Dictated: Aunt Lin
Author: Xiaoya
I am 51 years old, married to my husband for 28 years and gave birth to a daughter.
When I talk about my daughter, I feel very proud. Although my husband and I were not admitted to university and had to work as migrant workers, my daughter was admitted to Zhejiang University 10 years ago and is currently working in Hangzhou, earning more than twice the salary of her father and me.
My daughter has not yet married, and I stayed in Hangzhou to work hard, while my husband and I continue to work, planning to save more money for the elderly, so that the burden on my daughter will not be too heavy.
A week ago, my husband's words shattered the peace of our lives and sparked the most heated quarrel in our 28 years of marriage.
That day, my husband came home from work and asked me how much money I had at home. Over the years, I have been responsible for keeping the salaries of the two of us, and I have deposited the money in two bank cards, which I checked some time ago, and there are a total of 230,000.
Although 230,000 yuan is not a small amount, my husband and I have a relatively low pension, and we still need to give our daughter a dowry, so I usually save money, and my daily necessities are basically purchased online, and I dare not spend a penny.
My husband told me that his nephew is almost 30 years old this year, and he has not yet married a wife, which has become a heart disease for the whole family. Not long ago, with the help of relatives and friends, his nephew participated in a blind date and met a girl who was willing to marry him, but the woman's request made the eldest brother and sister-in-law feel very headache.
The woman said that the bride price is 120,000 yuan according to the local price, and in addition, she wants to stay in the provincial capital and hope to have a stable home, that is, the man also needs to buy a house in the provincial capital. The woman also mentioned that she has a younger brother, and her parents will not be able to bring back even the bride price money, let alone help buy a house.
The eldest brother and sister-in-law inquired and learned that if they want to buy a house in the provincial capital, they don't need to come up with 200,000 yuan, plus the bride price money and marriage money, at least 400,000 yuan before and after, and even if they empty their savings, they can only make up 200,000 yuan.
The eldest brother and sister-in-law are out-and-out farmers, who have farmed all their lives, and their property is only two buildings, but both buildings are in the village, and it is difficult to sell them for a few dollars.
Hearing this, I sighed, while feeling uncomfortable for my eldest brother and sister-in-law, while glad that I gave birth to a daughter.
My husband's next words made me stunned on the spot: "Wife, that's my own nephew, I can't watch him can't marry a wife and be indifferent." We have 200,000 in our hands, and I think..."
Before my husband could finish his sentence, I interrupted him, and although he didn't finish, I knew exactly what he meant.
"No! No, it's not 10,000 or 20,000, it's 200,000! If you say that your nephew gets married, and we give 10,000 or 20,000, I can accept it, but 200,000 is our life savings!"
My husband hurriedly explained, saying that it was borrowed, but I know very well the economic situation of the eldest brother and sister-in-law, the two of them make a living from farming, and it is good to have a net income of 20,000 or 30,000 yuan a year.
I resolutely disagreed: "It doesn't matter if you borrow or give, you can't do it, these 200,000 yuan are what we have saved through decades of hard work, and I can't get it all in for your nephew." My daughter is also going to get married, what will happen to the dowry when the time comes? And what if someone gets sick one day and needs to be saved?"
The two of us had our own opinions, one insisted on giving, the other insisted on refusing, and they quarreled, and he scolded me for being selfish and selfish, and filed for divorce, which made me angry and kicked him out of the house.
Just as we were at a stalemate, my daughter came back, and it turned out that he had told her about it and asked her to convince me.
When I saw my daughter come back, I was very angry and complained to my daughter about what my husband had done, saying that he was old and confused.
After listening to my complaints, my daughter sighed and said to me with a smile: "Mom, don't be angry! That, I support my dad, I agree to borrow this money, this is how it should be." ”
Hearing this, I was dumbfounded, I didn't understand why my daughter would support her husband, my daughter's expression became serious, and she said to me: "Mom, you must know how to be grateful, this is what you taught me." I borrowed this money not for anything else, but to repay my grandparents and aunts for their kindness. ”
With my daughter's words, my memories go back decades and recall my marriage.
Twenty-eight years ago, when I was 23 years old, I met my husband, who was a distant relative of my aunt.
