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My name is Li Xiaofang, I am 28 years old and I have been married for 3 years. My husband Ah Ming is the technical director of a small pharmaceutical factory in his hometown, and the company's performance has been good recently, and Ah Ming has also added a small management position. I work in the marketing of a foreign company, and I was recently promoted to regional director, which not only increased my salary, but also directly responsible for the performance of the director.
My mother-in-law has always been partial to my eldest son, Ah Keung, and since I became the regional director, my mother-in-law has started to call me frequently to ask about my work. At first, I didn't care, but in the last three days, she actually called me 8 times, asking me to quit my job immediately and go back to my hometown to take care of her and my father-in-law.
"Xiaofang, let me tell you, you are busy with work every day, often working overtime and returning late, and my father-in-law and I are very hard as an old man. Why is this daughter-in-law of yours so unfilial?"
"What's right with the company! Is our family short of your salary? Hurry up and write a resignation letter, it's all arranged, and you will be back next Monday." Your eldest daughter-in-law has come back a long time ago, and you Xiaofang don't always think about comparing with others. ”
I held my phone in my hand, and I was speechless for a moment, and my face was embarrassed. My mother-in-law pinched my weakness, I have always been obedient and sensible, and I want to take care of my in-laws, but I also have my own plans.
"Xiao Fang, what are you doing on the phone? Promise me!" Mother-in-law's voice The phone earpiece was a little distorted, but I could make out the dissatisfaction in her tone.
"Okay, you Xiaofang! I'm obviously a good heart, but you say I'm not good? Forget it, you choose your own job, choose your job or choose your family!" The mother-in-law hung up the phone angrily.
The phone in my hand was still beeping and hanging up, but my heart was in a mess. I know that my mother-in-law has always been partial to her eldest son, but this time her demands have exceeded my bottom line. I asked myself all the way to my filial piety, but I also had my own career and life plan. Should I listen to my mother-in-law or insist on myself?
When I came home in the evening, I talked to Amin about it, and he understood my work and thanked me for taking care of my parents. But he still persuaded me: "I know that my mother is a little unreasonable to you, but as a daughter-in-law, it makes sense to let my in-laws more." You can think of a way to maybe adjust your work and find time to go back and see them?"
"Calm down, dear. Mom is old, maybe she feels that there is no one around to take care of her, so she is a little anxious. Do you have a good communication with her?" Seeing that I was not in the right mood, Amin came over and hugged my shoulder and comforted me.
During the Chinese New Year, Ah Ming's family gathered, and my mother-in-law said in front of a table of relatives that I was not filial, but I endured it and said nothing. When I got home, I tentatively asked Ah Ming: "Does your mother always think that I don't care enough about her, does she think that I am not filial?"
Ah Ming smiled and said, "Maybe, you know my mother has a straight mouth, but she still thinks about your good in her heart." ”
I was still apprehensive in my heart, and I always felt that my mother-in-law was deliberately targeting me. After that, my mother-in-law called me a few more times, and her tone was extremely unkind, ordering me to take out all my savings to do business for my eldest son, Ah Keung.
"Xiaofang, let me tell you, Ah Qiang is going to expand his business, you hurry up and give him all the savings you have saved, the family has 100,000 yuan, and you take out 70,000 yuan, do you hear?"
"What are you talking to me about? Hurry up and listen to me and take the money to Ah Qiang! You only have yourself in your heart, and your husband doesn't care about you at all! You unfilial daughter-in-law!"
"I know you're a selfish person, thinking only about yourself! You were penniless when you married in, and now you don't recognize your family after saving some money!"
"Okay, don't say it, I order you to give the money to Ah Qiang now! Otherwise, I'll make it clear to Ah Ming and let him leave your play!"
I clutched my phone, my hands shaking. My mother-in-law's threat turned me from sadness to anger, how could she trample on my feelings and interests like this?
"Mother-in-law, I must declare that the savings of Ah Ming and I are the work of both of us, and you have no right to dispose of them at will! I respect you, but please also respect me!" I steadied my voice and emphasized my position.
"Okay, you're not a filial girl! I'm not done with you!" The mother-in-law angrily cut off the phone again.
I threw my phone on the couch and tears finally burst into my eyes. I felt humiliated and angry like never before, and I was also very sad why my mother-in-law trampled on me like this. I called Amin to tell him about it, and he was silent for a long time before he said he would find a way to deal with it. I knew he was in a dilemma, and he had to get through it on his own.
