My friend said to me, "Look, that couple looks so happy." ”
I looked at them and exclaimed, "Really, if only every couple could be so happy." ”
This couple reminds me of the situation in my family. My surname is Zhang, I am 32 years old and I am an ordinary office worker. My husband and I have been married for seven years, and we used to be so happy.
My husband's surname is Li, he is a gentle and steady person, and we have not had much conflict since we got married. But lately, I've started to notice that my husband is behaving strangely towards me.
Also, lately, our sex life has been a bit abnormal, and my husband always finds all kinds of excuses to refuse to be close to me.
Until one day, I stumbled upon a video on my husband's phone. When I opened the video, I was surprised to find that it was my own recording.
"Mr. Li, what's wrong with you? Why are you secretly recording my video?" I asked, a little angrily.
Mr. Li smiled and said, "My dear, you watch this video, you are really beautiful in it, I like to see your smile and listen to your voice."
I angrily shook him off, I felt cheated. But Mr. Li continued to look at my video with a grin, completely unmoved.
This discovery made me start to doubt our marriage. Whether I was too sensitive, or if my husband had already had other thoughts about me, I couldn't figure it out.
For the next few days, I was still busy going to work and doing chores as usual. But at home, my husband and I don't have the laughter and intimacy we used to have.
Until one day, I mentioned it to my husband: "Mr. Li, we have had some problems recently, have you noticed it?"
Mr. Li was silent for a while, and then sighed softly: "My dear, in fact, these problems are caused by me.
"But why are you watching my footage, don't you like being with me?" I asked, a little puzzled.
Mr. Li shook his head: "No, dear, I still like to be with you, but lately I always feel that you are changing, and I can't stop this change."
After listening to my husband's explanation, I realized that the problem between us was not unsolvable.
I also realized that in marriage, communication and understanding are the most important things. Coupled with my husband's explanation, I also began to re-examine the problem between myself and my husband, hoping to find a solution.
In the days that followed, my husband and I began to communicate more openly, and I gradually understood his inner struggle.
However, I still feel a little uneasy. I know that it is only through deeper communication and understanding that we can truly solve problems with each other.
My husband and I got back together and our bond became stronger. However, it was at this time that I unexpectedly discovered something that shocked me.
I suddenly chuckled in my heart, and all kinds of inexplicable speculations appeared in my mind. Could it be that my husband has had other thoughts recently? I was in a panic and didn't know what to do.
In the evening, I couldn't hold back and decided to find a chance to ask. That night, my husband and I were sitting in the living room watching TV, and I plucked up the courage to speak: "Mr. Li, I found a note in your pocket of your clothes today with an address written on it, can you tell me what happened?".
The husband was stunned for a moment, and then said thoughtfully, "Oh, that." This is an old classmate I made an appointment, and we are going to meet at that address, and I forgot to tell you.
However, in the next few days, I noticed that my husband often received some mysterious text messages and sometimes went out in a hurry.
My husband, on the other hand, remained impeccable and kept his attitude at ease, not noticing my suspicions of him.
This made me even more confused, what was going on? I began to quietly investigate my husband's whereabouts, but I never found any clues.
When my heart was tumbling, my husband's mobile phone suddenly rang. After glancing at the message, his face changed slightly, but he quickly regained his composure.
Although I became more and more suspicious of my husband's behavior, I did not find any conclusive evidence. There was an unspeakable awkward atmosphere between us, and I began to doubt my instincts.
This time the contradiction plunged me into deeper confusion and pain. It seems that a new chasm is starting to emerge between me and my husband, and there is nothing I can do to bridge it.
During that time, we tried to communicate as much as possible and try to resolve conflicts in our marriage. Slowly, my husband began to change as well, and he finally stopped being obsessed with watching my videos, but started to do more things with me that we enjoyed together.
We also participated in some couples activities together and participated in marriage counselling sessions. As time went by, our relationship gradually improved a lot, as if we were back to the way we were when we were in love.
However, just when our relationship was improving, new problems arose. I noticed that my husband was coming home late, sometimes not coming home all night, and his phone was always off.
I started to feel a little worried and uneasy, but I didn't know how to find out the truth.
One day, when I came home alone, I stumbled upon an undeleted photo. The photo shows the back of a young woman with her husband.
I felt my heart begin to fall into the abyss, and fear and insecurity came like a tidal wave.
The next day, I decided to confess everything to my husband. I seized the moment he came home and insisted on finding out the truth of the matter.
My husband looked a little at a loss when I questioned him, and he stammered and explained, "My dear, you misunderstood, in fact, I do have some things to deal with lately, and there is no other woman.
But I don't believe him anymore, I have to figure it out. This quarrel did not solve the problem, on the contrary, it deepened the doubt in my heart.
I clearly know that to solve the problem between us, it takes reason and calmness, and I need to find out the root cause of the problem and find a suitable solution.
However, the life that seemed to have been reconciled as before fell into a new contradiction. Recently, I noticed that my sister Xiaofang's mood began to become abnormal, always depressed, and unwilling to communicate with people.
Xiaofang's husband actually behaved in the same way as Mr. Li, not only secretly recording Xiaofang's video, but also spreading it online.
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