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My name is Liu Sisi, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Wang Xiaoming for three years. We are a typical "family match", according to the arrangement of our parents to meet on a blind date, and soon entered the palace of marriage. After marriage, I tried my best to be filial to my parents-in-law, take good care of my husband, and want to be a competent daughter-in-law.
I have a relatively gentle and obedient personality, and my parents-in-law often say that I am "well-behaved and virtuous", so my married life is also smooth. It wasn't until I got pregnant that things changed.
"Sisi, come and help me clean up the yard!" Early in the morning, my mother-in-law's shouts reached my ears through the walls.
I stroked my slightly bulging belly and paced to my mother-in-law: "Mom, my physical condition is not suitable for heavy work now, or I should wash my clothes." If you work in the yard, let your sister-in-law Li Jing do it for you. ”
"You also know that Li Jing's belly is as big as a hot air balloon now, how can she work!" The mother-in-law said dissatisfiedly, "She is only more than four months old, and you are seven months old, why are you pretending to be weak!"
"Doctor, that's what outsiders say!" My mother-in-law interrupted me impatiently, "How can our family listen to outsiders!
I obediently swept the yard clean, and I was already sweating a little. At this time, Li Jing walked over from the house with juice and saw me, deliberately exaggerated to hold her stomach, and looked uncomfortable.
"Auntie, Sister Sisi is quick with her hands and feet, so it's good for her to work more. I'm having a lot of morning sickness, so I'm going to have to take a break. Li Jing said to her mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law immediately looked concerned, asked Li Jing to come into the house to rest, and sent me to the kitchen to help prepare lunch.
Li Jing is the cousin of her husband Wang Xiaoming, two years younger than me, and is only 26 this year. She has a strong personality and often comes to our house as a guest after marriage, and my mother-in-law and I are very obedient to her. She finally got pregnant recently, and her mother-in-law was even more happy, treating her as a treasure all day long, for fear that she would be wronged a little.
I also understand my mother-in-law's feelings, after all, she has been thinking about holding her grandson for so many years. It's just that I reacted strongly after I became pregnant, often with morning sickness and dizziness, and there was only one nanny, and I took on most of the work at home, and my body was already very unbearable.
At noon, her husband Wang Xiaoming came back for dinner.
"Brother, your daughter-in-law almost fainted in the kitchen just now, I kindly reminded my aunt not to let her do so much work, but my aunt said that she was pretending. You have to take care of your mother-in-law and let her be merciful!" As soon as Li Jing saw Wang Xiaoming, she complained.
"Mom, you also have to take into account Sisi's physical condition, don't let her work too hard. Wang Xiaoming said to her mother-in-law with a frown.
"Isn't it for her sake!" The mother-in-law said dissatisfiedly, "Let her move, it's good for him and the fetus." Li Jing's girl is looking for excuses to be lazy all day long, but let Sisi help her do the work!"
"My sister-in-law was still suffering from morning sickness, and she couldn't bear to do housework. I quickly said, "I can do everything I can, and I'll be fine." ”
"Good girl, sensible!" The mother-in-law nodded with satisfaction, and looked at Wang Xiaoming again, "When you see other people's thoughts, you are content and happy, and never complain! Li Jing's girl squeaks all day long, like a princess!"
"Contentment is also about taking care of the body. Wang Xiaoming frowned and said.
"Hmph, you have to talk about every little thing!" The mother-in-law was upset and said, "Hurry up and eat! Everything is cold!"
I silently brought out the meal, watching my mother-in-law and Li Jing talking and laughing, and my husband coaxing his wife's gentle look, my heart was still a little sour.
I couldn't bear it anymore, and finally leaked my mouth in front of my mother, saying that I wanted to go back to my parents' house to have a baby. When my mother heard about this, she immediately felt unworthy of me and insisted on taking me back to my parents' house to give birth.
After dinner that day, I put forward the idea of going back to my parents' house to have a child, but I didn't expect Wang Xiaoming's reaction to be very big.
"How can you say such a thing as going back to your mother's house!" Wang Xiaoming said with an ugly face, "My mother loves you like her own daughter, how can you not give her this face!"