My mother-in-law's domineering attitude made me determined to reason with her. I dug out our deposit book, and it was clearly written that last year, my mother-in-law asked Ah Ming to give all his savings of 100,000 yuan to Ah Qiang as a start-up fund. Ah Ming and I only have 20,000 or 30,000 yuan left in our savings.
I plucked up the courage to call my mother-in-law: "Mother-in-law, you have already given all our savings to Ah Qiang, and Ah Ming and I have no money left. How is it possible that you are now asking me to come up with another 70,000?"
The mother-in-law was stunned for a moment, and then said sternly: "I am for Ah Qiang's good and let him succeed in his career!
I could feel my mother-in-law's tone soften, and she seemed startled by the fact I had pointed out. I gradually calmed down and felt that we needed to communicate well.
"Mother-in-law, I understand that you are bent on supporting Ah Qiang, but I hope you can also understand that Ah Ming and I have always respected you all these years of marriage. We send money home regularly every month and never fall behind. I also do my best to help Cuong, so I hope you don't mistake me for being filial again. I explained softly.
There was silence on the other end of the phone for a long time, and finally the mother-in-law said sullenly: "Okay, Ah Qiang's kid I have already funded a lot, so it's better for you to keep some savings for yourself." It's just that you have to remember that my father-in-law and I are old after all, so you have to come back and have a look. ”
"I know, mother-in-law, I will definitely take the time to go back to take care of you and my father-in-law. As long as you don't force me to leave my job, I can go back to serve you at any time. I promised softly.
"Okay, okay, you're right. As long as you care more about your father-in-law and me in the future, I won't say anything. The mother-in-law seemed to have a hard time admitting her mistake, but at least her attitude eased.
"I will, mother-in-law. Thank you for listening to me. "I breathe a sigh of relief and feel that there is finally hope for reconciliation in our relationship.
This incident made me realize my mother-in-law's desire for control and paranoia. I'm no longer as obedient as I used to be, and I'm becoming more assertive. My mother-in-law finally realized that I couldn't do whatever I wanted with my life and property.
During the Chinese New Year, I went back to my hometown to take care of my mother-in-law as promised, but she was still a little awkward about me, but she didn't mention the divorce work again. Ah Ming and I agreed to take turns going home to see her for a few days a month. My father-in-law was not in good health, so I tried to spend as much time as possible talking to him, and my mother-in-law was very relieved to see it.
"Xiaofang, it's great that you can come back. My father-in-law likes you to talk to him the most, and I'm an old man who is more energetic. My father-in-law said with a smile.
"I also like to talk to my father-in-law the most. Father-in-law, take care of your health, and tell me if you need anything. I took advantage of the situation to hold my father-in-law's hand.
The mother-in-law nodded on the side: "Okay, you have worked hard." I'll make your favorite braised pork ribs tonight to replenish your body. ”
That night, our family gathered around the dinner table, and the atmosphere was harmonious and warm. My mother-in-law and I didn't mention the previous unhappiness again, and she stopped finding fault with me, but just told me not to work too hard. After dinner, my mother-in-law took my hand and slapped it twice.
I know that this is her gesture of reconciliation. From now on, although we have different personalities, I will understand my mother-in-law better, and she will also let me have my own life. Although this turmoil was painful, it made us re-examine each other and grow.
When I returned to the city, I often thought about the inspiration that my dispute with my mother-in-law had inspired me during this time.
Although my mother-in-law has her selfishness and prejudices, as a daughter-in-law, I should also put myself in her shoes. After all, my mother-in-law entrusted her son to me, and I should be more tolerant and considerate of her.
Maybe in her time, my daughter-in-law should obey her in-laws unconditionally, and there was a generation gap between me and her concept. But the key is mutual understanding, communication, and compromise.
I began to learn to take the initiative to ask about my mother-in-law's current situation, and call home every once in a while to ask about her and my father-in-law's health. Although my mother-in-law was still unforgiving, I could feel the relief in her tone.
"Hey, Xiaofang, are you homesick again? Haha, don't keep thinking about your father-in-law and me, pay attention to your body. "My mother-in-law teased me on the phone.
"Mother-in-law, don't laugh at me, of course I'm most worried about your and my father-in-law's health. Have your gums been getting better lately?" I responded with a smile.
"It's much better, I drank the soup made from the beef bones sent by your uncle yesterday for two days, and now the gums don't hurt anymore. I'll tell you, your uncle's bone broth is better than yours, and you have to learn from them. "My mother-in-law began to ridicule my craft.
