I am a retired old man, 52 years old, receiving a retirement salary of 2,800 yuan per month. The son is working in the field, and the daughter-in-law is alone at home with two lovely grandchildren. I don't have a mortgage or car loan, I live a quiet life, so to speak, there is no pressure in material life.
One day, my daughter-in-law Lingling said to me: "Father-in-law, my family has been a little busy recently, can you go to the mall to do a cleaning, just clean up, 200 yuan an hour." I was shocked when I heard this, but my daughter-in-law said this, and I couldn't refuse, so I nodded.
When I arrived at the mall, I changed into uniform uniforms, took a broom and rag, and started my busy sweeping work. I can't help but sigh at the irony that when I was younger, I was the market leader, and now I'm cleaning here.
When I was immersed in self-doubt and helplessness, I suddenly heard a familiar voice: "Hey, why are you here?" I looked up and saw that it was my old friend Zhang San. Zhang San saw that I was a little embarrassed, and persuaded: "Lao Zhou, life, sometimes it's like this." Laugh more in good times and complain less in bad times, so that the mentality will be better. ”
I just smiled bitterly and didn't respond. Zhang San saw that I didn't speak, so he said: "Lao Zhou, when I was a child, we were in the same class, didn't you and I all yearn for different lives? But now, aren't we all the same?" After hearing these words, I was a little moved in my heart. Maybe it's because I need such a gap experience to make me realize myself.
When I got home, my son and daughter-in-law saw that I didn't look right and asked me about my work at the mall. I said with emotion: "Actually, there is no shame in doing cleaning, the problem lies in my own mentality. "My daughter-in-law smiled when she saw that I was open and honest.
At this moment, my grandson came running from the side, took my hand and said, "Grandpa, you don't have to do cleaning, my mother and I can clean up together!" I was stunned for a moment, I didn't expect my grandson to say this. This scene made me feel warm in my heart, and my grandson's words made me re-examine myself and understand some truths.
Now, I have decided to change my mindset and stop complaining and no longer have too much inferiority complex. There is still a long way to go, and I need to adjust my state and face life with a more positive attitude. Because I understand that only in this way can I better integrate myself into this family and win more respect and understanding for myself.
A few days later, a sudden quarrel broke the peace at home. That night, I was about to have dinner with my family when my daughter-in-law suddenly rushed in and asked me with a grim face, "Why are you cleaning people outside?!" I was a little stunned, I didn't know how she knew.
When my daughter-in-law saw that I did not answer, she continued to attack: "Don't you know that we are not short of money, and you still do this kind of rough work and lose the face of our family!" Her words were full of anger and contempt. I wanted to explain, but she didn't give me a chance and left the house without saying a word.
The son replied in silence, only to sigh vigorously. In their eyes, my behavior is undoubtedly a harm to the family, and they think that I am belittling their financial ability and demeaning myself. In the midst of this accident, I felt like I had become a laughing stock in the hearts of my family.
I thought about it that night and realized that what my actions had brought to my family was disappointment and hurt for them. I stayed up all night, and I couldn't be at peace because I felt guilty about my family and my unwillingness to be unwilling.
The next day, I took the initiative to find my daughter-in-law and explained to her word by word what had happened. I told her that I wasn't in it for the money, but I wanted to find a way to feel useful and a respect for life. This moved her a little and relieved me.
However, in the following days, my daughter-in-law's attitude towards me became extremely cold, and she even deliberately avoided talking to me. Her attitude chilled me and I didn't know how to deal with it.
Home used to be a warm and harmonious harbor, but now, it has become vulnerable because of my impulse. I deeply realized the fragility and preciousness of family affection, and at the same time, I also understood that resolving family conflicts is not a simple matter. Now, I can only silently bear my daughter-in-law's coldness, try my best to change myself, and win her understanding and forgiveness.
I don't know how to go in the future, but I will continue to work hard and keep my heart kind and sincere. I hope that one day, family quarrels and conflicts can be resolved smoothly, and we can still have that warmth and harmony.
When I was about to improve my attitude, my daughter-in-law suddenly said to me, "Dad, there are some big family matters in our family that you need to deal with. My heart tightened, not knowing what she wanted me to do. It turned out that the TV at home was out of order and needed to be repaired by a master. My daughter-in-law wanted me to be in charge of the reception master so that she could continue to do housework and take care of the children.
I felt a little unhappy in my heart, feeling that I was being used as a domestic helper. But I also understand that as an elder in the family, whether it is family trivial matters or other things, I should not run away. So, I gritted my teeth and accepted my daughter-in-law's arrangement and called to make an appointment for TV repair services.
When the maintenance master came to the house to fix the TV, I led him to the living room and watched him operate while chatting with him. The maintenance master was very enthusiastic and talked to me a lot. Just as we were talking speculatively, there was a sudden quarrel between the son and the daughter-in-law. The maintenance master stopped what he was doing and looked embarrassed.
I was busy asking the maintenance master to ignore the dispute between my son and daughter-in-law and continue the repair work. After the repair was completed, the maintenance master was very embarrassed and said: "The master is leaving, you have something at home, I won't charge today." I quickly thanked him.
That night, I saw that my son and daughter-in-law were in a bad mood, so I took the initiative to talk to them. I enlightened them and told them that conflicts in the family are a natural phenomenon, but how to resolve and adjust their attitudes is the most important thing. After some persuasion, their emotions eased.
