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At that time, I was 35 years old, and I was an advanced maternal age. I was worried that there would be risks, but my husband Zhang Dashan always encouraged me and told me to give birth with confidence. He said, "Meimei, with me, don't worry." Our little one will be born safely. "I've gradually let go of my worries.
However, the unexpected happened. During pregnancy, I suddenly had gestational hypertension and had to have a caesarean section. I lay on the operating table and watched my husband pacing anxiously outside the operating room. The doctor said that the child was healthy, and I was relieved.
After giving birth, I was already weak, but my husband was still busy with work and rarely came to the hospital to see me. I called him and said, "Dashan, remember to come and see me and the baby when you're done." He always said perfunctorily: "I know, I know, I'll take time as soon as possible." ”
On the day I was discharged from the hospital, my husband didn't come to pick me up because of overtime at work. I had to call Didi home. As soon as I entered the door, I saw the mess in my home, and sighed silently in my heart.
Xiaohua ran over and hugged my thighs, and said coquettishly, "Mom, you're finally back!" Dad hasn't taken care of me since you entered the hospital, and he hasn't cooked for me, I miss you so much!"
I picked up Xiaohua in distress and comforted her: "Mom is back, and she will take good care of you and Xiao Ming." Dad is very busy at work, you have to understand him. ”
When my husband came back in the evening, I couldn't help but say, "You can also take time to help me take care of the children and housework, I am still very weak after giving birth." ”
My husband said disapprehantly: "I'm so busy with work, how can I have time to take care of this? Haven't you been taking care of the family at home? I believe that you are fully capable of handling this." ”
I was very discouraged when I heard this, and I wondered if I was the only one in our marriage? Is my husband too inconsiderate and only treats me as the labor force of the family? Will there be a crack in our relationship?
As my children grew older, my body weakened day by day.
One day, I was so tired that I said to my husband, "Dashan, can you take a leave of absence to help me take care of the children?" ”
The husband said impatiently: "I'm so busy, how can I ask for leave casually? With the child here, you can take good care of it, this is your responsibility as a mother." ”
I couldn't help but raise my voice: "I need to rest too! Don't you want a little sense of family responsibility?"
My husband also shouted, "I work for my family!" Do you know the financial burden I bear? You complain all day long!"
The sound of the quarrel woke up the child, Xiaohua ran over crying, and Xiao Ming also cried in the crib. My heart was like a knife, and I hurried to hug the children. My husband took a look at it, snorted coldly and went out to work.
That night, my husband worked overtime and came home late. I was disheartened and felt that our relationship had come to an end. I asked for a divorce from him, and he agreed without saying a word.
I said, "Mom, we're really out of feelings. My husband only cares about work and never cares about me and the children. I'm too tired to keep this marriage going. ”
My mother comforted me: "You are only temporarily emotionally discordant, you can adjust slowly." As a husband and wife, you should understand and support each other, and you should communicate more. Dad, I will come to help you take care of the children, and you husband and wife will have a good talk. ”
I listened to my mother's words, and my heart was a little shaken. Divorce has too much impact on children. I thought maybe we should really sit down and have a good talk.
The husband looked at the children, and his face softened: "I'm sorry, I was too focused on work during this time and neglected my family." Meimei, I know it's wrong, can you forgive me, let's start over?"
I saw my husband's attitude soften, and I had hope in my heart. Maybe it's not a better choice to give our feelings a chance?
After that argument and divorce crisis, my husband and I both realized the need to work hard for our marriage.
My husband is starting to learn to spend time with me and the kids. Every day after work, he would take time to have dinner with us and chat. After dinner, our family would sit in front of the TV and watch cartoons, and the two children would laugh happily.
One day, my husband said to me, "Meimei, I'll take you and your children to the amusement park on the weekend." ”
I happily said, "Okay, my kids and I haven't been out for a long time!"
On the weekend at the amusement park, watching the children have fun, my husband and I gradually regained our original sweetness. We sat on the bench, and my husband took me in his arms and whispered, "I'm sorry, I've been working too hard all these years and haven't taken care of you and your children." From now on, I will change. ”
I leaned into my husband's arms and was also very moved: "I was wrong too, I shouldn't always complain about you." We all need to learn to understand and tolerate each other. ”
Slowly, the husband became more committed to the family. He began to take the initiative to share some household chores, such as washing dishes, cooking, grocery shopping, and picking up and dropping off children. Although I am not very proficient yet, I am very pleased to see his intentions.
One night, I was changing Xiao Ming's diaper, and my husband came over and said, "Meimei, let me come, you guide me how to change." ”
I watched my husband take care of the children with his own hands, and I was very moved.
After another period of time, my husband said to me: "Meimei, the company's performance has been good recently, give me a raise." I think our family will go to the beach for a little vacation and relax, don't you say?"
I happily agreed. So, our family drove to the beachfront resort, where we spent a relaxing and enjoyable two-day vacation. Watching my husband and children frolicking on the beach, our relationship became more and more intimate.
During this time, my husband has changed, and I feel that he has made us home again. I also stopped complaining and did my best to help my husband with the housework. We communicate more with each other and understand each other more and more. I believe that after this adjustment, our marriage will become more happy.
As time went on, the relationship between me and my husband got better and better. We learned to understand, support and trust each other.
