In this materialistic society, many people pursue a high standard of marriage and do not hesitate to pay a huge price to meet each other's requirements. However, can such a marriage really bring happiness?
Some people do not hesitate to bankrupt their families or even sacrifice their happiness for the sake of their children's marriage, but they do not get the respect and gratitude they deserve. What kind of feelings did they feel in their hearts? Let's listen to Uncle Wang's story.
Son's marriage
My name is Uncle Wang, I am 61 years old and I am a retired worker. I have a son named Wang Xiaoming, who is a software engineer working in Qingdao. He and a local girl, named Zhang Xiaoli, have been in love for two years and are ready to get married.
My wife and I are very happy and feel that they are a match made in heaven, and as long as they are happy, we are satisfied. However, the daughter-in-law put forward three conditions before marriage, which surprised us. She asked for a house of no less than 100 square meters, a car worth more than 150,000 yuan, and a bride price of 60,000.
We felt that these conditions were too much, we were ordinary wage earners, where did we have so much money? We asked our son, and he said that he loved her, was willing to do anything for her, and as long as she was happy, he was happy. We looked at our son's eyes, and our hearts softened, so we agreed.
In order to meet these conditions, we spent all our savings, sold our hometown house, bought a community house in Qingdao, bought a new car, and raised a bride price. We feel that this is for the happiness of our son and the face of our daughter-in-law, and we hope that she can appreciate our efforts and live a good life with our son.
The birth of a grandchild
After our son and daughter-in-law got married, we moved into their house and lived with them. We feel that it is convenient to take care of them and to strengthen our relationship. We get up early every day to cook, wait for them to come back in the evening to eat, and also help them with cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, and housework.
Instead of asking them for money, we also took on their mortgage and car because we felt they were newly married, stressed out and needed our support. Soon, our daughter-in-law became pregnant, and we were even more happy, thinking that this was a gift from God and sent us a lovely grandson.
We love our grandson and play with him every day, tell him stories, buy him toys, and cook food for him. We treat our grandson as our treasure, and we see his every move in our eyes and remember it in our hearts. We feel like the happiest people in the world, with a filial son, a beautiful daughter-in-law, a lovely grandson, and a warm home.
The dissatisfaction of the daughter-in-law
However, our happiness did not last long, and the daughter-in-law began to resentful of us. She felt that we interfered too much in their lives, always pointing fingers at her, teaching her how to cook, how to take care of the children, how to dress up, how to spend money. She thinks we are too old-fashioned, we don't know how to be fashionable, we don't know how to enjoy, we don't know how to respect her personal space and privacy.
She felt that we were a bunch of white food, who took their houses, drove their cars, spent their money, and wanted to direct everything from them. She often lost her temper with us, turned a blind eye to our kindness, scoffed at our concerns, and ignored our suggestions.
She also often quarreled with her son, saying that we were redundant, burdensome, and troublesome, and that we should move out quickly and stop living in their house. Although the son was not satisfied with her attitude, in order to maintain the harmony of the family, he did not dare to clash with her head-on, so he could only persuade us to endure and let go, after all, she was his wife and the mother of her grandson.
Our departure
We watched the changes in our daughter-in-law, and we felt sad in our hearts, and we couldn't understand why she was so indifferent to us, so ruthless, and so ungrateful to us. We have paid so much for her, but in exchange for such an ending. We don't ask her to reciprocate anything, we just want her to understand us, respect us, and get along with us.
We don't want to interfere in their lives, we just want to help them, care for them, give them some advice. We don't want to take advantage of them, we just want to give them some support, reduce their burden, and make their lives better. However, she did not appreciate our intentions, but she thought that we were superfluous, burdensome, and troublesome.
We feel aggrieved, helpless, and helpless. We don't know what to do, what to say, what to do. We can only endure in silence, retreat silently, and pray silently. One day, my daughter-in-law mentioned that a colleague's mother-in-law had moved back to her hometown after a quarrel with her husband, which made me think.
I feel that young people are less willing to live with the elderly for a long time because they have their own ideas, their own habits, and their own way of life. They may feel that we are a burden, a constraint, an obstacle. They may want more freedom, more space, more choice.
I thought maybe we should give them some opportunities to experience for themselves, to make their own decisions, to be responsible for themselves. Maybe we should let go and let them grow on their own, make mistakes on their own, and correct themselves. Maybe we should leave some and let them be grateful, cherish, and happy.
So, my wife and I decided to go back to our hometown as soon as possible in order to give my son's family more space to be alone. We feel that this is done for their good and for our good. We don't want to have any more conflicts with our daughter-in-law, we don't want to cause trouble to our sons, and we don't want to affect their relationship anymore.
We just want them to have a good time, a comfortable life, and a happy life. We told our son about our plans, and he was surprised, reluctant, and touched. He said he didn't want us to go, he said he needed us a lot, he said he loved us a lot. We looked at our son's tears, and our hearts were sad, distressed, and gratified.
We reassured him that we were not leaving forever, but only parting temporarily. We said we would come and visit our grandchildren at any time to maintain the parent-child relationship. We said we would call him anytime and care about his life. We said we would always support him and encourage him in his work. We said that we would bless him at any time and pray for his happiness.
Our return
We packed our bags, bought train tickets and got ready to go back to our hometown. We hugged our grandson, kissed our son, and said goodbye to our daughter-in-law. We got on the train and looked out the window, wondering whether it was right or wrong, a blessing or a curse, joy or sorrow. All we know is that we love them, think of them, and look forward to them.
We only hope that they will understand us, forgive us, and remember us. We only hope that they will be happy, joyful, and peaceful. We returned to our hometown, lived in a small house, and lived a poor and quiet life. We have no house, no car, no money, no children and grandchildren.
We only have each other, only memories, and only hopes. We called our sons every day to ask them how they were doing and share our feelings. We go to Qingdao every month to visit our grandson, bring him small gifts, and tell him stories. Every year, we invite my son's family back to their hometown for the Chinese New Year, prepare some delicious food for them, and take some photos for them.
Gradually, we found that the attitude of the daughter-in-law had changed. She is no longer cold to us, no longer rude to us, no longer complaining to us. She began to smile at us, be polite to us, and thank us. She said that she admired our selflessness, respected our wisdom, and touched our love.
She said that she regretted her ignorance, was ashamed of her ruthlessness, and regretted her shamelessness. She said she needed our help, wanted our company, and longed for us to come back. She said she loved us, respected us and cherished us. She said she was lucky, happy, and peaceful.
epilogue
After listening to our daughter-in-law's words, we were very happy, very emotional, and very relieved. We feel that our efforts have not been in vain, our sacrifices have not been in vain, and our departure has not been in vain. We feel that our choices are right, our actions are meaningful, and our return is valuable. We feel that our son is happy, our daughter-in-law is mature, and our grandson is lovely.
We feel that our family is harmonious, our life is good, and our future is bright. We feel that we are the happiest people in the world because we have a complete home, a warm heart, and a love without regrets. We feel that this is the meaning of life, this is the value of life, and this is the true meaning of happiness.
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