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Sentence | Li-chi-hsien
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The ancients said: "Mo Dao Sangyu is late, and the sky is still full of xia".
It can be seen that old age is still a stage that cannot be ignored by a person.
If you make good use of it, you can also reap the happiness of sunset.
However, this does not mean that the elderly should also be full of false names and interests like when they were younger.
Because in old age, people's physical fitness will decline, which is an iron law that cannot be escaped.
If your heart continues to be full of desire, you can only lose both sides in the end, and your head will be broken.
Therefore, if people want to reap the blessings in the last stage of life, they must first learn to be content and try to embrace the "low-desire life".
In this way, we can be healthy and worry-free.
So how can we draw nourishment and happiness from "no desire and no desire"?
It's actually very simple, just keep these in mind.
Don't be competitive
When people are in the prime of life, they often quarrel with others over a trivial matter.
Even if you know that there is no benefit to doing this, you have to let the other party soften before you can be satisfied.
In fact, this way of doing things can easily lead to disputes and even be looked down upon by others.
Young people are energetic and may be able to enjoy dealing with these entanglements.
But when people reach old age, they must be unable to face the same thing.
Therefore, the elderly are either for their own safety and health, or to not let their families worry.
We should take the gains and losses lightly.
As the saying goes, "If you lose your horse, you don't know if it's a blessing".
Sometimes pretending to be confused and giving up the limelight to others can bring more benefits to yourself.
In addition, in today's society, most young people work in other cities, and many older people usually live alone.
In such a situation, it is necessary to learn to be kind to others, and to have a good relationship with neighbors or service workers.
In this way, once you encounter an unexpected situation, you will not end up being watched by others.
On the other hand, if the elderly encounter things, they will not be relieved of themselves, and everything is more serious.
In the end, even if you win, you will ruin your image in everyone's hearts and lose your good popularity, which is really worth the loss.
Don't be greedy
In recent years, there have been many unscrupulous businesses and scammers who have targeted the elderly and created various scams.
And many old people really fell into the trap of the other party for the sake of the small profits in front of them, and finally caused countless tragedies...
In fact, these scams focusing on the elderly are often spotted at a glance.
That is, first use "small cheapness" to let the old man off his guard, and then deceive the trust to make the old man believe in the beautiful fantasy of "pie in the sky".
The final outcome is naturally that the old man obeys the liar's words, and he suffers a big loss when he is greedy for a small profit.
It can be seen that if the elderly want not to fall for these scams, the first thing they need to do is to correct their thinking and understand that pie will not fall from the sky.
The ancients said: "If there is no desire, then there is rigidity", when the old man does not have the desire to get something for nothing and take shortcuts, the liar will also feel helpless.
In addition, the elderly also need to adapt to the trends of the times.
Usually supplement more network security knowledge, improve legal awareness, and communicate with family members in a timely manner when encountering things.
We must not let the "pension money" saved by thrifting for most of our lives go into the pockets of scammers because of greed for a while.
Don't indulge in bad habits
Some elderly people have more free time after retirement, and they can't help but feel empty.
If he doesn't have any health hobbies, he may pin his spirit on bad habits such as smoking, drinking, and gambling, which is also very detrimental to happiness in old age.
First of all, when people reach this age, various organs need extra care and maintenance.
Foods such as cigarettes, alcohol, and betel nut are harmful to the body, hurting the liver, stomach, and lungs.
In case any illness is caused by these momentary tongues, it is the old man himself who suffers in the end.
So, use warm tea and warm porridge instead of spicy drinks, and healthy snacks such as fruits or nuts instead of cigarettes.
After all, if you drag a shell that is about to collapse, no amount of happiness will be blessed.
In addition, gambling is a Xi that must not be contaminated.
Not only does it quickly cost people money.
It is also easy to make the mood of the elderly fluctuate greatly, inducing the arrival of some sudden diseases.
Therefore, both old and young should be brave enough to say no to gambling.
Don't be a part of everything
"Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes", which is also true for the elderly.
But a truly wise old man is faced with the rights and wrongs of others.
will keep yourself away from the center of the whirlpool, and it is impossible to take the initiative to go up and join in the fun.
Because, not only is it easy to innocently contaminate the contradictions of others onto oneself.
It may also absorb all kinds of negative energy, which greatly reduces the good attitude of the whole person.
As the saying goes, "non-tranquility cannot go far", when people are old, they should walk through the ups and downs around them with an indifferent heart.
Moreover, when people reach this age, they should learn to get along alone.
If the elderly want to spend time, they can learn more Xi some healthy interests, such as playing chess.
You can also participate in some meaningful cultural and sports activities to enrich your later life.
When the days are full and happy, it is natural that I am not interested in other people's lively things.
When getting along with children, there are "three don'ts" that should be done
In fact, in family life, especially when living with children, the elderly should also pay special attention to ways and means.
First of all, the first thing is not to trouble your children for big and small things.
When people reach old age, their children often enter an important stage of life, which is the period when they have to carry their career and family.
As parents, there should be more understanding of them.
Even if you can't help them share their worries, you must reduce the troubles you bring within your ability.
You can't leave all the trivial things to your children, otherwise they will definitely feel very depressed and stressed.
Of course, if the old man encounters something that cannot be solved.
It is still necessary to bring it up to your children in a timely manner, just don't rely too much on it.
The second thing is not to interfere in the small family of your children.
Everyone's life is their own, even if he is your child.
Especially after the children have left the arms of their parents and have formed a small family of two or three.
The elderly should take the initiative to withdraw, keep an appropriate distance, and give the small family more respite.
If the elderly do not understand such a principle of moderation, they will blindly interfere with their children's families.
In the end, it will not only lay a huge hidden danger for the deterioration of the relationship between children and parents, but also may invisibly tear the family apart.
leads to their lifelong regrets, I believe this is also the last thing the old people want to see.
Finally, the elderly should remember to be tolerant of their children, and not to criticize them everywhere.
Some people say that "children are here to collect debts", and Buddhists often say that "it is not that the family does not get together".
It can be seen that the relationship between parents and children is very complicated, and some friction and quarrels are inevitable.
When you are young, the child is still very young, and in order to correct his mistakes, it is necessary to be strict with him.
But when you get old and your children are able to take charge on their own, the roles of both parties should change.
The elderly should "abdicate and make way for the virtuous" from the position of being the master of the house, and they should not criticize their children at every turn.
We must respect each other from the bottom of our hearts, so that we can better resolve family conflicts.
epilogue
Embracing "low desire" and achieving "four don'ts" is the key to happiness in old age.
I hope that every elderly person can keep in mind the wisdom summarized by these predecessors.
In life, there is less calculation, comparison and greed, and more pattern, happiness and satisfaction.
Only by doing this can we draw on the blessings of perfection and enjoy the joy of happiness and tranquility!