The current status of Fu Seoul and Liu Yi's marriage
The marriage of Fu Seoul and Liu Yi was also a typical example of the male protagonist and the female protagonist. Liu Yi works outside to support his family, while Fu Seoul is at home with his husband and children. After marriage, life was smooth, and the two were also sweet and affectionate.
However, when Fu Seoul's career took off and gradually became the family's source of income, the couple's relationship quietly changed. Fu Seoul puts a lot of energy into his career, working overtime for his career.
Liu Yi had to quit his job and take care of his children at home full-time.
A few years passed, and there was a crack in their marriage. Fu Seoul soared, her career reached its peak, and she became a well-known strong woman. And Liu Yi has been trapped at home for a long time, and his life is monotonous and boring. The two get together less and leave more, and the relationship is not the old days.
The marriage that should have been happy is gradually estranged in the mode of strong women and weak men. Fu Seoul couldn't understand Liu Yi's choice, and Liu Yi also questioned his life. The chasm between the two is deepening, and the marriage is on the verge of breakdown.
Liu Yi's inner self-doubt
For Liu Yi, becoming a full-time househusband is his unprepared life. In the first year or two, he was able to face it positively, and taking care of children became his new mission.
However, after a long time, this ordinary life gradually lost its passion, and Liu Yi felt that life was standing still.
He witnessed his wife Fu Seoul's career soaring, but he repeated the boring housework day after day. Taking care of the children, preparing meals, cleaning the house, the mechanical work caused him a lot of mental stress.
Gradually, Liu Yi became suspicious of his life and retreated from continuing this marriage. He realizes that he is attached to the shadow of his successful wife and has lost his independent will as a man.
So, he filed for divorce and wanted to regain his dignity.
For him, divorce was the only way out of the status quo. Even in the face of an unknown life, Liu Yi has to choose to take the initiative to control his life. He hopes to find his own career and position, rather than living under Fu Seoul's back forever.
Fu Seoul's strength and incomprehension
If the monotony of Liu Yi's life is a major problem for this family, then Fu Seoul's strength is also worse. After her career became more and more powerful, she couldn't understand Liu Yi's thoughts.
Fu Seoul is busy running around shopping malls and social circles all day long, and he is well-informed and has become stronger. She couldn't imagine the boredom of Liu Yi's ordinary life. In her eyes, Liu Yi has enough and should not complain.
So, when Fu Seoul talked about Liu Yi's desire for a divorce, his face was full of confusion and disappointment. Her strong personality made her ignore her husband's feelings and listen to any persuasion.
In the show, she ridiculed Liu Yi many times as a salted fish man who "eats soft rice", and her language was full of disdain.
The normal communication channels between the two have long been cut off, and Fu Seoul's strength has made her the ruler of the family. She couldn't put herself in Liu Yi's shoes, and she didn't want to save this relationship. This undoubtedly increases the likelihood of a marriage breakdown.
Papi-chan marriage's sober attitude
Compared with Fu Seoul, Papi-chan, a female Internet celebrity who also has a successful career, can look at her marriage more soberly. Although she is also in the position of being a strong woman and a weak man, she has never looked down on her husband because of this.
Papi-chan has great respect for her husband's independent personality and life choices. She believes that two people in marriage should be equal individuals, and no one is superior or inferior. So even though she has a more successful career and a higher income, she has never complained about her husband's "lack of progress".
This attitude allows Papi-chan to maintain good communication with her husband. Despite her busy schedule, she regularly finds time to communicate and confide in her husband. The flame of love burned between the two for a long time.
Because of this, Papi-chan has a strong relationship with her husband. Even after her career reached its peak, the gap between the two was infinitely widened, there was no obvious spiritual barrier between them, and they still retained a deep emotional identity.
Papi-chan's sober and wise attitude towards marriage is in stark contrast to Fu Seoul. The latter's marriage broke down, largely because of her strength and incomprehension.
The deep reasons for the breakdown of Fu Seoul's marriage
Fu Seoul and Liu Yi's marriage finally broke down under a series of contradictions. As the parties involved, both were both expected and surprised by this outcome. Because they knew that this marital problem had been planted for a long time.
The most fundamental reason why this marriage has come to this point today is that the serious mental dislocation of both parties. After Fu Seoul entered the business world, her life trajectory gradually drifted away from her husband Liu Yi.
She couldn't understand the sorrow of Liu Yi's ordinary life, and Liu Yi couldn't understand the joy of her sense of accomplishment.
The two stopped communicating effectively and lived in two completely different worlds. Fu Seoul took Liu Yi's choice for granted, and Liu Yi silently suffered great pain from his heart.
This marriage is peaceful on the outside, but it is already full of holes on the inside.
They all realized there was a problem, but none of them chose to fix it. Fu Seoul is confident that he can tolerate Liu Yi, and Liu Yi also feels that his patience has reached the limit. As a result, all the contradictions intensified and continued to accumulate on the verge of eruption. Until it prompted Liu Yi to file for divorce, bringing the final blow to this marriage.
Regarding the lesson of Fu Seoul's marriage breakdown, we should not only see the appearance of strong women and weak men. What is contained in this is a deeper level of spiritual disharmony, emotional estrangement, and the pain of not being able to communicate.
When these rifts between husband and wife are not healed, the marriage will eventually fall apart and be irretrievable.
Revelation and Conclusion
The marriage case of Fu Seoul and Liu Yi teaches us that the marriage model of strong women and weak men is not terrible, as long as it is based on mutual respect and understanding.
Being at the forefront of career success as a woman does not mean that you can despise your husband's efforts in the family. On the contrary, successful people should maintain a humble Xi and put themselves in the shoes of their other half.
A marriage can only last if both parties are truly equal in spirit.
Men as husbands and fathers should not be inferior to others because women are better. Your own value needs to be defined internally, not by the external environment. When the sexes respect each other, there is no distinction between high and low in marriage.
Good communication is the key to maintaining a marriage. Regular spiritual counseling and communication between husband and wife is of great benefit to resolving potential conflicts and resolving crises. This is a good example of Papi sauce.
The ideal marriage is based on both emotional and rational foundations. It requires both parties to treat the flowers of the relationship together so that they can bloom in the wind and rain.
Let's learn from Fu's lessons and learn Xi how to create a happy marriage.