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My name is Li Fengying, I am 68 years old this year, and my wife Li Ming has been retired at home for five years. We have a son, named Li Tian, 35 years old this year, working as a sales manager in a foreign company, just married for two years, his wife's name is Xiaofang, is a gentle and virtuous wife.
I remember that in the year I retired, the unit gave me a pension of 90,000 yuan. 90,000 yuan is really a lot of money for our old couple! Originally, I wanted to leave it for my son Li Tian as a down payment for the child's marriage, but I didn't expect that this pension would eventually become a "heart disease" for us and our son.
After my wife and I retired, we were at home every day. Although my wife Li Ming is not very good at legs and feet, she is easy-going and will do some housework to help me share. As for me, I get up every morning to make food for my wife. After breakfast, I went to the community to find a few old ladies to dance square dances to exercise. After the dance, if the weather is not hot, the old ladies and I will sit under the bell tree and talk about family life and children. Li Tian and his daughter-in-law Xiaofang often come to visit us, and sometimes my wife and I also visit their newly bought house in Yanmar. Xiaofang has always been very respectful and polite to us, and my wife and I like her very much.
At noon that day, Xiao Fang came to us for dinner with a few exquisite snack boxes, and specially brought my favorite braised pork and white-cut chicken. I hurriedly took the food box and beckoned her to sit down: "Xiaofang, why are you free to come over at noon today? Isn't it a working day?
I was so happy that I said, "Good boy, what a good boy!" While opening the envelope, my heart was full of joy. Inside the envelope was Li Tian's salary slip of 30,000 yuan this month, and I was so excited that I burst into tears: "Brother Tian, this kid, will really make money! God bless him, and his career will soar in the future!"
Xiao Fang smiled and nodded, mysteriously leaned close to my ear and whispered: "Mom, Brother Tian also told me that the savings he has on hand plus the money for this salary increase are almost enough for the down payment on our house! He plans to start buying a new house for me next month!"
I was overjoyed when I heard this, nodded again and again, grabbed Xiaofang's hand and said excitedly: "Great, great! Our brother Tiange finally has a house and a car and starts a family, and you and him will become more and more prosperous in the future!" As I spoke, I chuckled in my heart, remembering the 90,000 yuan pension that my wife and I had saved for several years, and suddenly had an idea: "Xiaofang, if you and Brother Tian want to buy a house, your father and I will take out our pension and help you make a down payment, so don't you worry less?"
Xiao Fang hurriedly waved her hand and said, "Mom, how embarrassing is this! You and Dad don't have much money for retirement, and your daily expenses are also large, so don't take it out!" I was about to persuade again, but Li Ming interjected: "Feng Ying, what Xiaofang said is right. Our pension is only 90,000 yuan, which is enough for us to subsidize the family, so we don't have to take it out again, lest we can't afford to eat when we get it. ”
I glared at my wife, thinking that 90,000 yuan would only depreciate there, so it would be better to make a down payment for my son, killing two birds with one stone. Just thinking about it, Li Tian also came back from work, and as soon as he entered the door, he happily shouted, "Mom, I'm back!" I hurriedly stepped forward and said with a smile: "Son, Wishing you prosperity! Li Tian nodded with a smile, sat down on the sofa, and Xiao Fang also went over to bring him tea and water.
I hurriedly said, "Son, I just told Xiaofang about buying a house. Your dad and I both think that our pension should be used as a down payment on your house!" As I spoke, I looked at Li Tian expectantly, thinking that he would happily agree.
