In the midst of the passionate war - in the first episode of the variety show called "The Battle of Love", we saw a touching scene. The main character is the famous entertainer Ms. Li Ai, whose tears ripple on the screen, and her tears wet her clothes. In the muddy quagmire, the CPs trekked with difficulty, as if they were in a complex and difficult battlefield of life. In the observation room, Li Ai's eyes were full of sparkles, sighing and contemplating with emotion, taking a deep breath to try to calm the surging emotions. Every time she speaks, she always brings a brilliant understanding:
"Dear couples, your relationship was not as strong as you expected, and the future may come to an end quickly. However, love always has magic, and if you meet a really good partner, it will make you more perfect!"
Li Ai, a glamorous woman, has experienced a rich and varied life. She was the winner of a modeling contest, a high-profile actress, and a leader in the hosting industry. Fortunately, her marriage is equally happy and happy, with her husband going through ups and downs for many years, and a smart and clever son. However, going back ten or even twenty years, it's hard to imagine that she would have the life she has today, right?
She had looked forward to living alone, and even at the moment of marriage with her husband, she promised never to have children. However, life, like her own personality, is resilient and challenging. She gradually realized the changes brought about by a stable and harmonious relationship, and began to enjoy life to the fullest. From her choice, we seem to see the continuous evolution of the concept of marriage and love in the new century.
In addition to the traditional marriage and love relationship, are there other possibilities for women, what criteria should be followed when choosing a partner, and how should they protect their rights and interests and maintain inner balance?
In this bitter winter, we are fortunate to invite Ms. Li Ai to do an exclusive interview. When she walked into the studio, her smile was like a spring breeze, which made people feel refreshed. When it comes to the ups and downs of life and the confusion of the past, she uses vivid and sunny language to tell it, as if the waves are churning in a sea of happiness.
"Who is the father of the child?"
A long time ago, Li Ai put forward a very subversive idea: "The most critical moment for women is not to find their dream job, choose a suitable place to live, or choose a spouse, but to choose a suitable father for their children." ”
She explained these blunt words in detail. In her opinion, every pregnancy means that the mother will develop a deep bond with the father of the child. If you choose the right father, even if the love does not last, they can still raise the child together and avoid the child from being hurt, however, if you choose the wrong one, I am afraid that the whole life will be changed because of this, full of hardships and challenges.
"You can break up when you're in love, and you can divorce when you're married. So, before making these decisions, girls should be brave enough to try to fall in love a few more times and not rush into the decision to spend their life with someone or become the parent of a certain child. ”
Looking back on his life journey, Li Ai candidly said that his choice has gone through a long and tortuous trouble. Her husband Zhang Xuning used to be her agent, and the two sides have long had contact and understanding. Back in early 2010, Li Ai's old agent resigned due to personal family problems, and at that time she was like Xiao Ming lost in the dark night sky, busy and bleak. At this moment of crisis, a friend introduced a new partner, Zhang Xuning.
They are not only partners in the workplace, but also soulmates of each other. Zhang Xuning has just entered the industry, and Li Ai and him support each other to cope with various pressures. Although in the early days of their relationship, the two were not optimistic about this relationship, they firmly believed in an old saying: "Lu Yao knows horsepower, and he will see people's hearts over time." Eventually, their relationship slowly melted like ice, gradually warming up to unprecedented heights.
Back in 2015, Mr. Zhang affectionately proposed to Ms. Li. Ms. Li still feels emotional when she thinks back to that romantic moment. She couldn't put into words how she felt. Her joy could not be expressed in words, and she could not help but hide her face and burst into tears. She felt endless joy and emotion. She really understood that they could really enter the palace of marriage. She deeply felt how wonderful his marriage proposal was. However, like many couples, they face an important question when they enter the palace of marriage: whether to have children or not.
In fact, Ms. Li had always decided not to have children until she got married. However, in the days after the marriage, Mr. Zhang did not hesitate to hand over the reproductive rights to Ms. Li, expressing his full support and respect for her decision. After learning that Ms. Li had a new idea, he never mentioned the topic of having children again. However, as the years passed, Ms. Li seemed to begin to yearn for the warmth and richness of family life, and she began to have a strong desire to have a child. So, she took the initiative to express her wish to her husband: "Maybe we can start the journey of parenting?" When talking about the reason for having a child, she explained in an extreme way: "Imagine that this baby will be just like you, whether it is appearance, personality traits, or even moral cultivation, it will be like a miniature version of the two of you." Can you accept such a situation?" she smiled happily today and turned her head to look at her husband tenderly. At that moment, she seemed to see the future baby, and replied with a smile: "Yes, that would be great, I am very much looking forward to the arrival of the child." ”
From the sweet period of love to entering the palace of marriage, from starting a family to giving birth to a new life, for Ms. Li, it is a wonderful and never-ending new world. She describes her upbringing through these experiences: "In my thirties, I have achieved a lot in my career and wealth, and the love that has always been with me, giving me strength and understanding, has made me willing to explore more possibilities in life." She expressed her unique insight into life in succinct but powerful language: "It's the result of helping each other, making progress together, and moving towards a better future." In a variety show, she shared her unique insights on marriage and life with courage and a unique perspective that transcended conventions.
This new concept and challenging variety show is mainly based on the theme of physical competition. There is a big difference from the previous show. At the beginning of the show, the guests not only have to dress up in gorgeous costumes, but also go through muddy swamps to find the fruits of victory together until they successfully reach the finish line. In this tense atmosphere, everyone's emotions and emotions will be amplified, and the emotional bond will be tested like never before.
