Xiao Ming nodded and said, "Communication is really important. Xiaofang and I didn't communicate well at the beginning, which led to constant disputes. Then we started to listen to each other, and the problem was solved. It had a profound impact on me. ”
I agreed, "Yes, son." The inspiration you get from this will make you more mature later in life. This kind of experience cannot be learned from books, and it is very valuable. ”
"I also want to thank Xiaofang. "If it weren't for her understanding and tolerance, our friendship wouldn't have been rebuilt." This incident also had a profound impact on her. ”
"yes. I said, "You've all grown through this." Friendship is like a mirror that allows us to see our own shortcomings and help each other grow. I'm so proud of you. ”
Xiao Ming smiled: "Dad, with you by my side to guide, I can draw positive strength from this matter." I have learned a lot from your wisdom. ”
I patted my son on the shoulder with emotion: "Son, you have grown up. But no matter how old you are, in my heart you will always be my good son. Dad will always support you and accompany you through the ups and downs of life. ”
This coat incident has become a solid cornerstone for Xiao Ming's growth. When I look back on this experience, I feel extremely relieved and proud.
I believe that this cornerstone will help him to go through more ups and downs in his future life journey and become a wiser and more mature person.