There's a problem here, and it's probably something that everyone, especially men, has to deal with. What is the basis of marriage? Is it emotional, or is it financial? In fact, in reality, there are countless things that break up or are rejected because the conditions cannot meet the other party's satisfaction.
Therefore, there are many people who can't help but sigh and sigh when facing such a thing, love is really worthless in the face of reality. And the next incident fully illustrates this point, and because of improper handling, it eventually led to a tragedy.
In 2021, the man Li fell in love with the woman Xu at first sight, and confirmed the relationship after understanding the two parties, but the relationship lasted for less than a year and ended in a breakup, and the reason was actually due to work and family conditions. In fact, to put it bluntly, Xu dislikes Li's job and the family conditions are average.
However, Xu did not completely block the words, but left a way for Li, as long as he can pass the establishment of the unit and become a regular staff, he will reconsider the relationship and marriage of the two. It can be seen that Li cares about Xu very much, and for her Li began to participate in the preparation exam.
But unfortunately, Li was not admitted to the establishment for various reasons, and at this time he brought up the matter of compounding again. However, Xu made it clear that if he was not admitted, he would no longer consider the relationship between the two parties, and Li was very sad about this. Since Li and Xu are colleagues, he soon learned that Xu had a new boyfriend.
The sad Li was very unwilling, and one day in February 2023, he came to the dormitory to ask Xu for an appointment, but Xu refused to meet him. Xu's attitude is actually very clear, that is, it shows that there is no possibility between them, and Li has already done what he should do, since it has reached this point, there is no need to entangle it anymore.
However, under the extreme sadness, Li did something that no one could imagine, he actually jumped off the fire emergency passage of Xu's residence, and finally died due to his injuries, which is really sad. I think everyone will feel very sorry to hear this sad news.
If the other party cares about you and wants to marry you, they won't embarrass you because of work and conditions, otherwise there is no need to continue. After Li's death, his mother, in grief and anger, sued Xu and claimed 350,000 yuan from him.
Li's mother believes that Xu controlled Li mentally and financially during his relationship with Li, which was also the main reason why Li jumped off the building. And Xu said that Li asked to meet him that night, she just thought it was very late, and they had broken up, so it was not appropriate to meet in such a scene, so she refused, and she didn't expect Li to jump off the building.
The attitude of refusal is also the attitude of Li's mother's claim. In short, the two people insisted on their own words, and it was difficult to reach an agreement, and finally under the efforts of the court staff, Xu finally compensated Li's mother 100,000 yuan and reached a settlement. In fact, no one wants to see Li end his life in such a way.
It's just that Xu did mishandle this matter, and rejecting the other party on the grounds of work and family conditions has actually hurt Li's self-esteem. Since Xu cared about these things, in the process of understanding, he should not have fallen in love with Li, let alone say anything about the test preparation. Therefore, when everyone deals with feelings, they must treat each other well, and they must solve it in the most appropriate way, and don't do it willfully. What do you think about this?