One night, after the kids went to sleep, my husband and I sat on the balcony looking at the stars and chatting softly.
"Dashan, do you remember when we first fell in love? At that time, we were tired of being together every day, and now I think about it, it's so sweet. I laughed.
My husband held my hand and said gently, "Of course I remember, I only had you in my eyes at that time." Later, when there were more trivial things in life, I admit that I became less considerate. But aren't we doing well now?"
"Well, yes, we've got our old feeling back. Thank you for the change during this time, I see the importance you place on your family. I said with emotion.
"That's what I'm supposed to do. You've always been a good wife and mother, and I'm the one to thank you. My husband said.
"Then let's thank each other for working together to maintain this relationship. I smiled and proposed.
"Okay, I love you, Meimei. "I love you too, Yama. "We exchanged a romantic kiss.
"Yay! Xiaohua jumped up happily.
In the zoo, watching the children happy, my husband and I also held hands and walked warmly. We watched the monkeys play around and laughed.
"Mom, I love monkeys the most! Xiaohua said.
"Then let's go to the pet store and buy a little monkey doll later. My husband said to Xiaohua.
I laughed and joked to my husband, "Do you like monkeys too?" ”
"Okay, you're my monkey queen. My husband also joked.
We spent a day at the zoo and the family bondage grew. This warmth makes me feel extremely happy and satisfied.
Now, when I think back to our marital crisis, I still have palpitations. Married life is bound to have ups and downs, but as long as both parties understand and support each other, they can get through it. My husband and I have grown a lot in this turmoil.
On the road of life, whether it is a relationship or a road, it will not be smooth sailing. But as long as we learn to be tolerant, we can slowly walk through detours and return to the sunny road of happiness. I believe, not
After we got through that marital turmoil, my relationship with my husband became stronger and stronger. We learn to support each other and take care of our children together.
One day, my husband said to me: "Meimei, the company recently asked me to go on a business trip for a month, and the family and children will ask you during this period." I'll try to find time to come back to see you. ”
I said understandingly, "Go ahead, work is important." I'll take care of the house, and you have to pay attention to your body outside. ”
My husband hugged me and said, "I'm relieved to have such a virtuous helper as you." I'll come back in a month, and our family will go on vacation to Hainan, okay?"
I smiled and nodded, "Okay, the child and I will look forward to your return." ”
After my husband went on a business trip, I took on the housework and taking care of the children on my own. Although it was hard work, I gladly accepted it when I thought that it was for the sake of my family.
One day, Xiao Ming caught a cold and fever. I nervously took him to the hospital, and called my husband and said, "Dashan, Xiao Ming has a cold and fever, so I took him to the doctor." You also have to pay attention to your body when you are outside. ”
My husband said anxiously: "What disease does Xiao Ming have? Is the situation serious? You have worked hard with two children alone, I want to rush home now!"
I comforted my husband: "Don't worry, the doctor said it was a small cold, and it will be fine if you prescribe some medicine." You concentrate on your work, come back early and we'll go on vacation together. ”
When I hung up the phone, my heart was moved and warm. My husband's concern made me know that he has treated us as real family.
I am sincerely proud and happy for my husband. We're starting our long-awaited family vacation, and we're about to set off soon.
The days of vacation are the happiest times for our family. We played in the water at the beach, enjoyed the sea view at the hotel, and had fun every day.
This also made me really feel that it is the greatest happiness to be together as a family. My husband and I were on the verge of breaking up due to work and family conflicts, but now we have learned to understand and support each other, and our relationship is stronger than ever.
Looking back on the journey we have travelled through marriage, I am filled with emotion. However, life is a long way, and my husband and two children and I will continue to go hand in hand. In the days to come, we will cherish the happy life we have now, and we will also actively face various new challenges.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, the children have grown up.
Xiaohua is already in elementary school, and Xiao Ming is also going to kindergarten. My husband and I are very happy with the growth of our children.
Xiaohua said happily: "I know, Mom, I will!"
My husband also said: "Yes, our little flower is so good, we must be able to make a lot of friends at school!"
I smiled and said to my husband, "What you said just now seemed to be praising yourself." Little Flower inherited your genes, so it's going to be great, isn't it?"
My husband touched his head and said, "You have seen through it! Our good genes will be passed on to Xiaohua!"
Watching the happy little flower run into the school gate, my husband and I looked at each other and smiled, holding hands and walking home slowly.
The teacher said gently: "Xiao Ming, I'm the teacher's aunt, can you play with me?"
Xiao Ming was still a little shy and hid behind me to peek at the teacher.
My husband said encouragingly: "Xiao Ming, don't be afraid, the teacher and aunt are very good." You see, there are so many toys in it, and soon you will have fun with the little ones!"
With the encouragement of her husband, Xiao Ming gradually became close to the teacher. I watched my husband handle it skillfully, and I was impressed with him.
Now that the children are in school, my husband and I have a much easier life. We spend time together playing sports, going to the movies, traveling, and living a variety of things.
One day, my husband and I were strolling through the park after watching a movie. I said to my husband, "When the children grow up, it's time for us to enjoy the world together." ”
My husband smiled and said, "Yes, we still have many romantic plans to do!
"These are all good plans! But I hope we can continue to walk hand in hand like this, and spend time with you and me. I leaned on my husband's shoulder and said.