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Text: Xiao Zou on the top floor
Editor|Xiao Zou on the top floor
Follow the nature of things by themselves, and do not interfere with them against the will of God. After all, since ancient times, those who have violated the heavens have either been struck by lightning and crossed the catastrophe, or died of madness.
So what are the things we do that are "against the will of heaven"? Why do we go against the will of heaven and reduce our longevity?
1. Don't suppress yourself for a long time
On the road of life, we will always encounter a lot of things that we cannot control. In the face of these setbacks and tribulations, you should not be depressed and confused, but choose a sunny attitude to face positively.
Rather than fighting painfully and losing in the end, we should let it go with the flow. For example, during the epidemic, many industries have suffered shocks, and some people have chosen to give up on themselves, and finally end up on the verge of bankruptcy.
But more people still choose to go with the flow, actively seize the opportunity, use the Internet and other means to develop new marketing methods, and the company has thrived in adversity.
Therefore, there are many things in life that we cannot control, but we can control our own mentality. As long as the heart is strong enough, we can handle everything in the outside world properly and continue to move towards an ideal life.
And we also need to keep pace with the times and make adjustments with the changes in the world, so that we can adapt to the new situation and obtain new opportunities.
In life, we often play a variety of roles and take on different responsibilities. However, every effort will inevitably have hardships and setbacks.
The frustration people face can come from work stress, relationships, physical health, and many other aspects. And these setbacks are like a quagmire from which it is difficult to extricate oneself.
Some people are born to bear everything in silence, and they like to keep their inner troubles to themselves. In the face of setbacks, they choose to bury their negative emotions deep in their hearts like a pool of stagnant water.
Others, on the other hand, are optimistic and cheerful, they are good at looking at problems from the opposite side, and they are able to face life's problems dialectically. Others will constantly confide in friends and family in the hope of gaining support and sympathy.
However, everything has to be done in moderation. Talking and complaining for a long time will not solve the problem fundamentally, but will make life more difficult for yourself and others.
As a listener, accepting the negative emotions of others for a long time will increase your own mental stress, leading to exhaustion, boredom and even resentment. As a narrator, excessive indulgence in negative thoughts such as depression and pain will seriously affect mental health and cause a series of physiological problems through the regulation of the body by the brain.
Therefore, if you want to reasonably relieve your negative emotions, you can calm your mood and improve your psychological state through exercise, meditation and other methods.
At the same time, when you encounter problems or failures, try to change your mindset and not blame yourself, but maintain a tolerant attitude and not be afraid to turn to relatives or professionals for help.
Believe that you can get rid of the "complaining" mentality and bravely face life's challenges. Only after experiencing wind and rain can we cherish the rainbow in front of us more. Beyond the quagmire, the sun is still shining, the world is still beautiful, so keep going.
Since you can't suppress yourself for a long time, can you indulge yourself, eat when you want, drink when you want, and sleep when you want?
2. "Indulging oneself equals speeding"
Many people in life like to indulge themselves and live life as they please. For example, if you have a lot of fun and stay up late to play games, you will overeat when it comes to eating and drinking, and you will eat whatever you want immediately. Never look at the bill when you make a purchase. And in love life, I am with others casually, and I change objects at two ends in three days.
Such a lifestyle may seem comfortable and happy, but in the long run, it will inevitably lose its body. Playing games late at night and having difficulty getting out of bed the next day greatly affect work and life.
Long-term overeating will definitely make it difficult for the stomach and heart to overload. Spending money indiscriminately, quickly losing all your savings, will definitely regret it afterwards. And the chaos of your love life, in the end, these hurts will still return to you.
Therefore, we must learn to restrain and manage ourselves appropriately. This is not to ask you to endure a depressing or boring life, but to make reasonable arrangements to control your own rhythm of life.
Self-discipline is not to imprison ourselves, but to help us live better. When we learn to manage ourselves reasonably, we will soon be able to enjoy the balance between work and play, so as to have a healthy body, abundant economic conditions and a happy emotional life.
Stipulating that people can't drive over the speed limit isn't actually killing fun, but to ensure a safe and beautiful journey. Learning self-discipline is the only way to make life more enjoyable. Only by conforming to the laws of nature and making appropriate arrangements can people live a longer and more worry-free life.
Life is like a long journey, and we need to keep an eye on our speed in order to reach the finish line safely. You need to realize that emotions don't solve the problem, they can only exacerbate the conflict.
So keep your emotions under control and avoid losing your temper or saying hurtful things when you don't have to. Once you feel emotionally out of control, try taking deep breaths or shifting your attention to avoid impulsive behavior.
While proper rest and recreation activities can help people relieve stress, but if we are always unable to control ourselves and overindulge in these activities, then this becomes indulgence.
Therefore, setting clear goals and sticking to them will allow you not to give up easily when you encounter difficulties, and you can increase your self-confidence and reduce your dependence on others. And to set reasonable goals according to their own situation, not blindly pursue high standards, otherwise it will increase psychological pressure.
When we truly achieve self-discipline and self-management, we can not only avoid "indulgence", but also make life more meaningful and fulfilling. This requires you to firmly establish this concept from the bottom of your heart and stick to it in your life.
In addition to not being able to "drive at high speed", what other behaviors can we not do?
Third, the desire to control should not be too strong
In life, people often have a strong desire and attachment to some things, and want to have or achieve a certain state, which is understandable.
However, if you pursue and obsess excessively, you may bring trouble and even pain to yourself. Therefore, not being overly impulsive can bring us benefits and will not hinder everyone's way forward.
In relationships, some people always want others to do what they want, and friendship and affection are no exception. Some single young people can't ask for the object of their crush, and even make a fuss, which is a typical obsession with too much.
They are constantly demanding, interfering, and controlling, hoping to keep the relationship under their control. Unfortunately, this is often counterproductive.
Because true friendship and affection are based on equality, respect and trust, not on the constraints and restrictions of one party on the other.
If you push too hard, it is easy for others to feel depressed and dissatisfied, which can lead to the breakdown of the relationship, and strong expressions of unrequited love will only embarrass both parties.
And the same is true at work. There are those who always go out of their way to fight for higher positions and more power, even at great cost.
However, in the highly competitive workplace, opportunities are limited, and if people blindly climb and grab, they are likely to end up with an empty sense of vanity, and they will lose many things of real value, such as good colleague relationships and solid professional skills.
In the process of pursuing our personal ideals, we actually need to look at problems rationally. Some people constantly push the limits and even risk their lives in order to achieve their goals.
For example, in order to reach the summit of Mount Everest, some people risk their lives to achieve their dreams. While courage and determination are commendable, you should also pay attention to your own safety and development while pursuing your dreams. Only in this way can we go further and higher.
In the face of things that cannot be changed, we don't have to be depressed, but we must learn to look at the openness in order to live more calmly and happily. When we learn to let go, it is equivalent to making room for the soul, so that we can have the opportunity to enjoy the beautiful scenery around us and feel the true meaning of life.
The author thinks
There are indeed many unknown variables in life. So what kind of behavior can be regarded as truly "against the will of heaven"? Is the pursuit of wealth and fame "against the will of heaven"? Can birth, old age, sickness, and death be completely attributed to individual behavior? These questions deserve everyone's continued consideration.