Who knew that Li Tian's face immediately sank, and he frowned and said, "Mom, Xiaofang and I have our own savings, and we don't need your pension." If you two take out the 90,000 yuan, it will be a problem to eat and wear in the future. When I heard my son say this, I became angry in my heart, I am a person of this age, and what are you doing so much for money! In front of Xiaofang, I raised my voice and said: "Li Tian, why is it that our food and clothing are a problem? Being a mother is worrying about your children! Originally, the 90,000 yuan was intended to be reserved for you to get married and buy a house, but if you don't take it out now, when will you expect you to buy a house? Isn't it good to buy a house as soon as you take advantage of the rising period of your career?" When Li Tian heard me say this, his face became even more ugly, He took a deep breath, and his tone was a little heavier: "Mom, didn't Xiaofang and I just get married, and now that our careers are on the rise, we naturally have to pay off the mortgage slowly." If you take out your 90,000 yuan of pension, won't Xiaofang and I repay the mortgage in the end? ”
"Okay, Mom, you take your breath. Li Tian hurriedly came over to support me, with a smile on his face, "Xiaofang and I will definitely find a way to buy a house by ourselves, you and Dad can rest assured." Don't worry about money. I shook off Li Tian's hand, sat back on the sofa angrily, and said to Li Ming: "Look, our son has become like this." With such a large amount of pension money, he can obviously help their young people buy a new house, but he is good, what is polite to us, pretending to be filial to the elderly!"
Li Ming hurriedly persuaded me: "Feng Ying, Tian'er is also kind, let's not be angry." I snorted, still unhappy. Seeing me like this, Li Tian was also a little anxious, and hurriedly said softly: "Mom, you dissipate your anger, let's discuss this matter slowly, won't we?" I'll take Xiaofang back first, and I'll come to see you another day." After saying that, he took Xiaofang and left.
This meal was not tasteful at all. After dinner, I was still unhappy, so I complained to my wife Li Ming: "Lao Li, our son is not close to us anymore, and his speech has become so polite, is his wife too strict?" Li Ming persuaded me: "Don't think about the old woman, isn't the relationship between the son and the daughter-in-law just what our old couple is happy about, you don't throw the pot right!" I snorted and didn't answer.
Two days later, Li Tian came to see us again and brought a few bags of prawns and abalone, intending to replenish our bodies. I was still thinking about the pension in my heart, and I didn't squeak, and I chatted politely with them. In the end, Li Ming couldn't help but persuade me, let me not be so angry, and it was not good for my health. Only then did I open my mouth and say to Li Tian: "Son, Mom just wants to help you young people more, but you keep saying that you are afraid of affecting our old life, I don't feel happy when I hear it." This pension was originally reserved for you to get married and buy a house in the future, and my mother just wants to see you young people have a small family of their own as soon as possible and live a happy life, but why didn't you accept your mother's kindness?"
Li Tian nodded and said, "Okay, Mom, you and Dad will dissipate your anger, and I will go back and consider the specific situation with Xiaofang." You are right, children should learn to repay their kindness, and if they have difficulties, they should first seek help from their parents. After speaking, Li Tian answered the phone and went out to talk.
My wife and I looked at each other and smiled, and my heart finally felt a little more relaxed. This kid is still honest. I knew that my pension was idle there, and it wasn't for my son to use it in the end.
A few days later, Li Tian called very late to say that he had been working overtime recently and couldn't take time to come and see us. I thought to myself, too, Xiao Young has just entered the rising period of his career, and it is normal for him to be busy at work. Fortunately, the weather is getting cooler, and my wife and I have a lot less bone headaches, so we are not so bored. In addition, the Jingtianchuan community has recently engaged in rumor-refuting propaganda and distributed a lot of free nutritious meals and travel vouchers, and my wife and I signed up for several day trips. Although considering that Li Ming's health is not sure to be very smooth, he can come out to take a look around the scenery and relieve our boredom.
Just a few months later, Li Tian and Xiaofang came to see us a lot less, but every once in a while, they would call us to ask how we were doing. In addition, the activities in the community are really colorful, and my wife and I are not bored. Li Ming's health has always been okay, although I am also worried that he will suddenly have a stroke or heart attack, but the state's pension medical insurance can reimburse the majority of the head, and there is no need to move our pension for the time being.