"But I'm really physically exhausted. I said aggrievedly, "Li Jing is unreasonable every day, your mother obeys her, I really can't resist it." ”
"Li Jing is a little willful, you are more tolerant of her, if you don't understand, tell me, I'll reconcile. Wang Xiaoming's attitude softened, "Our mother and son have been dependent on each other for all these years, and you also know your mother-in-law's temper, so don't worry about her, bear with her, and when you have a child, she will only treat you better." ”
"But with two months to go, I really don't know if I'll make it to that point. I choked up.
"My dear, think about our baby, it's such a big belly, can you bear to let it go back to its parents' house?" Wang Xiaoming put his hand on my stomach, "Besides, if you go back to give birth, how sad your mother-in-law will be in the future!"
When I heard the word "baby", I couldn't help but redden: "Then you tell Li Jing not to be so embarrassed, can I do it?" I had to propose to go back to my parents' house for the sake of the baby. ”
"I'll talk to Li Jing about this. Wang Xiaoming comforted me softly, "Don't think so much about it, rest well, I promise to take care of you and the baby." ”
I buried my head in Wang Xiaoming's arms and cried, Wang Xiaoming patted me on the back and coaxed me until I calmed down. I also knew that my thoughts were a little childish, and I finally decided to endure a little longer.
"Mom, it's not that serious, I discussed it with Xiaoming last night, and he will take good care of me. I hurriedly explained, "I'm also excited, don't worry." ”
"You can't leave this to them!" Mom said excitedly, "I know you, how could you have said that you would go home before? You must have been wronged! I will pick you up today and have a complete showdown with them!"
"Your mother is straight, I'll go and persuade her. Wang Xiaoming said with a frown. He told me to stay at home while he drove to my mother's house.
After more than two hours, I suddenly heard the car horn blaring outside the door. I went out to take a look, my mother was sitting in the driver's seat and honking her horn, Wang Xiaoming was standing in front of the car, and the two of them were arguing non-stop.
"Okay, okay, I'm not an authentic person, I bullied other people's children!" My mother said loudly, "I'll take her back today, don't come to my house to find someone in the future!"
"Auntie, let's talk well. Wang Xiaoming's face was pale, "Sisi's body is important now, I will take care of her." ”
"Don't come with me!" Mom said excitedly, "Get out of the way, I'm going to take my daughter home!"
I hurriedly ran over to persuade my mother, but when my mother saw me coming, she got out of the car and pushed me into the car. Wang Xiaoming also came over to pull me, mother and daughter, you pull me, Wang Xiaoming was so anxious that he shouted "Auntie, stop". In the midst of the chaos, my mother's hand trembled, and I slammed my stomach against the car door, causing me to scream in pain.
Wang Xiaoming and my mother were so shocked by my scream that their faces turned pale. I bent over and broke out in a cold sweat in pain.
In the hospital, I was recuperating in my bed, my stomach still aching. Doctors say they need to be observed for a few days to determine if the fetus is affected.
Wang Xiaoming stayed by my side and refused to leave for a moment. I knew he was worried about me, but every time I saw him with messy hair and heavy dark circles, I would think about the cause of it all, and I felt very uncomfortable.
"Don't say it, it's no fault of yours. Wang Xiaoming comforted me, "You take care of the fetus, don't think about anything else." ”
"Don't blame yourself, the top priority is that you and your baby are safe. Wang Xiaoming frowned.
My mother-in-law has also come to see me every day these days, but her face is ugly. Once, she couldn't help but say, "If it weren't for your mother meddling and making you like this, you wouldn't be lying here!"
I could only cry silently when I heard this, and Wang Xiaoming hurriedly pulled my mother-in-law out. Later, Wang Xiaoming told me that he and his mother-in-law had already had a serious talk, and that her mother-in-law would no longer blame me. But I know that my mother-in-law is probably already disappointed in me.
On the day I was discharged from the hospital, I insisted that Wang Xiaoming go back to rest first, and sat alone in the ward in a daze. At that moment, the door crept open, and my mother peeked in.
