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This is the 3052nd real story we have told
My name is Wei Gongzi, and it took me seven years to get out of a marriage that didn't belong to me, and it took me a year to travel and find my true self.
I have been a self-media blogger for three years, and I am often so tired that my hands are swollen, but I still enjoy it, and I get an annual salary of four or five hundred thousand yuan, and I have lived a new chapter in my life.
In the continuous grinding, I saw the way I got along with my parents, and I was more introspective about how to get along with myself better.
Now I am surrounded by flowers and plants and cute dogs every day, trying my best to come up with all kinds of novel ideas and constantly enrich my life.
People come into the world not only to live, but also to learn to live.
(I'm in my own balcony garden)
My name is Wei Gongzi, I am 44 years old this year, from Shenyang, Liaoning Province.
When I was in the construction business with my father, I met a man and I got married in 2010, and I retired from the family.
After two years of marriage, I found out that he was cheating in marriage, and I naively thought that maybe it was only this time, and I forgave him. As it turned out, I was wrong.
At that time, we could be said to be financially worry-free, and we had villas, cars, and savings.
Later, I found out that he was not only physically cheating, but also had more other things that I couldn't tolerate, in a word, a loser.
I didn't cry because I knew that crying was the most useless. If a person cares about you, and you sneeze, he will ask you what's wrong, and if he doesn't care about you, you're hanging, and he thinks you're swinging.
In the next seven years, I tried to focus on myself, fitness, beauty, learning Xi piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, learning foreign languages, etc., and constantly enriched myself.
Our relationship was slowly consumed in the past seven years, until there was no thought at all, and I left without looking back.
(Me on Travel)
Finally, in 2019, I chose to divorce and end the relationship that was not suitable for me. In order to get a divorce as soon as possible, I chose to divorce by agreement, voluntarily gave up all my property, and left the house. The moment I got the divorce certificate, my whole body became relaxed.
In the following year, I traveled everywhere, to many cities in the country, and to many countries. The beautiful scenery not only filled my eyes, but also washed my body and mind, and the whole person became more transparent.
In 2020, I returned home.
My father, who had been ill for more than 10 years and had been paralyzed for three years, was sickened during the epidemic, with liver disease, kidney failure, and finally lung cancer. The doctor said he could only try to maintain his condition.
My father, who is seriously ill, needs the company of his family, and as a daughter, I am obligated to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of him and making him feel family affection and warmth.
I went to the hospital every day to accompany him as if I were going to work. But as soon as I go to the hospital, I feel bad, and every scene there makes me very worried. When my father was at the height of his illness, I didn't come home for a week, and my whole state became very depressed.
(Sunlight shines on the large leaves of the monstera)
When I dragged my tired body back home, I accidentally saw that the monstera had grown a large leaf, and at that moment, I felt like I had been shocked by electricity, and I burst into tears instantly.
This large green leaf made me feel a strong vitality.
Human birth, old age, sickness and death are natural laws, and no one can resist them. We need to be more surrendering and accepting.
In September 2021, my father left us forever at the age of 78. Mom is the saddest, mom is the character of a little woman, her relationship with her father is not very good, but she would rather stay in an unhappy marriage.
When my father left, she became more timid, especially afraid of loneliness, very clingy to me, and her temperament became more abrasive, and sometimes I was about to be driven crazy by her.
In order to take her to relax, I drove her to Inner Mongolia, Qinghai, Guizhou, Hubei and many other places.
Once, I took her and one of my girlfriends on a trip to Chengde, and when I was about to return home, I heard the weather forecast that there would be extremely strong weather that day, and there would be heavy rain, so I decided to go home the next day. Unexpectedly, at 3 p.m., she had to go home, and I told her that it was not safe to drive on the highway during a rainstorm. She didn't listen at all, saying that if I didn't want to leave, she would take the train by herself.
(I'm on the go)
It didn't make sense, so I had to rely on her and drive on the road. Just 10 minutes on the highway, the rain poured down, and it was bad weather that I had never encountered in 20 years of driving. Heavy rain, thunderstorms, cross winds, wipers can't be opened, driving on the highway is like driving a boat.
At this time, she was scared and insisted on letting me get off the highway and go back. However, when I got on the highway, how could I just say that I could get off the road? I could only drive forward, and she sat behind her and cried out loud in fright.
It was only 5 hours away, and it took me almost 8 hours to get home from 3 p.m. to 10:30 p.m.
I know that she didn't mean to go against me, she just wanted me to pay more attention to her instead of my girlfriend, who was "jealous".
Therefore, I am not really angry with her, I just have to learn to pay more attention to her emotions and her needs.
An unhappy marriage can really trigger a lot of emotions, and it will be terrible once it erupts.
So, for an unhappy marriage, my choice is to stop the loss in time. And the mother's choice is forbearance. My mother couldn't understand me at all when I chose to divorce, and she always nagged me. And I can't understand why she didn't choose to divorce. But all this, after the death of my father, was relieved.
(The sun shines warmly on the flowers I raise)
When people come to the world once, it is only a few decades in total, and it is good to do it and cherish it.
