#Article Premiere Challenge#Another night of chickens and dogs: I had a conflict with my son, who was 6 years old, sitting on a chair crying and shouting for me to leave, waving his arms backwards, impartially, hitting me in the stomach, and I immediately exploded with emotion and anger. Scoop him up and take him outside the security door. He cried, I roared......
This time he had a conflict with his son because of the small bricks he bought, and in the process of building it, he found that the previous building was wrong and needed to be removed. He was a little annoyed and asked me to disassemble and rebuild him, with an unfriendly attitude. I didn't say yes, and that was a conflict.
I also want to be emotionally stable, I also want to be filial to my mother and son, sometimes I am angry, and my son is going straight up against the wind, and I will fight with you to the end, how can I calm down my emotions? The accumulated dissatisfaction will explode at this moment, although I will reflect on and regret my impulsive behavior in the future, but at this moment, I can't do it!
Not long after the last conflict, the last time was because when he was sleeping at night, he still had to talk, I was afraid that he would wake up his sister, he didn't listen, and as a result, he really woke up his sister, and I really felt crazy at the time, and I didn't want to calm down for a long time...
I don't understand, why is he so angry, why does he have to work against me, why I give so much, but my son is not grateful?
I confided in my friend, but instead of comforting me, she asked me:
"What do you do as a mother? Do you only scold at problems? Won't you manage your emotions? Won't you discipline positively? Won't you just talk about things?
I was stunned!
"How's it going? Feel bad, right? Now I understand how the child felt at that time. Criticism is fine, but you should not hurt your child's young mind with negative emotions.
If the communication is good, the child will correct the mistakes and grow, and if the communication is not good, the child may run away from home or even do impulsive things. In the final analysis, different communication methods have created different life directions for children.
I thought I knew my child well, but I didn't really see things from his point of view. When there is no conflict, the mother is kind and filial, and when there is a conflict, she jumps like thunder, which is really loving and angry. As a mother, you should still respond to your child's inner needs and give helpful feedback, and try to be emotionally stable, rather than responding simply and rudely.