"Daughter, mom came in to see you. "Mom's voice is soft.
"Mom!" When I saw my mother, my eyes turned red.
"Don't cry, don't cry, it's not good for mom. "Mom hurried over and shook my hand.
"Mom, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have been looking for you behind your back. "I couldn't help but choke.
"Silly girl, I should have said I'm sorry for making you like this!" Mom's tone blamed herself.
"That's also because Mom didn't teach you well. Mom sighed, "Don't hide it, when you married that family, I didn't know the bottom of my heart." Their family has a higher status, and their hearts are naturally superior. This time I can only say that I was prescient. ”
"Alas, you have a temperament, and you have to find the reason for your losses. Mom said helplessly, "After so many years, I still don't know how to protect myself." ”
"Protecting myself will hurt others, and I can't bear it. I shook my head, "Their incomprehension of me is indeed well-intentioned, and I can't ruin the peace." ”
In the end, my mother left a letter to my mother-in-law expressing her apologies. After the mother-in-law saw it, although she did not call directly, she still conveyed her understanding through Wang Xiaoming. I know that this is already the maximum tolerance of my mother-in-law.
When a man is about to die, his words are good. This experience taught me to be tolerant and reflective, and it also gave me some insight from those around me. I believe that time will eventually heal all misunderstandings and the relationship will slowly repair as before.
After I was discharged from the hospital and went home, I noticed that my mother-in-law and Li Jing's attitudes had eased a lot.
My mother-in-law no longer asked me to do heavy work, but told me to rest well, and would bring nutritious soup to replenish my body on time every day. Li Jing is no longer unreasonable, she will take the initiative to help me when she sees me doing things, and sometimes she will make me laugh with a few jokes.
I know it's a sign that they want to repair their relationship with me. I didn't mention the unhappiness of the past, but just smiled and accepted their kindness and responded softly.
One day, Li Jing suddenly came to talk to me.
"Sister-in-law, I'm really sorry for causing you so much trouble a few days ago. Li Jing said with apologies.
"Now that it's all gone, let's all be friends. I laughed.
"I really talked and did too much before, and I'm ashamed that you can tolerate me so much. Li Jing said embarrassedly.
"Don't say that. I comforted softly, "Actually, I understand your difficulties, and the first pregnancy is also very uncomfortable, and I shouldn't be like you." ”
"You are much more generous than I am. Li Jing shook her head and sighed, "I should have taken care of you, but I also added to you, it's really my fault." In the future, I will definitely pay attention to my words and deeds and stop embarrassing you. ”
"Alright, let's start over. I smiled and shook Li Jing's hand.
"Sister-in-law, in fact, I have always admired your generous character. Li Jing suddenly looked at me sincerely, "I want to learn from your virtue of being tolerant of others." ”
"I'm just a mortal, don't exaggerate. "I'm a little embarrassed.
"No, that's a quality I should learn. Li Jing said firmly, "From now on, I will no longer care about the gains and losses in front of me, but learn to take a step back and open the sky." ”
I am very pleased with Li Jing's words. Perhaps experiencing disputes and misunderstandings can make everyone's hearts understand, which is also a blessing.
In this way, in an atmosphere of reconciliation, I passed the rest of my pregnancy safely and gave birth to a white and lovely baby boy. Mother-in-law and Li Jing both like this grandson very much, and they compete to hug and kiss every day.
"What a beautiful and well-behaved doll!" The mother-in-law was overjoyed.
"The bone is so good, it must be destined in the future!" Li Jing also said with a smile.
Wang Xiaoming treats the child as a treasure in his pocket and makes him happy every day.
One day, Wang Xiaoming suddenly said to me: "My dear, thank you for not giving up on us and making us a happy family." ”
My eyes were hot, and I clenched his hand: "It's all over, let's start a new life." ”
In the world, many disputes stem from mutual misunderstandings and cognitive differences. But as long as we treat it with a tolerant and warm heart, resolve misunderstandings, and then get a new life, we can all live a better life. That's my biggest realization.
"The more you look at the doll, the more cute it becomes, lively and smart!" Mom happily teased her grandson.
"He's like his father, he's capable. I laughed.