I'm even more convinced that I'm not going to live a life that makes me feel comfortable. Everyone has their own choice, and it's good to choose the one that suits you.
I didn't have children. Many people will ask me, don't you need your children to take care of you in the future? I think everyone's life is different and cannot be replicated. You envy other people's children, and others may envy the freedom to go as you say.
And I, too, am grateful for the 7 years before the divorce, the greatest gift to me was to cultivate my perseverance. After watching more and experiencing more, I have understood many things, which has given me the ability to adjust my life to my favorite channel and plan my life according to my heart.
Thankfully, I didn't deviate too much from my life trajectory throughout.
In the past, I used to be a full-time wife at home, and I would buy and buy all day long. In fact, spending money can buy pleasure, not happiness. Especially in the morning of a failed marriage, spending money seems to be a kind of revenge.
But now it's different, I care more about spiritual things, and I'm more willing to travel and share my daily life insights.
(See the fun scenery when traveling)
In October 2019, I traveled to Sri Lanka. The country is known as the Land of Smiles, and although it is not very rich, it is very simple.
They will put the brakes on a dog, a lizard, or even a tiny animal, and in their eyes, all life is equal.
They are happy to share. If they meet a very hungry person, they will give him half of their food. Every day after dinner, it is the time for them to call and chat with relatives and friends, sharing the joys, worries and even trivial things of the day. They feel that the emotions between people need to be communicated in order to be continuously strengthened.
I was influenced by them, and I took it personally. Every morning, I would call my mother to say goodbye to my mother, and I would call two friends every day to communicate, and this kind of spiritual companionship and sharing made me truly feel happy. I'm going to try to live the way I like.
During the epidemic, I didn't have any income, but the self-media gave me a ray of life and gave me a lot of self-confidence.
(The flowers I raise are densely placed next to each other)
At first, I didn't know anything, I didn't even know what a script was, I didn't know what an editing was, and I didn't know how to arrange music. I just looked for all kinds of related videos to watch, and I learned little by little, and I learned them all slowly. When I started doing things, I felt that I was really a "desperate Sanniang".
It's not difficult for me to write a proposal, it's the creativity that is difficult, and it's really not easy to write a very attractive copy. Especially when we shoot power consumption products, we often have to write different copywriting for a product that has been shot hundreds or thousands of times.
Since I became a blogger, I have grown a lot of my own hair when I want to be creative. Therefore, I prefer to shoot lifestyle videos, and one day when I am old, I can also see myself when I was younger.
One of the things I like more about being a blogger is that it's very exercised. In the process of creating, you will encounter all kinds of problems, so you must take the initiative to learn how to solve them Xi. Over the course of the year, I feel like I've learned a lot of talent. I knew that I would be a blogger in this life, and I learned a little more talent when I was a child.
In order to shoot well, sometimes it really drives me crazy. For example, when photographing a glass-cleaning robot, it can be wiped clean, but it has to be wiped without any marks, which is impossible. After all, robots are robots. So, I had to take its place, climb up to a high place, wipe off the marks left by the robot, and then let it lie on it to shoot.
(The flowers are in full bloom)
It's the same with clipping. I'm not Xi to using computer editing, and editing with my mobile phone will make my eyes very hard and I feel tired and blind. When I was the busiest, I either shot or cut all day, and both wrists were tired and swollen, and I needed to apply two plasters before continuing to dry. The process was tiring and hard, but it was also very happy and satisfying.
Who doesn't work hard to make a good life for themselves?
I think that in today's situation, I can rely on my own mind and physical strength to make money, and it is something I love, and the annual salary of 400,000 or 500,000 yuan is not much, but this is my self-leap from a full-time wife to starting my own business now. All of this has made me very satisfied.
I don't need to listen to other people's comments about how I've changed, I just need to be better than my old self.
I also have three adorable puppies with me. The teddy I bought myself is called Yoyo, like me, it is relatively cold, it does not gather crowds, does not participate in the fight, and plays by itself. The gray teddy bean bun and Akita Fukubo were both picked up. Both of them pestered me a lot, especially the bean buns.
The bean bag was just thrown in the park and I brought it back when it was only 2 months old.
(My adorable three puppies)
Fu Bao was on December 27, 2021, when I entered the mountain, I saw a puppy lying in the middle of the road, I should have just been abandoned in the mountain, because I couldn't see with my eyes, and I couldn't hide from the car. I took it to the pet hospital, and the doctor examined it and told me that it was a genetic disease and could not be cured.
My first thought was that I was going to take it home and raise it. It's been two years now, and it often gets sick and needs to go to the pet hospital for treatment, and it costs more money to see a doctor every year than me.
Now, raising flowers and grass will occupy a quarter of my time, being a blogger will occupy half of my time, and the remaining quarter of the time, I will be accompanied by three cute puppies, reading books and enjoying the scenery and enjoying life.
However, life is not only about what is in front of you, but also about poetry and distance.
After a while, I will go out for a walk again to make my life more exciting and different.
(Welcome to "Wei Gongzi's Balcony Garden")
[Dictation: Wei Gongzi]
[Editor: Purple Rose Ice Ling'er]
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