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Text: Broken Boat Cold
Edited by Broken Boat Cold
Preface
Have you ever returned home during the Chinese New Year and been surprised to find that those relatives who only see each other once a year suddenly appear in front of you as if they were reborn, wearing famous brands and driving luxury cars, like billionaires who have become rich overnight?
They talk endlessly about their career achievements and how to break through in front of you, which makes people envious.
However, beneath these seemingly beautiful appearances, there may be some hidden secrets.
They just use the superficial brilliance to cover up the inner emptiness, just to fight for a breath in front of relatives and friends and make themselves stand out.
So, what are the specific manifestations of these "fake rich"?
Pursue external magnificence
In today's society, people are gradually lost in the appearance of gorgeous and ostentatious consumption.
Whether it's Chinese New Year or weekdays, many people pay more attention to showing their "wealth" to others by wearing expensive designer clothes, wearing luxurious watches, and even hanging glittering gold jewelry.
This phenomenon is especially prevalent during the traditional festive season of Chinese New Year, when many people will seek out a full outfit of the big brand, even if they can't afford it, with the brand's logo printed on their head.
This has also become a way for those who like to pretend to be rich to show off, brand-name mobile phones, brand-name clothes and even brand-name watches, one by one, all dressed up on themselves.
If it's a little more exaggerated, then buy a big gold necklace and expose it to the outside, for fear that others will not see it, of course, whether these things are real or fake is another matter.
In fact, people who are really rich don't need to boast to others, they usually dress in a low-key simplicity without too many bright decorations, but only those who really know them can discover the actual value of the outfit they wear.
Even if you are really rich, if you show off too much, it will only make people think that this is a nouveau riche, without much self-cultivation, and only pay attention to external performance.
Not only that, but this social climate of flaunting wealth has brought a lot of negative effects and caused people to be particularly anxious.
And reality is far from being determined by clothes, watches and accessories, no matter how beautiful the clothes and gorgeous decorations, they still can't hide those inner deficiencies and dissatisfactions.
Tofu Tomura
Nowadays, the phenomenon of flaunting wealth in rural areas has become more diverse and complex, and people want to show their success in other ways.
In addition to cars, some people in rural areas also wear high-end luxury items such as designer watches, fine jewelry, etc., as a way to show off their wealth.
They may deliberately travel to the metropolis to buy these luxury goods before returning home for the Chinese New Year, or buy counterfeit imitations from the Internet, and when they appear in rural villages wearing these items, people will think that they are truly wealthy.
In addition to this, some people may use their homes to show off their wealth, they may apply refreshing paint, repair and redecorate their homes to make them look new and show off their affluent lives.
In the village, the house is also seen as a symbol of wealth, so some people may take the opportunity to decorate their house to give the impression of affluence.
Flaunting wealth in rural areas also includes entertaining friends and family, and some people may spend a lot of money on lavish feasts to show off their wealth to friends and family.
They will deliberately choose high-end restaurants or luxury venues to entertain their guests with the most expensive dishes and drinks, which will not only make the guests taste delicious food, but also impress them.
But the most noticeable thing must be to drive a luxury car back to the village during the New Year, just imagine that scene, after a busy year driving a luxury car back to the village, it will inevitably become the object of discussion in the village, and in an instant, that vanity has been maximized.
Some people say that the car is put at the door of their house, needless to say, others can judge how mixed over the years from the car drive, although it is very superficial, but I have to say that this phenomenon does exist.
Of course, it's not that buying a luxury car and going home is to show off your wealth, but those who run to rent a car when they can't afford it, those people are slapping their faces and becoming fat.
Chinese cigarettes and famous liquor at hand
With the development of society, the means of showing off wealth have become endless, and some people who show off their wealth can completely ignore the above routines, and only need to carry some brand-name cigarettes.
For example, at the banquet, you can sprinkle your own Chinese cigarettes on everyone, and then take out a bottle of good wine, and the style will definitely be full.
On many occasions, if you take out some niche but very expensive cigarettes, everyone may not recognize them, but Chinese cigarettes are different, and almost everyone in China knows them.
In contemporary society, many people choose to carry Chinese cigarettes and famous liquor to highlight their wealth and status, which has triggered some problems behind people's society.
In fact, this also reflects some things, many people hope to gain the recognition and respect of others in social situations, and show their economic status and social status by carrying Chinese cigarettes and famous wine.
This way of expressing one's identity was successful to a certain extent, because ordinary people were more or less aware of the status and qualities symbolized by Chinese cigarettes and liquor.
But there are also some hidden problems behind this expression, which is that ostentatious consumption behavior can cause stress and embarrassment for others, making them feel uncomfortable in social situations.
In order to satisfy their vanity, some people choose to buy high-quality Chinese cigarettes and famous liquor to show off their wealth at low prices, which not only deceives others and does not help to establish real credibility, but also may bring trouble and future troubles to themselves.
Of course, they can only show a rare generosity at the dinner table, which is absolutely impossible to realize in private, which is in stark contrast to the real rich.
In fact, the first few people are okay, after all, they just want to let others look up to themselves during the New Year, or also enjoy the feeling of being rich, but the last one is a little different.
Those who take the initiative to reveal their wealth
First of all, these flaunters often have some motivation to actively display their wealth, and they may have a strong desire for wealth because of their previous experience of poverty or the pursuit of success.
They crave recognition and respect, and satisfy their inner pride through outward material displays, while often, while displaying wealth, they neglect their inner needs and relationships with family and friends.
To give the simplest example, that is, when everyone chats together during the New Year and talks about what they have done this year, these people who want to show off their wealth are like playing chicken blood, and their hearts are very fanatical, and they still have to pretend to be on the outside at that time.
said that he didn't make much money this year, but then he changed the conversation and said that he was lucky and earned a small amount of money, and then added fuel and vinegar to tell his own affairs, which can be described as Versailles literature.
After saying this, it will definitely make many people think that this person is modest, he definitely has a big business outside, but he just likes to keep a low profile, and the more he is touted, the more this person can float to the sky.
This kind of behavior will have a certain negative impact on both individuals and society, and people who only pursue material wealth may ignore the abundance of the spiritual world, and their hearts will feel empty and unsatisfied.
So why do these people like to show off at this time?
First of all, it is clear that they are likely to lose genuine relationships with family and friends by investing in material pursuits, and at the social level, such behavior may lead to unhealthy competition and waste of social resources.
Feeling the inner turmoil caused by the gap between rich and poor, some people may fight their inner fears and anxieties by actively displaying their wealth.
In a society where materialism is prevalent, they hope to gain the approval and understanding of others by flaunting their wealth, or to make up for the emptiness in their hearts.
This deep-seated weakness and need can often only be addressed through deep self-exploration and reflection, rather than through the ephemeral external means of displaying wealth.
The display of wealth may be a kind of ostentatious display in certain situations, but we should also understand the psychological motivation behind it and the impact on the individual's society.
Attention should be paid to and understood about the psychological distress caused by the gap between rich and poor, rather than simply ridiculing and blaming their behavior.
summary
It's not nice to say, everyone finally gets together, and it doesn't hurt to brag occasionally, everyone can't sit together and say everything one by one.
Everyone just thinks it's a discussion point after dinner, and this may also be a way for everyone to talk about home.
However, I would like to remind you that true prosperity is not only material, but spiritual.
Those who are spiritually wealthy, even if their income is not the highest, the attitude and life experience they show can make people feel a unique charm.