In childhood, beautiful fairy tales often end with a happy ending for a prince and princess. However, this mission, full of mud and difficulty, completely subverts the sweetness and fantasy of fairy tales. "Life doesn't change dramatically just because of a promise or a solemn ceremony. On the contrary, in real life, we have to face a variety of challenges and dilemmas. How do we deal with these times? Here's the answer: all illusions and promises will eventually be revealed by reality. ”
Every link shown in the program basically shows the necessary path for marriage and the whole life: how to bravely face difficulties, solve contradictions and conflicts in marriage, how to keep a clear head in difficult situations, and bravely face failures. For Ms. Li, these questions are important topics that she needs to think about seriously before she enters the palace of marriage.
Of course, she doesn't just see negativity and pessimism, after all, a marriage relationship is just a personal experience for two people. She expressed her unique understanding of life in simple but powerful language: "This is the beautiful result of helping each other, making progress together, and moving towards the sunny road." ”
After watching "The Battle of Love", Ms. Li Ai deeply felt that every relationship has a unique value, and creating sweet happiness is the foundation. The show invited a number of couples to discuss and discuss a series of hot topics, such as "How to deal with the photos of your ex when you are cleaning?", "How to interpret the eyes of your boyfriend's friends?", and "In the face of your boyfriend's debts, should you choose to tide over the difficulties together?", etc., which aroused widespread attention and heated discussions. As for how to feel about their boyfriend's poor dress today, the girls have shown their own ways of coping.
In the complex social opinion, there are always various controversies about the relationship and emotional patterns between the sexes. However, Ms. Li Ai firmly believes that there is no such thing as a necessary way to fall in love, as long as both parties feel positive and happy, it is the right line of love. In addition, by watching this episode, she and her husband were able to have an in-depth exchange and inspire a deeper understanding.
As Ms. Li Ai's husband and manager, Mr. Zhang has accompanied his wife to participate in many variety shows, but he has shown special attention to "The Battle of Love". They often talk about the experience of the show together and think deeply. In fact, couples who go all out to plan their wedding have become role models and guides in their lives. Mr. and Mrs. Li Ai have been married for nearly ten years, and they have also experienced the transformation from being passionate lovers to working together. They work together to create a good life, sometimes taking turns sharing the burden of household chores.
However, Li Ai believes that there is nothing wrong with this "comrade-in-arms" mode of getting along: "Marriage is born for the goal of common pursuit, and we need to walk together for it." She took a cue from it: "We are too focused on pursuing personal goals and need to be more observant of each other and family interactions. "On the road of husband and wife moving forward side by side, they not only need to be in the same boat and work together, but also know how to appreciate each other, care about each other's growth and dedication, and see themselves in each other's eyes.
To this day, many young people have similar views such as "no marriage and no child, no peace, no wise man in love, no widow and one king all the way to the master's degree", including Miss Li Ai, who bravely expressed such beliefs at that time. However, when she looks back, she admits that she couldn't really accept the instability in her life at that time.
"I was looking forward to my life going as planned, so I was afraid of change. Marriage and childbearing represent endless unknowns. After that stage, Ms. Li Ai found that her heart was still weak and full of fear for the future. She described herself as fragile and immature. The reason is that fear prevents her from facing the uncertainties in life, and not being strong enough makes it difficult to tolerate diversity in life.
However, good things are always presenting themselves in constant change. It is this process of transformation that makes Miss Li Ai gradually Xi and accept the existence of those uncertainties, and constantly find strength in them. She is willing to accept marriage and join hands with her beloved to overcome difficulties, and she also longs for a like-minded person to become the father of her children and share the growth of life.
During her marriage journey with her current husband, Ms. Li Ai felt extremely comfortable. Whether it's confiding in your troubles or revealing your true self, the other person will accept it all. "Even though others are biased against me, I look back at him and still feel okay because he always believed that I was a good person. She said with emotion.
Today's Miss Li Ai exudes endless happiness all over her body. The source of her happiness comes from marriage, and the birth of a child makes her even more happy. In the moment, she is convinced that her choices and decisions are correct.
Although Ms. Li Ai does not support marriage and having children as a necessary part of life, she is still willing to say to young people: "This may be an option you can consider." "Be bold enough to embrace the uncertainties of life, experience the richness of life, and embrace the unknowns of life.
The marriage and love-themed TV series "Hot Us" presents various emotional patterns, including the fireworks of the world's "long-distance love run", the "sister and brother love" where the sister is widowed but still struggles to pursue love, and the "exotic relationship" that crosses the ocean. The collision of various emotions shows the diversity and complexity of real life. Even if there is no final victory in this pluralistic relationship, every love is touching, and every happiness is unique.
With this, Ms. Li Ai re-explores the freedom and comfort in marriage and love relationships. "Don't be too nervous, just keep a relaxed and happy mind. She said.
Of course, in addition to the marriage and love relationship, the wisdom of life told by Miss Li Ai is also profound and moving. No matter what stage of life you are in, everyone has the right to control their own destiny. Looking back on Ms. Li Ai's career and marriage, she has been actively seeking a turnaround in difficult situations, moving forward step by step, fearless of difficulties, and blooming with infinite possibilities in life.
In terms of love and marriage, Ms. Li Ai bravely met the challenges, constantly improved herself, adhered to her original intention, maintained independent thinking, and finally ushered in a bumper harvest in the baptism of the years. As she wrote in a recent Weibo post: "As a kite chasing the wind and waves, I have concerns, but I can still fly higher." Miss Li Ai, who has entered her forties, is at the peak of her life, ready to embrace her dreams again.