Disperse, Jinsha can only find such a boyfriend

Mango Channel's intimate relationship section has added new recruits, "Goodbye Lover" is about to end, and "Love's Study Trip" has quietly taken over. The format of the show is similar, all of which use the couple's trip as a clue to lay out the details of getting along, so as to trigger thinking about intimacy.

The difference is that the main body of the former is a couple whose relationship is facing a crisis and has divorce plans, and the overall trend is to focus on a constant conflict and danger, while the focus of the latter is peace &love, the guests of the show are three groups of couples of different marriage ages and a group of prospective couples.

The tone is like this, so there is Teacher Zhu Dan who shows his affection and does not close, the father of the eldest grandson (He Youjun) who publicly said that listening to his wife is the secret of his father's wealth, and Jinsha's little boyfriend who solemnly swore to get married, you think it is slightly outrageous, but in fact, everyone is on the topic.

So netizens are relieved, no matter how much you persuade or how you are not optimistic, Ms. Jinsha will be sweet with her little boyfriend in the show.

And back to life outside the show, their real intimacy will probably not be shaken by the points that everyone questions for a while.

What "why is this kid stupid and not stunned, he doesn't have the vigor of his younger brother's boyfriend at all, I don't want it for nothing", what "50 days without making more than 100 dishes is a low-cost payment, people are simply small and big, pretending to be pigs and eating tigers", and what is "getting married after only a year and a half of getting along, Jinsha is dizzy, don't wait for other people's wings to harden and flutter and fly away"...

It all makes sense, but it doesn't matter to Ms. Jinsha, who dominates the relationship.

Because when her core needs are met, all the hidden dangers and flaws that seem obvious to outsiders are negligible.

Sister Jin is not stupid, and there is a high probability that she will not be miserable. The love brain is indeed a little, but being able to act according to the love brain recklessly is also a luxury that ordinary people can't afford. She loves to dream and has a lot of blood, so she fell into this love game, not to be deceived, but to seek benevolence.

The willfulness of an urban middle-class only child

Jin Sha, who was born as a singer, has also acted in some plays over the years, and the more memorable point is the Shanghai indigenous girl in "Shanghai Women's Illustrated Guide" - Xu Xiao, a colleague of the heroine from a small town, beautiful, exquisite, delicate, foreign, has her own calculations, but there is no big anxiety, her superiority and relaxation once made the heroine ashamed of herself.

The temperament and background of this character overlap with Jinsha herself are quite high, she is a typical Shanghai girl, she grew up in a wealthy family, there is no shortage of love and material, she became a little beauty in her teens, went to a conservatory, became a host, and later signed a record company and acted in youth idol dramas, everything is a beautiful start for a small flower in the greenhouse, although it is enviable, but it seems to be logical.

Looking around, there are actually not a few girls like Jin Sha. It may be that the conditions and luck are a little worse than hers, and the development route is also different, but they all have the following things in common:

1. Relatively childlike, looking younger than peers;

2, compared to the fireworks in the world, it is difficult for you to learn from her what little wisdom of survival in the rivers and lakes;

3. Self-centered, perhaps gentle and gentle, with average ability, but there is a pride in his bones, not catering to others, and not self-doubting;

4. Be more content with the status quo, prefer to enjoy life than struggle, such as shopping, shopping, and traveling everywhere;

5, all have a moderate or above love brain, Wang Baochuan, who digs wild vegetables, is not enough, mainly because he likes to substitute himself as the heroine of idol dramas, and is soaked in the fantasy of "being praised as a little princess and swimming in dreams".

The reasons for the above characteristics can be attributed to the following: the foundation of life is stable, the parents are worry-free (good health, love for their daughter, do not urge marriage), there are no worries, and there is no deep sense of deprivation, so they can invest a lot of time, energy, and money into themselves, and at the same time, they can swing freely in the air without distractions, ignore the vicissitudes and thorns, and devote themselves to their own poems and distances.

In fact, most of the little princesses are also hard-working and can endure hardships, but the motivation and hard work to climb up are naturally not as good as those of the girls in the small town. After all, they haven't been hungry, they haven't been chased by wolves, how can they run like crazy?

Especially Jinsha, who already has such a good configuration and luck, according to God's usual operation, she will definitely have to close one or two windows in the future, and the continuous encounters and weak development in her career are one of the big windows.

Therefore, the out-of-fashion singer Jin Sha wants to invest the power of the wilderness in the construction of the pavilion in the air, so the most accessible path is, of course, to fall in love.

