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I don't want a girl, can't I?
The source in this article is from the official media Red Star News, released on December 6, 2023, but in order to improve the readability of the article, the details may be polished, please read sensibly, for reference only!
There was such a strange couple in Shanghai, the mainland, the two discussed a fake divorce at first, but they never thought that the husband would turn around and marry another woman after the divorce.
The two daughters were awarded to the man, and the divorce lasted three years, but the woman went to visit her daughter but was turned away, and her own flesh and blood did not want to see her! The woman had no choice but to find the court for mediation, and she never thought that as soon as the judge came to the door, the man would slap herself like thunder and constantly admit her mistakes.
What happened to the two children, and why didn't the two children want to see their biological mothers?
The fake divorce of the husband and wife came true, and the daughter refused to see her biological mother
Mr. Wang and Ms. Wang divorced by mutual agreement three years ago, and they have been married for many years and have two daughters. The two daughters were sentenced to their fathers, and the two daughters had not seen their mothers for a long time.
This is because Ms. Wang will always cause chaos when visiting her daughters, quarrel with her father, and sometimes even trigger the arrival of the police. So the two girls made a poignant decision - they no longer wanted to see their biological mother.
Through in-depth investigation, a shocking inside story gradually emerges. It turned out that all this was designed by Mr. Wang and his second wife.
Mr. Wang first falsely claimed to divorce Ms. Wang because he wanted to give his two daughters a Shanghai hukou. As a result, Mr. Wang did not remarry Ms. Wang, but quickly formed a new family afterwards, which made Ms. Wang deeply angry and desperate.
Ms. Wang accused Mr. Wang of being deceitful, and it was he who forced him to divorce first on the pretext of helping his daughters settle their households. She did not intend to give up her daughter, but she was betrayed by Mr. Wang and had to file a lawsuit to try to reverse the sham divorce.
However, the divorce formalities have been confirmed, and now the wood is complete. Despite the twists and turns of the process, the formalities were signed and could not be easily overturned. Ms. Wang could only try her best to fight for the right to visit, but every time she visited, Mr. Wang resisted and even called the police to drive her away, and the stepmother cared little for the two daughters, resulting in the daughter's impression of her biological mother becoming worse and worse.
The mediator failed to mediate, and the man slapped himself wildly
It's okay to be divorced, after all, she recognized this man's face, but she couldn't see her daughter's pain, Ms. Wang couldn't bear it, and she stayed alone in the empty room every night, and Ms. Wang secretly cried because she missed her two children.
The child is the flesh that fell from the mother's upper body, and the child who was raised from childhood to adulthood can not be seen in an instant, this kind of thing falls on any mother who can't bear it, Ms. Wang said that she has no time to think about her own affairs every day, she is depressed all day long, and her daughter is not by her side, her heart is empty.
Why did the ex-husband do such a conscientious thing? Why did he not let his mother see the child even after the marriage had already been divorced? Mr. Wang also had something to say, saying that the divorce was not planned by himself, that he was also forced, and that the child's biological mother said in court that she resolutely did not want to have children.
At the time of the divorce, Ms. Wang was divided into millions of marital property, and Ms. Wang insisted that Mr. Wang wanted to use money to buy children, so that she could dissociate herself from her previous family. After more than 20 years of husband and wife relationship, I didn't expect Mr. Wang to be so ruthless, and Ms. Wang broke down and cried when she told the story to the mediator.
Ms. Wang said that her ex-husband had a certain tendency to violence, and he beat himself a few times when he was angry, and now that this incident happened, she understands her ex-husband's personality better, and is more worried about the safety of her two daughters, and he has repeatedly said that he hates his second daughter, and he is ready to give his second daughter to others to raise.
The court sent a mediator to the door to persuade the relationship between the two, after all, the child is innocent and should not be involved in adult disputes, but the mediator just said a few words, Mr. Wang suddenly jumped up from the sofa and slapped himself wildly in front of everyone, and everyone was stunned for a while.
The two children were also present, looking at the crazy father, the child was directly frightened and cried, the executive hurriedly took the children elsewhere, and seeing that the persuasion was fruitless, the mediators took Ms. Wang downstairs to prepare to leave.
As soon as I arrived at the car door, I heard a man shouting behind me, it turned out that Mr. Wang was chasing after his two daughters, shouting as he ran: I don't want the custody of this child, whoever wants to raise it can raise it!
From the perspective of protecting the child and calming Mr. Wang's emotions, the mediator first asked Ms. Wang to recuse herself, and then comforted Mr. Wang for a while, and then Mr. Wang led the child home.
The court ruled that Ms. Wang was entitled to her rights
An Intermediate People's Court in Baoshan District, Shanghai, issued a Family Education Order in Mr. Wang's case to correct a father whose behavior was abnormal due to a family dispute. The order required Mr. Wang to participate in family education and guidance, and promised Ms. Wang that she would be able to visit her two daughters normally.
Mr. Wang's excessive emotional outburst frightened his daughter, whose opinion of her father had changed. In view of the fact that Mr. Wang's conduct may seriously affect the healthy development of his daughter, the judge decided to take action to protect the interests of his daughter. Therefore, the court decided to issue a family education order.
The main objective of the Family Education Order is to help Mr. Wong understand the proper way to educate his child and change his misconceptions and misbehaviors. Through family education guidance, Mr. Wang is able to better care for and support his children in their daily lives.
Fearing that Mr. Wang would do anything out of the ordinary again, the court would also appoint two social assistants to Ms. Wang to visit her two daughters. Regardless of whether the child is now loved by the stepmother, for the child, the biological mother is still the biological mother, and the truth that blood is thicker than water must be understood.
In terms of family education, Mr. Wang must correct his misunderstanding of the child and the family, and not allow him to interfere with the normal rights of the child's mother. If Mr. Wang behaves out of the ordinary again, the social worker in charge of the assistance has the right to exercise certain control measures on him.
The implementation of the family education order greatly restricted Mr. Wang's excesses, and the court cooperated with Ms. Wang to reunite with the child more than a dozen times in the months following the verdict.
The daughters also let go of their previous prejudices and went back to reading, doing homework, and going out with their mothers, and Ms. Wang felt that her life was once again bright.
Perceptions of family conflicts
In fact, in the case of Mr. Wang and Ms. Wang, the two can solve the problem by just sitting down and having a good talk, and the husband and wife cannot only look at the problem from their own perspective, the key to running a family together is to be considerate of each other and think about the children.
After the divorce of the parents, the child needs more care and love, everything should be child-oriented, not in front of the child will not expose the immature side, parents should be the child's role model, the husband and wife should minimize meaningless quarrels, calm down to solve the problem is the top priority.
Children cannot choose their own parents, but parents can choose whether to bring a harmonious and loving family atmosphere to their children, no matter how big or small the conflict is, it cannot be dealt with in an extreme way.