As the old saying goes: "No flower is red for a hundred days, and no person is good for a thousand days." ”
In this life, people will climb to the top of the mountain, and they will also fall to the bottom; There are moments of joy and joy, and there are days of hardship and hardship.
Some people, as soon as they encounter difficulties, begin to complain about the heavens and others, get lost and in trouble, and never recover.
And people who are really strong in their hearts will regard the ups and downs as ordinary, regard life as a dojo, and do not complain about difficulties, do not complain about suffering, and do not promote joy, so as to grasp the steering wheel of life.
Only after experiencing setbacks can we reflect comprehensively; Only by taking a detour can we clarify the direction; If you are in a low lying, you will enrich yourself; Only by pushing away old knowledge can new knowledge be established.
Really powerful people, when they understand that when they are in a difficult situation, instead of blindly complaining about others and complaining about fate, it is better to reflect on themselves and enrich themselves. Only by turning crises into opportunities and turning predicaments into opportunities can we truly break the situation and change our destiny.
Once upon a time, there was a businessman named Zhang Ping in the south who opened a wine shop. Because it never sells fake wine, the reputation has always been very good, and there are many customers who come and go. Once, because the liquor store was very busy, the guys in the store accidentally bought a batch of wine that didn't taste very mellow. After being known by the guests, the business became more and more bleak. Everyone blamed and complained about the guy, but Zhang Ping didn't speak, just sniffed the wine. A few days later, the store reopened. It turned out that after Zhang Ping smelled the wine, he found that although this wine was not as strong as other wines, it had a fruity aroma. So the new product was launched, and many people praised it after tasting it, and business improved. The wise man said, "The gentleman asks for himself, and the villain asks for others." "The weak are always complaining about others, and the strong are introspecting themselves. Complaining can generate a lot of negative energy and make people fall deeper and deeper.
The more difficult it is, the more you have to stop complaining, so that you can think calmly, gain insight into the laws of things, and find the root cause of the problem.
It is difficult but not complaining, which is the big pattern of a person.
"The Tao is the way, the very way; The name is famous, and the name is not very famous. ”
The truth that can be said is not the real truth; None of the pain that can be expressed is real pain.
Many times, the darkest roads are unaccompanied; The deepest pain is unspeakable. Suffering without complaining is not only a transparent perception of life, but also a sign of a person's maturity. Once upon a time, there was a young man crying by the river. There happened to be a woman doing laundry next to her. The young man said to the woman, "My life is so miserable, I have been falsely accused by the villain, and I have not only lost my office, but I have also been imprisoned and suffered. When the woman heard this, she said thoughtfully: "My husband died young, and not long ago, my only son died in battle, and my daughter-in-law remarried. Yesterday it rained heavily and the old house collapsed. The young man was surprised and said, "Then why do you look so calm?" The woman said, "You still have to live." ”
Yes, there are always unpredictable storms and uncontrollable changes in life, but life must go on. The fate of human beings is not the same, and everyone has unspeakable pain and sadness that no one understands. As one writer once said, "He who has not suffered in the long night is not enough to talk about life." "Instead of constantly complaining and drowning in the past, it is better to calm down, look to the future, and take the road in front of you.
Only when a person is not complacent and unassuming, can he avoid disasters and achieve far-reaching results.
When many people are frustrated, they are often able to maintain a modest and low-key attitude, but when they are proud, they often get carried away, but let themselves fall into trouble and incur bad luck.
I've seen such a story:
When the woodcutter was chopping wood in the mountains, he met a wounded fox and brought it home to recuperate. This coat is bright in color and is a rare treasure, and the woodcutter loves it very much. One night, a few villagers stayed here. The woodcutter gave them a warm welcome, drank three rounds, said it very proudly, and took out his coat for everyone to see. I didn't want one of them to have bad intentions, and wanted to steal the coat while everyone was asleep, but the woodcutter found him, and in a hurry, the man injured the woodcutter and fled with the coat.
As the old saying goes: "Fame is every time you are poor, and you lose because you are proud." "People with a high realm not only know how to accumulate strength in times of adversity, but also know how to converge their light in good times.
The human heart is the most unpredictable, know how to hide, joy but not praise, in order to avoid disasters and go smoothly.
The dense place of flowers and willows is the means; When the wind and rain are urgent, stand still, and see the root of the foot.
Everything in life is impermanent. No matter how powerful a person is, there are times when he is trapped and helpless; Even if you are successful, there are painful and helpless things. The most essential difference between people and people is the mentality when facing the situation, and the winner in the final life is often the person with a strong heart.
When the trough is in trouble, don't complain, wait for the opportunity, and turn the tables against the wind;
When it is difficult and painful, do not complain, calm down, and continue to move forward;
When you are proud, do not get lost, gain insight into human nature, and be low-key and restrained.
The weak complain, the strong change; The fool is public, and the wise is restrained.
For the rest of your life, may you:
When the wind is against the wind, it can stand on the ground;
When the wind is downwind, hold the direction.
Have a strong heart and control the direction of destiny.
Photo: Zhou Zhengsheng
[Author: Successively served as a reporter, director, editor-in-chief, supervisor, deputy editor-in-chief, vice president, editor-in-chief, etc.] Director/researcher of the National Legal Research Center, director/researcher of the National Legal Public Opinion Monitoring Center, etc. ]