The love guidelines of the little princess

According to the personality characteristics of Xiao Gongju, the appeal of falling in love will naturally have unique and exclusive characteristics:

1. Male guests should have a sense of comics.

Although the audience can't look down on her post-00s boyfriend Sun Chengxiao, saying that his qualifications and appearances are not good, in fact, looking at reality, this younger brother is still qualified to be selected as the reserve army of the male protagonist of the comics.

For example, the Slovak literary director who reads a book by the window in the library, and the lively sports student who plays basketball in a white shirt in the sun can still be reluctantly substituted. Such a picture, without filters and BGM, the effect may be a little worse, but our Sasha can make up for it!

It's much easier to make up for this kind of white little boy than it is to face a bald yard farmer, a pot-bellied boss, a philistine insurance salesman, and a lavish-skinned rich daddy. So of course, Xiao Sun was successfully selected.

The two have collaborated on online dramas before

As for the kind of handsome guy who is really shocking and shocking, Sister Jin may be willing, but people have too many choices, and they may not need to take advantage of her.

2. The man must be centered on "Nannan".

The little princesses can fall in love, can lay resources for you, and can cook and wash socks for you, but the premise is that you have to give back to her with great emotional value.

You have to follow her, spoil her, you have to respond in a timely manner, and you have to know some means to create romance, so that she feels that she is the most unique existence in the world, and she is a true princess who is nourished by a high concentration of love at all times.

As a leader in the princess world, Sister Jin is even more of a "seriously ill princess patient". She will use virtual dating software to chat with Li Zeyan when she is empty, and she will use the trumpet to praise herself fiercely during the trough, so presumably in love, Sister Jin's tolerance for coldness and confrontation is not much higher, and a boy who is too busy, too strong, and too assertive may not be able to continue to support her emotional value black hole.

Here is an old story, although the other protagonist of the matter is a woman, but through Jinsha's reaction, you can get a glimpse of her state in the intimate relationship.

Baidu Encyclopedia named this event "Vixen Gate", and "Who is the Vixen" is the Rashomon among them.

Synopsis: On the evening of February 27, 2008, after Jinsha finished recording the dance forest conference program in Shanghai, because he took a photo with the fans at the door, he was scolded by the same car artist Siqingerile to the Jinsha fans on the spot, and Jinsha got out of the car angrily to protect the fans.

The above is the basic facts, and the next is the rotation of the two female stars:

Jin Sha took the lead in publishing a blog "When a Female Singer Becomes a Vixen", talking about how she was wronged and innocent, how the other party was irritable and rude, and also insinuated that Siqingerile should see a psychiatrist.

Subsequently, Siqingerile's agent told the media that Siqingerile lost his temper because he couldn't get used to Jinsha making everyone in the same car wait for half an hour, and actually got out of the car to take photos with others, and clarified that Siqingerile did not scold people in public.

Later, Jin Sha used his blog to post "Making Yin Tricks is an Art", first denied being late and letting the whole car wait for her, and finally exploded that Siqingerile had used rude language to insult artists Sun Yue and Jin Haixin's previous convictions, and thought that Siqingerile "lost the innate simple folk customs of Inner Mongolians", and ridiculed her as "lingering on the beauty of hypocrisy".

Then, Siqingerile, who couldn't write a small essay in Jinsha, directly used legal rights protection to protect his reputation.

In June 2008, the court made a first-instance judgment, declaring that Siqingerile had won the lawsuit, requiring Jinsha to delete the relevant blog, publish a statement apologizing to Siqingerile in his blog, and pay 10,000 yuan in compensation for moral damages. Jin Sha denied it and appealed again, but the court still upheld the original verdict.

Throughout the whole incident, Jin Sha is obviously the more aggressive one, she not only took the initiative to use public opinion to attack the other party, but also collected a lot of materials that are inconsistent with the facts as ammunition to attack the other party, which shows how strong the hatred in her heart is.

What did Kissingerile do? She is just a temper tantrum, ruining the beautiful picture of Jinsha standing in the center of the stage surrounded by fans, and it is unknown whether she will be dirty or not.

But for Jin Sha, this is a big deal, maintaining fans is just a watch, a person who removed her stage in public, extinguished her spotlight, regarded her as a female star who did not care about the feelings of others, and single-handedly destroyed her sense of centrality and perfect girl character, which was the root of her indignation.

We usually say that a person's narcissism overflowing and fragile must stem from her deep lack in the past, otherwise she will not always try to make up for it infinitely.

In fact, there is another situation, that is, on the contrary, she lacks nothing and has always been spoiled, but it is this long-term oversaturation state that makes her regard some luxuries in life as the norm, and her demand for being noticed, praised, and surrounded by fairytale beauty is extremely high, so correspondingly, her adaptability to the ordinary is low, and her tolerance for conflict is not high.

This determines that her other half cannot be too angular, too strong, or even too much like a living person, and long-term private coexistence with her must be accompanied by a certain degree of disguise.

