My name is Zhang Wanshan, an ordinary office worker, married to her husband for five years, and has been living with her in-laws since marriage.
I borrowed 100,000 from my in-laws, hoping that they would lend it to me temporarily, and I would definitely pay it back after the operation, but they firmly refused.
On that day, I received a notification of my father's illness and asked my husband for help. I said, "Husband, my father's surgery is not enough money, I borrowed from my in-laws, but they won't pay a penny, what should I do?" The husband was silent for a while and whispered, "If they don't pay for it, forget it, we'll figure it out ourselves."
Just when I felt that everything was lost, a piece of news stimulated my nerves - my in-laws bought a car worth 580,000 yuan.
I angrily asked my husband, "Aren't they even as important as my dad is a car?"
A hint of embarrassment flashed across her husband's face, and he took a deep breath and said, "I'll talk to them well." When I heard this, I was also full of disappointment, and I felt that this marriage and family relationship really made me more and more tired.
A few days later, my husband and I went to my in-laws' house. I felt excited, full of anger, but I couldn't be too excited, after all, this was my in-laws' house.
After dinner, we sat down in the living room. I couldn't help but say, "Mom and Dad, Dad's condition is getting worse and worse, and the doctor recommends surgery as soon as possible, but we are short of money."
My father-in-law looked at me and said lightly: "We raised you so big, and we didn't spend less money, and now we are sad, just like we owe you."
The husband hurriedly interjected: "We don't want you to go out all of them, just borrow a little temporarily, and we will definitely pay it back after the operation."
The conversation did not reach a consensus, and my husband and I left their house in silence. When I got home, I felt more and more lost and helpless.
I was expecting my husband's conversation with his in-laws to improve, but things turned out to be unexpected. That night, my husband told me with a grim look on his face: "They don't think we have enough respect for them and there is no need to explain our financial situation to them."
My heart tightened, and my lips trembled. "I really don't understand what they think, it's my father's life that is in danger, and they are still in the mood to buy such an expensive car!" I said angrily.
The husband shook his head helplessly, "I'm also very embarrassed, and I don't understand what they think." I continued: "I would have liked to try to communicate with them, but now it seems that there is no point in talking about it.
The contradictions in this family seem to be inextricable, and I am full of contradictions in my heart. I feel angry and heartbroken about my in-laws' indifference and selfishness, but I can't openly oppose them because it involves my husband's relationship with the family.
I didn't know what to do next, and it seemed like I was stuck in a state of powerlessness to change. I looked at my husband and tried to find some comfort in his eyes, but there was also exhaustion and helplessness in his eyes.
Family conflicts in reality are often not like in TV dramas and movies, and they are always reconciled and beautiful in the end.
I knew that what my father needed most right now was my care and help, so I shifted my focus and threw myself wholeheartedly into my father's treatment.
As for disputes and conflicts in the family, it may be possible to find a solution only later.
However, in my heart, I clearly knew that even if my father recovered from his illness, there would still be conflicts in the family.
Perhaps, I will continue to work hard to find a solution that belongs to our family, even if it is a long and difficult road.
Family, affection, contradictions. Just like life, it cannot be perfect, but it is full of hope and challenges.
I decided to speak directly to my in-laws and found them. I was honest with them about my father's condition and the need for treatment, hoping that they would understand and lend me a hand.
This time, I was deeply disappointed, stunned and angry. Why can they be so indifferent to the needs of family affection? The husband also feels conflicted in his eyes.
In the process, I also began to realize that the problem of family conflicts after marriage is no longer an isolated case, but highlights the estrangement and incomprehension between family members.
This burden of thinking kept me awake at night, wondering about the complexities and contradictions in family relationships. I kept exploring inwardly, hoping to find the source of the conflict, but at the same time, I also felt lost, struggling, and painful.
After that, the situation became even more tense. My relationship with my husband began to get confusing. I began to wonder whose side he was on.
And my husband, in the face of these contradictions, also began to run away and no longer favored me and my son. I was disappointed and felt more and more inadequate.
Even though it was a bad time, I didn't give up. I knew very well that I needed to be strong and work hard for my family and my father.