"Mom, don't worry. I'll buy a ticket now, you stay in the hospital, and if there is any expense, I'll figure out a way. Li Tian comforted me on the phone. I grunted and hung up the phone, my heart like a knife. It turns out that this is what my son called "affecting the quality of life of the elderly"? At a critical time, the pension is simply not enough!
Seeing me sitting on the chair with my eyes lost, the nurse Xiaoshan came over and asked with concern, "Auntie, do you need to contact your family to come over?" Don't worry too much, the doctor will do his best to treat me." I came to my senses, wiped away my tears and asked her what hospital Li Ming was in. Nurse Xiaoshan told me that it was in Sedum Famous Hospital, and I hurriedly called Li Tian again to report the name of the hospital and the ward.
After hanging up the phone, I remembered that Li Tian and Xiaofang had just bought a new house recently, and it should be their young people who needed money urgently at this time! It would be too selfish to let young people share the cost of medicine. So I immediately took a taxi to the bank and withdrew our pension of 80,000 yuan, thinking that it should barely be enough for Li Mingxian to start treatment.
I waved my hand and motioned to him needless to say, "Son, I was thinking of giving my pension to you young people, but now it will come in handy." Your father's condition is still uncertain, and he has to be hospitalized for a long time for observation and treatment, which can cost a lot of money. I sighed, "It's God, I have to wait for this time to teach him a lesson, and we husband and wife have figured it out." Alas, what a miserable life!"
Li Tian held my hand, and his eyes were a little red: "Mom, it's all because I didn't listen to you at the beginning." This pension was originally reserved for me, and I shouldn't have contradicted you. In the future, you won't be able to bear the medical expenses alone, even if you ask me for it!
I felt a little relieved and patted my son's hand. I don't know what kind of lesson God will teach us this time, but relying on my children is my only hope now. After a month in the hospital, Li Ming's physical condition gradually stabilized. However, the sequelae of brain damage are more serious, and it is necessary to continue to be hospitalized for observation and treatment. Li Tian and I calculated that the various expenses of this month had cost more than 50,000 of our 80,000 yuan pension. The remaining 30,000 yuan may not last more than a month.
I felt very uncomfortable, and secretly regretted why I was so stubborn in the first place, and I had to fight with my son for the right to use the 90,000 yuan pension. Perhaps children see longer and more clearly than we adults after all, and I should not think that I am "giving alms" to my children. Now that most of our pension has been spent, my wife and I are indeed in danger of living in our old age.
"Mom!" Li Tian's tone was aggravated, and his eyes were extremely firm, "I said it all, you can't afford this medical expense alone." In the future, you should stop being self-contained, what are you doing all the time? A mother is a mother, and children should be filial, this is a matter of course. Don't worry, didn't Xiaofang and I make enough plans when we got married and bought a house, and we can afford this medical expenses. You don't shirk it anymore and accept the care of your children, you know?"
When I heard my son say so resolutely, I felt a little proud in my heart. Also, when the children grow up, I should also learn to let go and believe that they are capable of taking charge on their own. After thinking about it, I finally breathed a sigh of relief, and said to Li Tian with a smile: "Okay, son, Mom will listen to your arrangement." In the future, you will deal with the medical expenses, and I will not interfere or worry about it. You can do it!"
Li Tian smiled and nodded, and told me to take good care of my father in the hospital, and if I need anything, just talk to him. The stone in my heart fell to the ground, and even my wife Li Ming seemed to be relieved, smiling and waving at us to "you talk". Li Tian and I looked at each other and smiled, and the layer of window paper between mother and son finally broke open under the knock of this illness.
It suddenly dawned on me that I had misunderstood the essence of the "pension" thing. It is not only the provision of material money, but also contains a love from the elderly. And as the one who receives this love, the children will eventually learn to give back this care. Li Ming and I have always ignored the emotional exchange, so there were so many language misunderstandings with Li Tian. Now I finally realize that it's me, as a mother, who should take the initiative to give, rather than measure material gains and losses.