I have a unique Xi of drinking nourishing soup when I am confinement. My name is Wang Lihua, and I just married a man from a good family this year.
After marrying into my in-laws' family, I soon became pregnant. During the confinement period, I had to stew a big pot of soup every day to nourish my body, but my mother-in-law always complained that it cost electricity and that my soup had been stewed for too long. In the first month of my stew, my mother-in-law directly turned off the electric switch, and the soup I had worked so hard to stew was just gone.
I was sad, but I didn't dare to quarrel with my mother-in-law, so I had to swallow my anger. However, I didn't expect that this incident would have a huge impact on my relationship with my husband.
Because of this conflict, my husband and I had a conflict. He felt that I was too weak in handling the matter and did not advocate for my own rights, and I felt that he was not thinking from my point of view. We quarreled more and more, and gradually we became strangers. I was really scared that our marriage would be ruined by a soup like this.
Now, I don't know what to do. I was in a mess and didn't know who to talk to about it. Perhaps, I need some time to calm down, or maybe I should do something to salvage the relationship. I'm really confused, and I don't know what to do next.
It didn't take long for another unexpected thing to happen. On this day, I was pondering the contradictions in my marriage when I suddenly received a call from my husband saying that my mother was sick and hospitalized. I thought to myself, this is a great opportunity to bring us closer. So I decided to visit my mother-in-law.
When I came to the hospital and saw the pale face of my mother-in-law in the ward, I felt a trace of unbearability in my heart. I stayed by her side, took care of her food and water, and asked her from time to time if she was feeling unwell lately. Gradually, my mother-in-law became more grateful to me, and I could see that she had gradually changed her mind about me.
However, at this moment, something unexpected happened to me. One day, my husband suddenly came to me and said in a serious tone: "Mom suspected that you were unfaithful to me, and she found a fortune teller and said that you were unfaithful to me. "I can't believe my ears, does my mother-in-law think I've betrayed my husband?
I felt very aggrieved and resentful, and at the same time, I was even more restless. My mother-in-law actually believed such nonsense, didn't she know how much such things hurt me? However, I also knew that my mother-in-law's character was always very extreme in her actions, and she could not listen to other people's explanations. Now it's okay, the previous crisis of breaking the game has added to the fire, and my prejudice against my mother-in-law has deepened.
After some struggle, I decided to be honest with my husband. I found an appropriate time to talk to my husband, and I told him that I felt quite aggrieved by my mother-in-law's actions. My husband also apologized to me, saying that he would communicate with his mother and hoped that she would respect my ideas and Xi.
Soon after, my husband really talked to my mother. But I don't know what they talked about, only that after that, my mother-in-law's attitude towards me became even colder, and she even began to criticize me for everything I did.
Just when I thought that the conflict in our family had eased somewhat, another thing happened that caught me off guard. One day, while I was doing laundry, I accidentally washed one of my mother-in-law's precious silk garments. When I stood in front of her and sincerely apologized, she was unusually tough, blaming me and not even accepting my apology.
I felt very aggrieved and felt that I was becoming more and more redundant in this home. This is not the family I wanted, and I don't know if I can survive in such an environment. I felt excluded and no one cared about how I felt.
I knew I needed to find a solution, but again I felt like I was at a dead end. I don't know what to do next. My mood became more and more depressed, and I felt that my family was getting farther and farther away from me. I was really miserable.
While I was struggling with the crisis in my marriage, another paradox crept in. One day, while tidying up my bedroom at home, I stumbled upon a letter from my husband. I was blown away by the content of the letter, it was a love letter from a woman, and the letter was full of affectionate confessions to her husband. I'm stupid, how could my husband have such a thing? I struggled in my heart, I couldn't believe it. I began to doubt our marriage and I began to doubt myself. I was at a loss and didn't know how to deal with it. The peace of my family was shattered by these conflicts, and I became more and more anxious.
I decided to find out the truth. I followed my husband for a few days and found out that he was often dating a woman, and the heartache hit me like a tidal wave. I couldn't stand such a betrayal, but I didn't know what to do with it. Anger, sadness, and helplessness filled my heart, and I didn't know who to talk to.
At the same time, my mother-in-law became more and more cold to me, she saw that I was not in the right mood, but she did not care and inquire. And I became more and more indifferent because of my low mood, and the contradictions between us became more acute. All of this made me feel like I couldn't breathe and couldn't find a solution to my problem.
Now, I feel like I'm in a daze. I didn't know how to deal with my husband's betrayal, and I didn't know how to deal with the conflict between me and my mother-in-law. These questions suffocated me and I was really overwhelmed.
After a while, my mother-in-law's attitude became more and more defensive, and my relationship with my husband became more and more rigid. Under the manipulation of our mother-in-law, our lives seem to have become more difficult. Every day the attitude towards the mother-in-law and her demands is a torture. Sometimes, I feel like a bird trapped in a cage, eager to fly into the blue sky.
One day, I couldn't help but complain to my husband about this. I told him about my confusion and pain, but he didn't seem to care, and just said lightly that these are family matters, and we should handle the relationship well and be considerate of each other.
The gap between us deepened, and I began to wonder if I really belonged to this family, to this world. Sometimes, I would hide alone in the corner and cry silently. Sometimes, I would look out the window in a daze, fantasizing about one day being free again. This feeling of contradiction and entanglement makes my heart ache immensely. I need to change and take a brave step. But I don't know what I'm supposed to do, and I don't know what this is going to do.
Soon, the mother-in-law found the next reason to be picky. On this day, I was drying clothes on the balcony, and as soon as the wind blew, the quilt flew up. My husband was watching TV in the living room, and my mother-in-law immediately came out, pointed to the quilt that flew out, and scolded me for not being careful enough. I feel very wronged, obviously it was just a momentary negligence, but it was said that it was a big mistake. So, I couldn't help it anymore and started arguing with my mother-in-law. was originally just a trivial matter, but it became the fuse for the two sides to confide in their grievances for many years. My relationship with my mother-in-law has become even worse because of this.
My mother-in-law's vision began to become mean, and she couldn't get along with me every day. The relationship with my husband also gradually became strained, and he often became the fuse of our disputes. I'm really worried that our marriage will fall apart because of such conflicts.
Perhaps, it was my lack of courage to fight for my rights and interests that led to the conflict between us. I began to understand that I had to be brave and not always let my mother-in-law and others get angry at will, otherwise I would only dig a deeper hole for myself.
However, I don't regret the effort I put into this family. I know it's not a simple problem, and it's not going to happen overnight. I only hope that the contradictions between us can be gradually resolved, leaving a little hope for the future.