"Mom, I haven't been able to thank you properly. I suddenly said solemnly, "If you hadn't insisted on picking me up at the beginning, the problem between me and my in-laws would not have detonated, and there would have been no reflection and growth of everyone later." My quality of life has improved a lot over the past year. ”
"Actually, my mother was a little too radical at that time. My mother sighed and said, "I also reflected on myself, children will eventually get married, and mothers must learn to let go and believe that they are capable of handling their own lives." ”
"You don't need to blame yourself, you were worried and protective of me. I shook my mother's hand, "I am so grateful for your love for me." ”
"Mom just wants you to live a happy life. Mom looked at me warmly.
"I'm happy now. I laughed.
"Auntie, it's hard for you to come and see Sisi, but I'm really sorry. Wang Xiaoming said.
"It's okay, I'm happy to see my daughter and grandchildren. Mom smiled and said, "You have such a good relationship, and I am also very relieved." ”
"I will be good to Sisi for the rest of my life. Wang Xiaoming said solemnly.
When I was leaving, my mother told me to take care of myself, and also asked Wang Xiaoming to take care of me. As we drove away, my mother stood at the door and watched us, her eyes full of love and joy.
I waved goodbye to my mom softly, full of gratitude. At the beginning, the conflict between me and my in-laws caused the family to fall apart. However, through everyone's tolerance and reflection, the relationship became stronger and I gained a sense of stability that I never felt before.
Although there are misunderstandings and disputes in life, as long as we are tolerant, understand and tolerate each other, many problems can be resolved. This turmoil has made me grow a lot. I am always grateful to my mother for her kindness at the beginning, and I am also grateful to my mother-in-law and Li Jing for their tolerance and empathy. Life is becoming happier and happier because of everyone's common progress.
I believe that with kindness and working together, we can all create a home full of mutual understanding and love. This is also my most valuable life experience and harvest.
As time went by, my relationship with my in-laws and Li Jing became more and more harmonious. The child is also growing up, and he is already five or six years old.
One day, Wang Xiaoming suddenly said to me: "I think we should have another child, so that my brother can have a playmate, and the family will be more lively." What do you think?"
I was a little hesitant and remembered the unhappiness during my last pregnancy. But after thinking about it, the family atmosphere is completely different now, and my in-laws and Li Jing are very good to me, and I believe that this time will be very smooth.
"Okay, let's have another one. I said to Wang Xiaoming with a smile.
Wang Xiaoming was very happy, and immediately went to report the good news to his in-laws. The mother-in-law was also very excited: "Great! I hope this time it's a good girl, I'm good for her!"
In this way, in the expectation of my in-laws and Li Jing, I became pregnant again. During the whole pregnancy process, they took care of me meticulously, for fear that I would be reluctant to endure any hardships.
"Sister-in-law, I've worked hard for you, I'll peel an apple for you. ”
"Liu Sisi, drink a sip of soup and replenish your body!"
I felt that my whole person was soaked in their love, and my heart was warm.
Finally, I gave birth to a little girl born in vain. The mother-in-law made no secret of her joy and teased her granddaughter with a smile on her face.
"What a little princess, pretty and cute!" The mother-in-law was overjoyed.
"Mom, thank you and Jingjing for taking care of Sisi over the years, allowing us to have such a happy home. Wang Xiaoming said to her mother-in-law gratefully.
"We care for each other as a family, and that's the greatest happiness. The mother-in-law said with a smile.
Now, whenever I see the two children giggling and playing, and my in-laws and Li Jing also join in, and everyone is happy, I feel full of happiness in my heart.
Once, our family relationship was once bad, but after the precipitation of time, everyone resolved the misunderstanding with tolerance, and the relationship became stronger, which also made me firmly believe that as long as there is good intentions, the ice between people will eventually be broken.
Thank you that life has given us the opportunity to re-understand and repair. No matter what difficulties I encounter in the future, I will face them with a more positive and optimistic attitude.
Although the road is far, the journey is coming. I believe that as long as the family goes hand in hand, we will definitely be able to go to the other side of life and usher in the highlight moment of life.