Cloaking can only exist in two situations:

One is the period of hormones, which is still in love, looking at each other and filters, the pink bubbles between each other have not been smoothed by triviality and time;

The second is that when the other party relies on her, such as taking a fancy to her money, her resources, and her social relationships, they need to take shortcuts or meet some practical needs by binding with her.

This classmate Sun himself is studying art, and he plans to pursue his dream in the entertainment industry, so it is normal to need his sister to help him, if it is true, this is also one of the important ties to maintain the relationship.

Therefore, Sun Chengxiao's "stupidity" and "licking" are exactly what Jinsha needs, and they are also the necessary factors for Jinsha's love to survive.

Someone asked: Why didn't Jinsha find a handsome guy of the same age?

First of all, those who are handsome in their forties are extremely rare in themselves; Secondly, it's not good to mix poorly, there is no halo, it doesn't look as shiny as his younger brother, and his ghostly eyes are ten times more than his younger brother, so it's difficult to be well-behaved and lovely;

As for mixing well, I still want to be an uncle, so I don't have the time and patience to serve the little princess every day, and in the eyes of this kind of person, the young cutie with higher fertility value is of course more competitive than Jinsha.

That's it, even if you are rich and beautiful, the range of mate selection for older leftover women is always narrower, not to mention that Jinsha also has three principles: to be handsome, to be obedient, and to have a sense of service. It's not easy to leave such a one.

An old gossip with a picture

The little boyfriend is likely to be a thunder

Jin Sha and Sun Chengxiao both said that they were rushing to get married, but the audience was not optimistic, Jin Sha's father disagreed, and even the statements of emotional experts in the show were ambiguous. I don't know if the two of them will still be biased towards Hushanxing, and whether they will be able to achieve positive results in the near future.

But what is certain is that there are indeed many hidden dangers in putting an ignorant little boyfriend by your side:

1. Generation gap.

Once the love period is over, some scattered communication barriers are likely to become pebbles embedded in the soles of the shoes, hindering the advancement of the relationship.

2. My sister has no money.

After the sister's advantage in reality is greatly weakened, it will be difficult to supply the younger brother's needs as before, and the closeness of the relationship will plummet.

3. My brother's wings are stiff.

Not only does it mean that he will soar one day and his career will be better than his sister, but also that his mind will gradually mature as he grows older, and his dependence, worship, and dependence on his sister will be weakened at that time, and his younger brother may no longer be as well-behaved as yesterday, and the high and low positions of the relationship may face a reversal, can Sister Jin be willing?

4. Retaliatory derailment.

The younger brother or the man who is in a weak position in his career at the beginning has a higher probability of cheating. For example, the article, Yu Xiaoguang and Wang Yuelun, who were photographed drinking and flirting with girls in KTV many times before the divorce, their spouses are obviously more popular and more influential in the industry.

For this reason, the man has to bear a lot of pressure, including the ridicule and disfavor of public opinion, the pickiness and difficulty of relatives and friends, and even the squeamishness and strength of the woman.

After all, based on the traditional values of "male protagonist outside female protagonist" and "male strong female weak", not every gay man can easily achieve "soft rice and hard food", maybe he can use all his strength to play a caring husband, but in the end, he is likely to not be able to pass the level of self-esteem, he always needs a channel to make up for and release his long-suppressed machismo feelings.

Then, the revenge infidelity happened naturally. Whatever the reason, betrayal is very harmful to love and marriage, and if that day comes, it will be a big question whether they can be reconciled as before.

Therefore, the concerns and glories of bystanders are not unreasonable. Facing a male guest whose age, experience, and social status are far from his own, estrangement and gap are inevitable in the future; Surround yourself with someone who is in the midst of a growing period and has infinite possibilities for the future, and it is almost 100% doomed that your future days will be full of uncertainties.

By that time, will the dream of being a fairy tale princess still survive the turmoil?

If Jinsha's personality elasticity cannot be increased, then it is likely that it will be difficult for her to accommodate a constantly changing person and a relationship that is bound to change.

There is no malice to assume that if she experiences some setbacks and changes, and enjoys more vicissitudes of life, perhaps she will grow faster than rolling in love.

When the kingdom falls, the castle falls, the crow flies, the witch reigns, the little princess must become a warrior or a wanderer, fight or compromise, or live in devastation instead of jewels, perhaps after such beating and tempering, her personality will be more stretched and strengthened, and her view of love will be rewritten.

Who knows? Accidents and changes mean the unknown, dangers, but also some kind of new beginnings.

I look forward to Jinsha's not-so-girly, not-so-princessy side to appear someday in the future.

Author: Mademoiselle Bovary

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