26-year-old Guan Xiaotong broke down and cried on her birthday, and netizens exploded: It's disgusting!

It's been a long time since I've been so genuinely angry...

A few days ago, there was a hot search on Weibo, called #Guan Xiaotong's birthday was tricked, and netizens shouted:

I feel sorry for Sister Tong!!

In fact, celebrating the artist's birthday when recording the show, and then making some jokes, setting up a little surprise, and even playing a prank are all routine operations of variety shows.

But in this episode of "Ace vs. Ace Season 8", it's really who looks at who is angry, who looks at who wants to scold, who looks at who loves Guan Xiaotong...

The Douban score has not been opened yet, and the comment area is already full of one-star negative reviews.

In the program, the research team of the School of Cyber Security of Zhejiang University came to the stage with a hard disk made "at a cost of hundreds of millions of dollars and five years".

Make a point!

Students from Zhejiang University said: What is stored here is the latest network defense security system, which has immeasurable social value, and there is no backup!

Then it was handed over to the artists on stage and asked them to pass on their feelings to each other.

Unexpectedly, when Shen Teng handed the hard drive to Guan Xiaotong, he "missed" and fell to the ground and shattered!

In shock, Guan Xiaotong tried to defend himself: "I was just standing, and Brother Teng suddenly came over to give it to me, and then he let go and fell to the ground." ”

But Shen Teng hurriedly replied to her face: "No, if this is a piece of food, I can hand it to your mouth, and I will put it here if I hand over something, right?" ”

A seemingly humorous joke blocked Guan Xiaotong's way to defend himself.

I felt that Tang Yan's eyes next to him could shark Shen Teng, and his face was full of disbelief.

(Netizen: She's definitely not pretending, her acting skills are not so good!) ）

The host Shen Tao also continued to add fuel to the fire behind the scenes: "It took 5 years, spent hundreds of millions, people came with research results, and we broke them, what should we do?" ”

In fact, if you look closely, you will find that when Guan Xiaotong didn't fully stretch out his hand to pick it up, Shen Teng quickly let go of his hand.

It stands to reason that normal people will not let go of such a precious thing and send it so quickly and decisively.

In addition, in the panic, the staff cleared the venue again, pretending to suspend the recording, and let all the other guests leave, leaving Guan Xiaotong alone on the stage, obviously letting her suffer the consequences alone.

So much so that Guan Xiaotong, who was kept in the dark, looked really frightened.

The expression ranges from pretending to be calm, to self-doubt, and finally to losing control of emotions.

is like a child who has obviously done nothing wrong, but has been wronged by everyone, standing alone on the stage alone.

In particular, the "backstab + dump" her is still Shen Teng, a senior who had a good relationship and trusted her before.

And just when Guan Xiaotong was red-eyed and full of tears, a group of people came out with a smile and a birthday cake...

When she found out that it was a false alarm, she said "scared me to death" with relief, and then the tears in her eyes finally couldn't help flowing.

However, where was Guan Xiaotong moved to cry, this is obviously scared to cry!

A good birthday party has become a "compliance test", let's just say that this routine is different from pressing people's heads into the cake before?!

Netizens are saying: It's not that I sympathize with the 208w people in your circle, but if you substitute Sister Tong, your real mentality will collapse!

It's like when I first entered the workplace, I worked with the seniors in the company who seemed to be very good and had always been very trusted, but it turned out that the other party had a problem, but in the end he threw all the pot on himself, not only was he criticized by the leader in front of the whole company, but no one spoke for him, so he could only bow his head and admit his mistakes.

Grievance! It's really wronged!

This reminds me of Gigi in another show, where Zhou Shen also encountered similar "pranks".

The day of the recording of the show happened to be Zhou Shen's birthday, and the director team first deliberately asked the staff to send a birthday cake.

Then he also said: "We have a good friend who is going to have a birthday", which made Zhou Shen mistakenly think that he was going to celebrate his birthday.

As a result, when I opened the cake, I saw that it was not for him, but for a staff member named Da Mei.

Then the staff served another cake and continued to trick him, making Zhou Shen misunderstand that it must be his turn this time, and even put on his birthday hat.

But I never expected that the second cake was not for him, but for a staff member named Daming.

Although he finally celebrated Zhou Shen's birthday, he was played twice in a row, and there was a hydrogen balloon in the sky that said "Teasing you", and he could only laugh to relieve his embarrassment.