Conflicts in the family are inevitable, but how to face and resolve these conflicts requires mutual understanding and tolerance among family members. I understand that family is not the credit of one person, nor is it just the responsibility of one person, and only by uniting together can we create a warm and happy home.
My little sister didn't understand why I had changed so much at first. She thought I should continue to do cleaning, so she had a conflict with me. She said, "How can you suddenly change your mind? Our family needs this money urgently!" and I tried to explain, telling her that I was not for money, but for my own mentality. However, she did not want to listen, and her eyes were full of incomprehension. Our arguments were not resolved, and the relationship was at an impasse.
I was very frustrated by this incident, and I had expected our relationship to improve, but I was caught off guard by the developments. I understand that conflicts in the family are inevitable, but I don't want our relationship to deteriorate because of this. Now, I need time to digest it all and find a solution to the problem. Perhaps, time will change everything for the better.
Back at home, I tried to change my attitude, but soon found myself facing a new conflict. My son and daughter-in-law seem to be becoming more and more dependent on me to help take care of my grandson and do what I can for the family. This makes me feel a little helpless, isn't it just that I am happy to retire, but at the same time, I can't bear to let them down. This ambivalence made me feel more and more confused. At home, I often feel as if I'm the "babysitter" of the family, and that's not the retirement I want.
Soon, Zhang San came to me again, and when he saw that I was depressed, he asked me about my situation with concern. I confided my confusion to Zhang San, and after a moment of silence, he said, "Old Zhou, you have to stick to your position appropriately and don't give in easily. Sometimes, proper persistence is also a form of respect for family members. You might as well communicate well and tell them what you think. ”
After listening to Zhang San's words, I had a trace of clarity in my heart. When I got home, I sat down with my son and daughter-in-law and had a good talk, and I expressed my thoughts honestly. After listening to my words, they looked ashamed, and the son said, "Dad, we are indeed a little excessive, we will try our best to solve the family affairs by ourselves, and we will be more considerate of your feelings." ”
I was deeply moved by these words, and I understood that conflicts in the family can only be truly resolved through honest communication and mutual understanding. I also learned to be properly persistent and not to make too many concessions to my family, so that I could maintain my own dignity and territory.
Now I am much calmer, and my family relationship is more harmonious. I have learned that there will inevitably be some disputes and conflicts in life, but as long as you face them with understanding and sincerity, emotional disputes between families can also be resolved. In the coming days, I will cherish every day with my family even more, and I believe that as long as we tolerate and understand each other, the happiness of the family will continue for a long time.
> I am a retired old man, 52 years old, receiving a monthly retirement salary of 2,800 yuan. The son is working in the field, and the daughter-in-law is alone at home with two lovely grandchildren. I don't have a mortgage or car loan, I live a quiet life, so to speak, there is no pressure in material life.
One day, my daughter-in-law Lingling said to me: "Father-in-law, my family has been a little busy recently, can you go to the mall to do a cleaning, just clean up, 200 yuan an hour." I was shocked when I heard this, but my daughter-in-law said this, and I couldn't refuse, so I nodded.
When I arrived at the mall, I changed into uniform uniforms, took a broom and rag, and started my busy sweeping work. I can't help but sigh at the irony that when I was younger, I was the market leader, and now I'm cleaning here.
When I was immersed in self-doubt and helplessness, I suddenly heard a familiar voice: "Hey, why are you here?" I looked up and saw that it was my old friend Zhang San. Zhang San saw that I was a little embarrassed, and persuaded: "Lao Zhou, life, sometimes it's like this." Laugh more in good times and complain less in bad times, so that the mentality will be better. ”
I just smiled bitterly and didn't respond. Zhang San saw that I didn't speak, so he said: "Lao Zhou, when I was a child, we were in the same class, didn't you and I all yearn for different lives? But now, aren't we all the same?" After hearing these words, I was a little moved in my heart. Maybe it's because I need such a gap experience to make me realize myself.
When I got home, my son and daughter-in-law saw that I didn't look right and asked me about my work at the mall. I said with emotion: "Actually, there is no shame in doing cleaning, the problem lies in my own mentality. "My daughter-in-law smiled when she saw that I was open and honest.
At this moment, my grandson came running from the side, took my hand and said, "Grandpa, you don't have to do cleaning, my mother and I can clean up together!" I was stunned for a moment, I didn't expect my grandson to say this. This scene made me feel warm in my heart, and my grandson's words made me re-examine myself and understand some truths.
Now, I have decided to change my mindset and stop complaining and no longer have too much inferiority complex. There is still a long way to go, and I need to adjust my state and face life with a more positive attitude. Because I understand that only in this way can I better integrate myself into this family and win more respect and understanding for myself.
However, it's not that simple. A few days later, Lingling asked me to work at the mall. This time, I felt a little unhappy and depressed inside. I said, "Lingling, I'm just helping out, but it can't be a long-term job." I felt like my self-esteem was hurting. Lingling listened to my words, her face became a little ugly, she bit her lip, and did not speak.
My son came over at this time, and after listening to me patiently, he gently patted me on the shoulder and said, "Dad, I know you're here to help, but I also hope you can understand the pressure and predicament we are in right now. I hope you can share more for your family. It's not just about money, it's about a sense of responsibility and dedication. ”
After listening to my son's words, I felt a little uncomfortable. He was right, but I was still conflicted and resistant, feeling that I should enjoy my retirement instead of taking on more household responsibilities. This time, I decided to think hard about how to deal with this contradiction.