I know this is my mother-in-law's way of caring, and I don't mind anymore: "Mother-in-law, next time I go back and make beef bone soup for you, I guarantee that it tastes better than my uncle's!"
"Okay, okay, you're right. I just said casually, the old woman's mouth was broken. Just take care of yourself. The mother-in-law's tone finally softened.
Through such small interactions, I feel that the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been eased, and my mother-in-law trusts me more. She occasionally complained that I didn't come home often, but her tone was no longer blame-worthy. I also learned to set aside time in my work life to go back to my hometown to visit my in-laws, and my relationship with my mother-in-law became more and more harmonious.
Once, my father-in-law had a high fever, and I immediately asked for leave to go home to take care of him. Changing dressings and wiping my back every day, feeding and seeing a doctor in person, my mother-in-law saw it in her eyes, and finally looked at me with admiration: "Xiaofang, it's good that you're back, otherwise how could I, an old woman, take care of your father-in-law so much." You can put down your work and rush back, I know you are a good daughter-in-law who is filial. ”
I was also moved to tears: "I am my father-in-law's daughter, of course I should come back to take care of me." I will always be with you and my father-in-law. ”
Since then, my mother-in-law has been impressed with me, and she no longer complains that I am unfilial and disobedient. I also found a balance between taking care of work and family, and took the initiative to greet and care for my mother-in-law, and the relationship became more and more harmonious.
Although this trial was difficult, it made my mother-in-law and I re-examine each other and grow in understanding. After all, relatives are maintained by love and tolerance. I firmly believe that as long as we understand each other, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will always find a harmonious way to get along.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, Amin and I have been married for 5 years. After we went through the turmoil between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I gradually learned how to build a relationship of mutual respect and understanding with my mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law's mentality is also slowly changing, and she no longer insists on blindly asking me what to do according to her own ideas. She started to care about my work and stopped complaining that I didn't come home to see her often.
"Mom, happy birthday!" When my mother-in-law opened the door, the two of us hugged her excitedly.
"Ah Ming, Xiao Fang, why are you back?" Mother-in-law was pleasantly surprised.
"We came back last night and specially prepared a birthday surprise for my mother!" I said with a smile.
My mother-in-law happily counted the two of us intimately, and talked about my hard drive.
Our family sat around the dining table, and I served hot longevity noodles, as well as my mother-in-law's favorite snacks and fruits. The mother-in-law looked at us kindly with a happy smile on her face.
"Happy birthday, Mom! We are excited to spend this meaningful day with you. Amin raised his glass.
"Thank you, I am really surprised and touched! I am happiest to be with you on my birthday this year!" The mother-in-law also raised a glass in return.
After lunch, the weather was just right, and we went for a walk in the park to eat. I helped my mother-in-law walk slowly, and Ah Ming laughed with her.
"Xiaofang, I'm really happy that you can accompany me out for a walk. I'm an old woman, with you and Ah Ming by my side, I'm not afraid of anything!" My mother-in-law squeezed my hand.
I knew that my mother-in-law was expressing her appreciation and trust in me, and I couldn't help but smile slightly: "Mother-in-law, I also like to accompany you out to bask in the sun the most." We will never leave each other, and we will always be together!"
Now when I think of the ugliness we had, I just remember it vividly. After the precipitation of time, there is a deeper understanding and tolerance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
On the road of life, we are all getting better. I have been accompanying my mother-in-law through her old age, which is my greatest wish as a daughter-in-law. Watching her grow old, I cherish every moment I spend with her all the more.
Thank God for giving us the time and opportunity to re-examine each other and gain a new understanding after experiencing misunderstandings. It was a great upbringing for me.
Life is like a cultivation, which needs to be harmonious in tempering and tolerant in understanding. I know very well that on the road of family affection, if you give each other a little more warmth, we can feel the warmth of the sun. I will always cherish this wonderful time with my mother-in-law.
After I made significant progress in my relationship with my mother-in-law, I gradually learned how to balance my family and career.
My mother-in-law is now fully supportive of my work and I do my best to make time to go home and take care of her and my father-in-law. We understand and tolerate each other.
"Xiaofang, I heard Ah Ming say that you have been promoted, it's really good! You can be promoted according to your own ability, and I, the mother-in-law, will also be dishonored!" The mother-in-law's tone was full of pride.
"Thank you, mother-in-law, I will continue to work hard. I am also grateful for your understanding and support for me. I say from the bottom of my heart.