Here Gigi, I just want to borrow a question from a netizen:

"Where did this tradition of annoying people first and then surprise people come from? What a lack of great virtue! ”

In order to satisfy the bad taste of some people, a group of people in the name of "I wish you a happy birthday" and "bullying" in a high-sounding manner, making the person concerned fall into an embarrassing, embarrassing, and even isolated situation, which really makes people feel very uncomfortable.

Especially the person concerned, even if he is unhappy, he can't be angry, because if he is angry, he "can't afford to play" and "is too serious"... It's just a fair PUA.

In fact, there are many such PUAs around us, such as deliberately quarreling with the partner before proposing, deliberately scaring children into trouble, and even some wedding troubles and the like.

Some people even unconsciously PUA others, and a netizen reflected on his own experience:

"When I was a kid, I learned about this kind of routine, so I pretended to break up with my best friend, and the next day I bought the doll she had always wanted and gave it to her. At the time, I thought I was pleasantly surprised her, but in fact I was self-righteously enjoying the joy of the moment when I deceived someone and controlled their emotions.

I also noticed my friend's expression at the time, in fact, it was more of a stunned, incomprehensible, and embarrassed expression, rather than a so-called happiness and surprise.

I hated this way of celebrating now when I grew up, but when I was a kid, there were a lot of things I hated the most when I grew up.

Isn't it good to make people happy? Why do you have to do anything to reverse your self-emotion? ”

Yes, since you want to surprise others, you should let the other party accept it happily, instead of suppressing the other party first, bullying the other party to a certain extent, and then giving a little sweetness.

It's not a surprise, it's self-righteous handouts, it's compulsive control of other people's emotions.

Just like some netizens said, I don't know if Yan Ni will remember when she was at the scene that Tong Xiangyu was isolated and excluded by the guys in "Wulin Gaiden", and then Jin Xiangyu reversed the so-called "birthday wishes".

Whoever likes this kind of "fake surprise is really frightened" birthday, who tm over it themselves!

Speaking of Guan Xiaotong's tricking, some people may be puzzled:

Is Guan Xiaotong so cowardly? Why didn't she continue to plead? It's obviously not her pot! If it was me, I would have turned my face on the spot!

Indeed, from the perspective of God on the sidelines, we all know that this is a prank.

However, in the field of psychology, there is a form of psychological manipulation called the "gaslighting effect", which is very similar to PUA, which is to influence the other party silently and imperceptibly, and manipulate the other party's emotions, cognition and behavior.

In a very subtle way, the victim gradually doubts himself, causing him to question his memory, perception or judgment.

The difference is that PUA usually starts with playing with women's emotions, while the gaslighting effect is more widespread and can occur in various relationships, such as parents and children, lovers and partners, friends and acquaintances, work superiors and subordinates, and so on.

We are not targeting a specific actor here, but Shen Teng's prank "If you eat this, I can stuff it in your mouth", is a typical gaslighting manipulation technique.

A similar example is in "Longing for Life", when Huang Lei accidentally overturned the plate when he put the dishes, he was suspected of "throwing the pot" to the newcomer Zhang Jingyi, and the first thing he subconsciously said: "I said the plate is coming".

was also so frightened that Zhang Jingyi bent down to apologize with a guilty face, and even her voice trembled a little.

(However, Mr. Huang Lei later admitted that he didn't tie things tightly...) ）

If at such a time, coupled with the emotions of other people around you, it is easy for the person concerned to have self-doubt and feel that the problem is all their own.

A small knowledge point, the operating principle of the gaslighting effect, usually has the following 7 obvious characteristics:

1. Unable to talk about things; 2. Deny your feelings; 3. Emphasize that your memory is wrong; 4. Use nicknames that don't respect you; 5. Blame all the fault on you; 6. Distorting the truth; 7. After the dialogue, you have a sense of unreality.

And many common words in life are essentially gaslighting. For example, parents of repressive education like to say: "I'm doing this for your own good." ”

Here it is recommended that when you have self-doubt, you may wish to judge against the above points.

Once you find yourself experiencing the gaslighting effect and find that there are relationships around you that are constantly draining you, you must leave decisively and in time.

Even if it's just a joke, as long as you don't feel well, it's an offense, a kind of "psychological bullying joke".

In the end, Gigi wants to say that you should not do to others as you would have them do unto you, and I hope that this "fake surprise and real fright" will disappear from the earth as soon as possible!