"I'm going to visit ......"
In the countryside, we can often hear this phrase.
Whether it is a parent or a child, after eating, they will go to the neighbor's house to chat, which is the traditional Chinese custom of "visiting the door".
However, I don't know when the phenomenon of "visiting the door" began to disappear.
What's going on here?
An integral part of traditional Chinese communities: Visiting the door
Since ancient times, Chinese people have had the traditional Xi of visiting each other and exchanging feelings, which is to visit each other.
In ancient times, neighbors were very close to each other, and people often visited each other to help each other and share the moments of life.
Over time, visiting the door has become a Xi way of socializing in Chinese community life.
In ancient times, it was not only a way to exchange information and exchange feelings, but also a way to spread culture.
During this period, legends, messages and practical experiences were disseminated in this way, bringing family members and neighbors closer together.
Not only that, but visiting the door is also a way to relieve stress and relax, so that people can find solace in the soul after the intense work.
For example, in the courtyard of the old Beijing, neighbors can communicate with each other freely and relieve the pressure of work and life.
In the past, due to the slow pace of people's daily life, it was very important to visit the door, especially in rural areas, where neighbors were relatively close, and people could freely enter and exit their homes and share the joys and sorrows of life.
In rural areas, regardless of time and place, everyone is Xi to visit relatives and friends at will.
For example, after the busy farming in the lunar month, men, women and children will go to the neighbor's house to chat, and they can also eat snacks together to enhance their feelings.
It can be said that in the past, visiting the door was not only a social activity, but also carried a profound cultural connotation, and people passed on information and experience through the visit, so that various stories and folklore were handed down.
Chat with friends and family, with a wide range of content, and talk about everything, so that everyone can have fun after work.
In this way, generation after generation will pass on the wisdom of collective life and become the precious wealth of the Chinese nation.
Reasons why people like to hang out
I remember when I was a child, whenever summer came, I would always see nearby villagers carrying hoes or burdens to visit each other.
Although the days were simple, the smiles on everyone's faces were incomparably brighter.
This is because in those days, visiting homes was not only a way of life, but also an important way to enhance friendship between neighbors.
Rural life at that time was slower-paced and lacked abundant recreational facilities and leisure activities, so most people chose to spend their free time chatting at other people's homes.
However, whether it is in daily life or in the process of agricultural production, it needs the help and support of the villagers in the same village.
Therefore, visiting the door has become an effective means for them to pass on information, share experiences and enhance mutual trust.
Although the material standard of living at that time was relatively low, on the spiritual level, the need for human relationships was much stronger.
In the eyes of the villagers, nothing is more important than friendly interactions between neighbors, who will show their concern and respect for others through door-to-door visits, and take the opportunity to pour out their hearts and ask for help and advice.
In this process, the friendship between neighbors is well sublimated, thus forming a close social network.
And for the transportation of that era was not developed, the distance between the villages was relatively long.
In order to save time and energy, villagers will choose to wait for friends to arrive at their doorstep, which can not only avoid unnecessary travel costs, but also better enjoy the fun of visiting the door.
For children, every time a little friend comes to the door and rings the doorbell, it is full of anticipation and surprise.
Not only that, but visiting is also an effective way to acquire practical knowledge and skills.
In those years, most of the villagers in the countryside were mainly engaged in agriculture, and their crop yields were often not high due to the lack of scientific knowledge and technology in planting.
Therefore, the villagers often exchange planting experience, learn new Xi and discuss how to improve production efficiency during the visit.
This approach is beneficial both for the development of the individual and for the progress of the community as a whole.
It can be said that the past craze for visiting doors is the result of a combination of factors.
Whether it was for physical needs, emotional communication, or the acquisition of practical knowledge, it became an indispensable part of the people of that era.
Although changes in modern society have gradually reduced the number of visits, we can still learn many valuable things from past experiences, such as the importance of strengthening interpersonal relationships and valuing everyone around us.
After all, these are key elements of how we build great communities.
Why don't people like to visit now?
Nowadays, whether it is an urban office worker or a young person in the countryside, their daily life seems to be occupied by work, and it is difficult for them to have the opportunity to go out of their own world and reach out to others.
With the development of society and the progress of science and technology, the pace of life of rural people is gradually accelerating.
This fast-paced lifestyle leaves farmers with little time to visit their homes.
In addition, with the acceleration of urbanization, the rural living environment has also undergone great changes, and many residents who have moved into new communities tend to be estranged from their neighbors and are no longer convenient to visit.
The increasing pressure of work and fierce social competition have left many people with little time to go elsewhere after their daily work, especially young people who have gone to the cities to work hard in pursuit of higher incomes and development opportunities, leaving only the old, weak, sick and disabled at home.
As a result, the interaction between neighbors is greatly reduced.
Farmers in the past had a lot of leisure time, but now they have to not only do farm work, but also have to deal with various other affairs, and even need to go out to work to earn a living.
It can be said that modern people's lives are becoming more and more stressful, they pay more attention to self-realization and development, and their need for interpersonal relationships is not as strong as before.
Due to the fierce competition in modern society, people are worried about their safety and are reluctant to easily expose their personal information.
What's more, traditional contact methods have been replaced by smartphones and other electronic devices, such as various social platforms, which provide people with more convenient ways to disseminate information.
On these platforms, users can share their lives anytime and anywhere, meeting people's needs for social interaction.
In contrast, the traditional form of hanging out is too cumbersome and time-consuming to adapt to the modern fast-paced lifestyle.
Moreover, the diversification of entertainment methods has also reduced people's willingness to visit the house, and they can get rich entertainment content through TV and mobile phones at home.
From a psychological point of view, we will find a phenomenon called "interpersonal avoidance", in which people actively avoid too much social interaction due to inner tension or fear of rejection.
It is a psychological law that is prevalent in human interactions, and it affects the scope of our communication and the possibility of forming deep feelings with others.
Coupled with the increasing competition in modern society, there are very high requirements in both the workplace and the academic field.
In order to gain a foothold in this competitive environment, many young people have to devote more energy to their studies and Xi work, and in the face of this situation, young people prefer to stay in their comfort zone and lack the motivation and courage to go out of the house.
Although there are many factors that influence people's door-to-door behavior, the culture of door-to-door visits in rural areas still exists.
This is because, compared to urban dwellers, rural residents have more stable lives, stronger interpersonal relationships, and a lower quality of life, so they will appreciate the opportunity to interact with others more.
Not only that, but rural areas have a lower population density, making it easier for people to form strong community networks, which promotes the continued development of the culture of the visitor.
Whether in the city or in the countryside, people's lifestyles are changing.
While some are apprehensive about these changes, we should also be aware of the opportunities and possibilities they bring.
No matter what happens in the future, we hope that everyone can maintain their original intentions, adhere to the values of truth, goodness and beauty, and be able to find their own happiness and joy in every corner of life.
In the future, we need to pay more attention to the importance of maintaining and carrying forward traditional culture, especially in the digital era, we should make full use of Internet technology, innovate the forms and methods of traditional Xi, and make them better adapt to the development needs of modern society.