Hello everyone, I'm Yezi, thank you for reading my article. Today, I would like to share with you the story of Ms. Meng Yao. For the sake of narration, I use the first person.
Narrator: Ms. Meng Yao, 54 years old
After I divorced my ex-husband, my son was originally awarded to him, but he married another woman and had children.
I feel sorry for my son at his father's house and has become a superfluous person. So he took my son to my house and lived with me.
Over the years, I have worked part-time to earn money and assisted my ex-husband in providing for his son to graduate from college. I thought it would be easy, but my son's girlfriend in college was admitted to graduate school, and he himself failed by three points. He stayed with his girlfriend in the city where he studied for three years, and he did not find a stable job, and from time to time he asked me to pay him rent.
After his girlfriend graduated from graduate school, the two stayed in the field for two years and then came back. Come back and stay with me.
My house is an old house divided into units, although there are three bedrooms and one living room, but it is only more than 70 square meters.
My son and daughter-in-law lived with me for two years, and they went to look for several jobs during this time, but they quit after a short time, saying that the salary was low and they were not free.
I heard that my daughter-in-law is doing self-media, giving live lectures, and has a studio on the Internet, and her income is okay, but I don't know very well, and I don't say anything when I ask them, so I don't bother to care.
I go home from work every day, and I have to cook, and my daughter-in-law is fine, she also cooks when I'm busy, and more often than not, she orders takeout.
In the past two years, my son and my daughter-in-law quarreled once, and my daughter-in-law thought that my son was not motivated and wanted to break up.
My son also found a job, and although the salary is not high, he also has an income!
Seeing that my son is thirty years old, although he has been living with his daughter-in-law, I don't know the bottom of my heart if he is not married. I was afraid that my daughter-in-law would leave my son. I want them to get married and have children.
I asked my daughter-in-law, you two are not too old (the daughter-in-law and the son are the same age), and you have been talking for seven or eight years, you should consider getting married?
I was speechless. I want to find a way to buy a house, and now the house is not expensive, and it will always be solved by thinking of a way.
I found my ex-husband and talked to him about the current situation.
Although we are divorced, he is still very good to his son, and he has taken care of the tuition fees and living expenses of college.
Through negotiation, my ex-husband made a down payment and I paid the mortgage. I bought a renovated wedding room for my son.
The loan procedures were handled by my son and his father, and my son's name was written on the house, and I transferred 3,500 yuan to my son every month to repay the mortgage.
With a house, my son and daughter-in-law immediately got married, and my daughter-in-law understood our financial constraints, so she only needed 66,000 bride price money, and took it all out to buy furniture.
My pension is less than 2,000 yuan, and if I find an easier job, my salary is 2,000 yuan, and after deducting 3,500 yuan, there are only 4,500 yuan left, and the living expenses are gone, and there are still expenses for personal relations.
So when I was looking for a job, I tried to find someone with a longer time and a higher salary, and if I quit my job or the boss withdrew the cabinet, I didn't dare to take a day off, and I wanted to find a job quickly, because I had to pay off the mortgage for my son.
It's really stressful.
Sister Zhang, a colleague, said that Lao Liu, the security guard of the shopping mall where I worked, was interesting to me, and said that Lao Liu's conditions were good and he also had a pension. I want to find a wife who knows cold and hot to live with, and persuade me to associate with him.
At first, I was a little disgusted that Lao Liu was too old, ten years older than me, and the rest was fine.
Later, through a few contacts, I found that he was quite nice. The personality is also good, and he also makes a good dish.
In Lao Liu's house, I felt the warmth of home, and I was also a little selfish, because I paid off the mortgage for my son, and my living expenses were gone.
Living with Lao Liu, not only has a companion, but also takes care of each other. The issue of living expenses has also been solved.
After dating Lao Liu for two months, I moved to his house and we lived together. Lao Liu is diligent and easy-going, and it is still very good to live with him, I am very glad that I found Lao Liu after the divorce and can rely on each other. Although the mind that came to him was a little impure. But it doesn't affect our lives at all.
By chance, I found out that my son was lying to me, and he lied to me about a mortgage of 2800 and said it was 3500. cheated me out of an extra 700 yuan a month, he didn't know that his wife chose the most tiring and longest job to do in order to earn an extra 3,500 yuan a month.
I collapsed in an instant, and the 700 yuan became the last straw that broke the camel's back. I am in my fifties, and I should have enjoyed my old age in peace, but in order to pay off the mortgage for him, I didn't dare to rest, I didn't dare to get sick, and I even took my own living expenses into it.
And he actually lied to me and asked me to transfer an extra 700 yuan a month to him, do you think he still has a conscience? Looking at him like this, he can't be relied on when he is old. I scolded him and said cruelly: I won't repay the loan, and you will repay it by yourself for your own house.
I don't care about him from now on, I live a good old life with Lao Liu and take care of my body.
I don't work anymore, I buy vegetables and cook at home, let Lao Liu do it alone, he doesn't want to do it, anyway, we both have pensions.
I worked tirelessly to help my son, what did I get? Not only did he not understand me, but he also lied to me.
For so many years, I never thought of remarrying for the sake of my son.
I regret that I have managed him for so many years, and I should have left him alone after graduating from college. You say, don't you?