Hello teacher, I would like to ask you a question. My grandfather passed away 4 months ago, he is the person I love the most, until now I still can't get out of that shadow, from time to time I think of him dreaming of him, but I am also hinting at myself that everything will pass; But my grandmother, she can't let go at all! How do you think I should persuade her?
First of all, I understand your feelings and troubles. Losing a loved one, especially someone closest to you, can be very painful, and the difficulties of adjustment disorders, guilt and guilt, and self-death can have a huge impact on our emotions and lives.
Regarding your problem, you can consider the following points to persuade your grandma:
1. Companionship and understanding. You can spend as much time with your grandmother as you can, listen to her feelings and thoughts, understand her grief and pain, and make her feel cared for and supported as much as possible. Don't try to convince her to forget or let go as soon as possible, this is a natural emotional response, and understanding and accompanying her is the best help.
2. Provide emotional support. Grandma can provide emotional support if she needs it, helping her express her feelings and emotions so that she feels understood and accepted.
3. Give time and space. Grandma needs some time to get used to and process her emotions, don't force her to be quick to let go or forget. Give her enough time and space to slowly recover and rebuild her life.
4. Respect her decisions and feelings. Don't try to get grandma to handle her bereavement the way you do, respecting her feelings and decisions. If she needs professional help, she can be encouraged to seek counselling or other support.
5. Provide practical help. You can help grandma with practical matters such as taking care of her daily life, providing her with support and assistance, and making her feel taken care of and cared for.
The most important thing is to give your grandma as much support and love as possible, and to understand and accept her emotional responses. Her pain is real and understandable, giving her plenty of time and space to slowly recover and rebuild her life.