"Happy Intervention, I Have a Plan!" Parent Online Sharing Session Series (7)
Many of the various self-media accounts in the autism circle will often share the specific intervention experience of a certain parent, and the same is true for Star Watcher.
Sometimes, we'll see comments like this under this type of article:
"Our children are not like this..."
"Your children are doing better..."
Indeed, although children with autism share common traits, they will vary greatly in degree and specific performance. Since there won't be exactly the same children, are these experiences really useful?
"Happy intervention, I have a plan!" In the 7th issue of the Parent Online Sharing Series, let's take a look at how Maomao's mother views "other people's interventions".
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Share | Maomao's mother
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Hello everyone, I'm Maomao's mother.
Before I shared, you have already listened to a lot of sharing from parents of "top students". The topic I shared was how to "copy" the "homework" of these parents of school tyrants.
As the saying goes, if you are familiar with 300 Tang poems, you can chant if you can't make poems. In the same way, I think that by reading more of the homework of the top students, you can also find a way out of it. Whether you are a new parent or an old parent, referring to other people's intervention plans is also a way to improve yourself.
"Copying" is actually a science. I'll break it down into 3 main points:
1. Whose copy is it?
2. How to copy?
3. Where to copy?
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There is so much homework
Who are we looking for to copy?
Copying homework, we have to look at the object, copy the right person, we can make a day. To copy homework, my first choice is the parents of the top students, followed by ordinary parents.
Let's talk about the parents of school bullies first.
How do we distinguish the parents of school bully? They have one thing in common, that is, they are very knowledgeable, self-contained, and have stable intervention ideas.
As the saying goes, to stand out, there must be strengths. This "long" may vary.
Some parents may have a particularly good intervention method for their children's appetite and can achieve twice the result with half the effort, some parents may have a very big brain, and design games or activities that can take advantage of the child's interests and constantly use the "+1" principle to let the child gradually adapt and grow, or some parents have better basic abilities of the child (which may be related to early family education), and some parents may have a harmonious family atmosphere and the whole family can work together to intervene.
I superficially believe that if you can have two or more of the above characteristics, you don't have to doubt that you are a school bully parent.
However, copying the homework of the top student is not copying, in order to be able to turn it into your own thing and improve your way of thinking. So here's the question:
Which top students are better candidates for copying homework?
Families with similar or slightly better ability levels than their own children (the same level as the social ladder, or up to 1 level higher).
If the top student's child is more than 1 level higher than my child's social ladder, can't he copy it?
You can still copy it, use it as a knowledge reserve, and try it when your child's ability comes up.
Next, let's talk about ordinary parents.
Ordinary parents still have points that we can copy. Ordinary parents may have the experience of failure, and the experience of failure is also very important, failure is the mother of success, and we can avoid pitfalls as much as possible through the experience of failure. And they also have a lot of sparkles of intervention that we can learn from.
After talking about the parents of school bullies and ordinary parents, what are the ones that cannot be copied?
Don't copy the following "black five categories":
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Assignments for top students
How to copy?
Here's an example.
Xueba said, "The moonlight is so beautiful tonight", so should we copy the whole sentence?
No, what we pay attention to is for our use, and what we copy is the way of thinking. We don't have to copy "The moonlight is so beautiful tonight", we can copy it as "The wind is gentle tonight".
Putting it into the intervention, I'll give you another example.
There is a child in our parent group named Biscuit, who likes marine animals very much, and their family has a lot of intervention activities around marine animals, so my family's Maomao's liking for marine animals is average, so I can't impose the activities of Biscuit on Maomao's intervention.
Before copying homework, it is necessary to pay attention to "observation, recording and analysis" to understand the child's interests and hobbies.
For example, if Mao Mao likes cars very much, then I have to observe whether he likes all cars or specific cars, what he likes about cars, whether he likes the wheels, or whether he likes the car to move, what he likes when the car moves, and does he like other activities that feel like this? and so on. Analyze step by step along these lines.
Faced with an assignment for a top student, we can split the copy.
Let's take a look at the chat log below.
First, a parent's question:
Then a parent of a school bully stood up and answered:
We can do a "reading comprehension" of Xueba's answers:
●What steps does Xueba set?
● What is his purpose?
●How do I apply his ideas to myself?
We answer these questions in turn, and find ideas that we can copy.
●What steps does Xueba set?
● What is his purpose?
●How do I apply his ideas to myself?
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Excellent assignments
Where to look?
I share two ways to copy homework.
The first type: hard copying.
●Iron striking also needs its own hardness, and the lessons of the platform need to be listened carefully to enrich the basic knowledge.
●Make use of various resources on the Internet (such as articles, early education app games, sharing by top students, etc.), and you still need to read what you can see, and think more about it.
The second type: soft copying.
● As long as you are brave, the story between you and Xueba will begin. You can take the initiative to contact the parents of the top students and establish a relationship.
● In the group, don't ask for nothing, don't talk for nothing, don't talk about it, and talk more and have more sparks. Don't be shy, speak up and discuss with everyone.
Finally, I want to tell you that homework is copied back and forth, and copying the right ideas is the king.
Thank you for the various guidance of the teachers of Xing'er Watchman, thank you for the help and encouragement of all the old iron in the parent group, and I wish all parents a happy copy on the road in the future, each with their own gains, and rush forward all the way!
Professor Zou Xiaobing commented
This is a sharing on how to learn Xi.
My feeling is that this Maomao mother is most likely not a scumbag, you are a scholar yourself. You have such a strong ability to summarize, you can no longer treat yourself as a scumbag.
In the group, there are many, many parents who are really excellent. I saw the parents of the Star Watchman platform, and I had very little pressure, they were all parents who talked eloquently, understood the BSR model thoroughly, and their children made great progress.
I agree with you about the rules of copying homework, and I'm sure many of us parents can learn from your content. Our parent group is built for parents who are willing to learn Xi and do family intervention, if they are not willing to learn, or do not practice after learning, they will feel that it is useless.
We need to summarize and learn from each other Xi and apply what we have learned to our children's lives, so that our children's future will be improved.
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