"Of course you have to work hard, and I won't limit you like I used to. Don't worry, with me and your father-in-law here, you can concentrate on your career!"
"I will come back to see you often, and you and your father-in-law will take good care of you. ”
"Okay kid, I know what you say. Go ahead, mommy bless you!"
My mother-in-law's words moved me to tears. I know that I have the trust and support of my mother-in-law, and she no longer minds me focusing on my career. It means a lot to me.
I'm getting busier and busier at work these days, but I call home every week to say hello. My father-in-law's leg bones were always painful, so Ah Ming and I arranged a time to go home every weekend to take care of them.
"Xiaofang, do you still hurt when you touch here?" I gently massaged my father-in-law's leg bones.
"It's still a little painful, but it's much better! I'm much more comfortable with you back. Father-in-law said with a smile.
"It's great that I'm back this weekend. Father-in-law, you must pay attention to rest and don't always move around. I instructed.
"I know, of course I listen to my Xiaofang!" The father-in-law said with a smile.
The mother-in-law nodded on the side: "It's great that Xiaofang can come back every week, and my father-in-law's body can be taken care of, and I am also relieved." Xiaofang, it's hard for you to come back to see our old man and old woman. ”
"Mother-in-law, this is what I should do. I'm also very happy to be back to take care of you and my father-in-law. ”
After all those ups and downs, we are now as a family. I will continue to strive to strike a balance between my career and family to make my life more fulfilling.
Life is a long road, and I follow suit, accompanying my mother-in-law and father-in-law through their old age. Thanksgiving years give us time to precipitate and re-understand in understanding. This is the most precious treasure of my life.
As a daughter-in-law, I still have a long way to go, but I know that with the big tree of my mother-in-law and father-in-law, our family will stand tall in the wind and rain. This family affection will always warm my way forward.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, I have been a wife for ten years. My mother-in-law and father-in-law are also in their old age, and I do my best to take care of their daily lives.
Last week, my mother-in-law suddenly had diarrhea and vomited during a nap. I hurriedly asked for leave to go home to see her, cook Chinese medicine every day, and take care of her diet. Fortunately, my mother-in-law is fine, and her health is gradually improving.
"Mother-in-law, the angelica soup I fried will make my stomach feel a little more comfortable after drinking it. I helped my mother-in-law to sit up and gently brought it to her mouth.
"Well, I'll drink the medicine you decoction with confidence. Mother-in-law owes you, what should I do if I don't come back. My mother-in-law stroked my wrist.
"What do you say, this is what I should do. The most important thing is that you are well. ”
"Okay, mother-in-law won't nag you. Hurry up and rest and rest, don't watch over me every day. ”
I know that my mother-in-law feels sorry for me, and I appreciate her thoughtfulness.
In the past few days, I have been guarding my mother-in-law every step of the way, for fear that her illness will recur. Fortunately, she gradually regained her appetite, and I was much more relieved.
However, the day before yesterday, my father-in-law suddenly fainted in the yard, and I heard my mother-in-law screaming and ran out. My father-in-law was pale and his lips were purple, so I quickly called an ambulance to take him to the hospital.
"Doctor, what's wrong with my father-in-law?" I asked anxiously.
"Depending on the situation, it may be a mild stroke and need to be hospitalized for observation. Your family members should be mentally prepared. "The doctor is right.
"Father-in-law, I'm here, you can rest assured that I will always be with you. I held back tears and smiled.
My mother-in-law took my hands and my father-in-law and prayed softly. I know we have to support each other to get through this together.
For the days and nights that followed, I only hoped that my father-in-law would recover safely. My mother-in-law was in the ward every day, and I did my best to take care of them.
In difficult times, you need your family the most. I dedicate my time without regrets, just for the hope of reunion.
Thanks to God, my father-in-law's condition finally improved, and the results of the examination were also relieved. My mother-in-law and I both breathed a sigh of relief and hugged each other with tears pouring down our faces.
"Dad, you slowly recuperate, with us here, you don't have to worry about anything. I shook my father-in-law's hand and comforted me softly.
"Father-in-law, I am your daughter, and this is my responsibility. The most important thing is that you are relaxed and healthy. ”
I know that this is the highest recognition and relief that my mother-in-law has given me. After so many ups and downs, our relationship is rock solid.
Love needs to be sublimated in tempering. I am grateful that life cleanses us of our misunderstandings and allows us to thrive. I will always remember and cherish this family affection.