Although the economic conditions of my mother-in-law's family are not good, it is worse than my family, but my mother-in-law has a good reputation, and everyone around me knows that my mother-in-law is reasonable and amiable.
My parents love me very much, they don't expect me to bring benefits to my mother's family through marriage, they only hope that I can live happily, and agreed to this family business, so I married into the old Tang family and became the little daughter-in-law of the old Tang family.
My in-laws gave birth to two sons and a daughter, my husband is a young son, my in-laws are amiable, and they treat their children with a bowl of water and strict requirements. My husband was in his second year of high school, but he couldn't read anymore, and he didn't want to increase the burden on his parents, so he chose to drop out of school and go home to farm.
After I got married, I gave birth to a daughter, and because I was not in good health, I had a difficult birth when I gave birth to my daughter, and the doctor said that it would be difficult for me to have any more children, so I was worried that my in-laws would be unhappy.
Fortunately, my in-laws love my daughter very much, and they also do their best to take care of me during confinement, take care of my children, and comfort me: "Didn't you see the propaganda slogan posted in the village? Boys and girls are the same, as long as they are promising, they are all good children and grandchildren of my old Tang family." ”
When my daughter was three years old, relatives who were working outside the home approached her in-laws and said that he could take two people to work in the factory, and although he needed to leave his hometown, his income was much more stable than farming.
At the beginning, we discussed, my sister-in-law and I stayed to take care of the children, take care of my in-laws, my eldest brother and my husband went out to work, although I was reluctant to let my husband cry, but for the sake of my daughter's future, I had to agree.
As a result, three days later, seeing that my husband and I were reluctant, my eldest brother gave me the opportunity to go out to work, saying that as the eldest son, he was not at ease to leave his parents in his rural hometown, and he wanted to stay and fulfill his filial piety, so that I could rest assured that I would go out to work, and they would take good care of my daughter.
In this way, my husband and I embarked on the road of going out to work, and my daughter lived with her parents-in-law, eldest brother and sister-in-law.
As a teacher, my father-in-law knows how to teach and educate people, and he treats his grandchildren even more evenly. With the full support of my father-in-law, my daughter was admitted to a good university.
Compared to my daughter, my husband's little nephew is not doing well. My little nephew's talent in reading is not as good as that of my daughter, and his academic performance has always been poor. When he was in his second year of high school, his sister-in-law had a serious illness, which brought a heavy burden to the family.
The little nephew chose to drop out of school despite everyone's obstruction, left a letter, and went out to work first, which led to him not marrying a wife until now.
After recalling these pasts, my daughter said to me: "Mom, if your uncle hadn't given you the opportunity to go out to work, you wouldn't have been able to save 200,000 yuan just by relying on my father's income." If it weren't for my grandparents and aunts taking care of me, and without patriarchal thinking, you wouldn't have been able to go out to work without distractions. If it weren't for my grandfather's hard work and everyone's full support, I wouldn't be able to do it. Isn't these kindnesses as good as the 200,000?"
I thought about it again and again, thought of my amiable in-laws who had always treated me as my own daughter, thought of the eldest brother who had been like a father all his life and sacrificed too much for our family, and thought of my husband who had always felt that he had failed to fulfill his filial piety and was sorry for his original family, and finally relented.
My husband and daughter have a point, although 200,000 is a lot, which makes me feel painful, but my in-laws and eldest brother are kind to us, and we should repay it.
Seeing that I agreed, my husband gave me a hug and thanked me repeatedly. The day before yesterday, we took a leave of absence, returned to our hometown in the countryside, and handed over the money to our eldest brother and sister-in-law.
The eldest brother and sister-in-law insisted on refusing to accept it, we tried our best to stuff it into their hands, insisting on giving, and the little nephew opened his mouth when he saw this: "Uncle and aunt, thank you, I borrowed this money, and I will definitely pay it back." ”
The little nephew made an IOU and solemnly handed it to us, and in order not to let him have a psychological burden, we accepted it.
We sincerely wish that the little nephew will get better and better, and we also believe that my grandson who has been taught by my father-in-law will not be far behind, he may just have bad luck, and he can live happily in the future.
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