Inadvertently, the "new type of unfilial piety" suddenly became popular on the Internet.
What is the "new type of unfilial piety"?
That is to say, parents have cut down on food and clothing for most of their lives, and finally sent their children to work in big cities to earn money.
thought that the children were digging for gold when they worked outside, so they waited for the children to return to their hometowns and raised their eyebrows in front of their neighbors.
They don't know that in this era of fighting for their fathers, their children work very hard.
Tired and tired, I can't save any money, and I am far from my parents' expectations.
In the eyes of our parents, we are reluctant to eat, reluctant to wear clothes for you to study, and to raise you, but you don't get married, don't have children, don't call, don't make money, and ask a few words to annoy us.
This is the so-called "new type of unfilial piety".
Some netizens said: I accept my parents' mediocrity, but they can't accept my mediocrity.
01 The children are very aggrieved, and the parents are very disappointed
Since the advent of the Internet, children have never stopped complaining about their parents.
Talking about his parents, tears of grievance swirled in his eyes:
- "Why did I raise you so big?"
- "How much is this month's salary?"
- "Your brother is getting married, how much savings do you have?"
- "Your brother is going to buy a house, and you are not married, so you can help your parents share a little. ”
- "You spend less money outside, and your brother still has to go to school, so get a job with a good salary. ”
I would say that talking to the family,
- Three sentences are inseparable from money,
- Four sentences can't get married,
- Five sentences are talking about saving,
- Six sentences are sensible,
- Seven sentences are not easy to raise you,
- Eight sentences are all about you looking at people,
- Nine sentences are saying that you have to be angry, don't complain, can't shout tired...
I've always been puzzled
- Why do my parents want to pua me,
- Tougher than my boss,
- The boss at least treats me as an individual.
- My parents completely regarded me as unconditional vassals.
obviously tried his best to supplement the family, but he was still scolded for being unfilial.
Think about it carefully, isn't it sad that your children are wronged?
Parents may not be able to post online messages and complain when they are old.
However, their disappointment will still be revealed in their words:
Who isn't tired?
Is it more tiring than doing farm work at home?
Can it be more tiring than working on a construction site?
I don't understand, I only work 5 days out of 7 days, I sit in the office, the air conditioner is blowing, the wind can't blow and the rain can't get wet, I can make money by playing the computer, what can I be tired of?
I have no education, in a small place, I earn 700 yuan by enduring hardships and hardships, to feed a large family, and to provide for you to go to school.
You have culture, in a big city, you get 7,000 yuan a month, and you can't save money.
You, just care about your own comfort, and forget about home.
Listen carefully, isn't it sad that your parents are disappointed?
On the one hand, the children are extremely wronged, and on the other hand, the parents are very disappointed.
I thought it was a small generation gap, but it inadvertently turned into a big gap.
Separated by thousands of mountains and rivers, it seems that it is difficult to communicate for a lifetime.
02 6 hours of commuting, a lifetime of work
A young girl who works hard in Shanghai once sparked heated discussions because of her daily extreme commute of 6.5 hours.
- Every day when she goes out, she first rides her electric bike to the bus stop.
- Take the bus for an hour and a half, then change to the subway.
- After arriving at the station, take the shuttle bus to work in the park where the company is located.
- The one-way journey takes 3 hours and 15 minutes.
- The round trip is six and a half hours.
Imagine rushing to the bus stop before dawn in the morning.
Squeeze into the morning rush hour bus, and there is a high probability that there are no seats yet.
After standing up for an hour and a half, the person was already on the verge of collapse.
But you don't dare to stop, let alone take a break on the side of the road for breakfast.
If you are a minute late, you may lose more than one breakfast.
When I finally arrived at the company, I had to start my day's work immediately.
There is no respite, and when you get off work, you have to repeat the process of going to work.
When I got home and lay in bed, I felt like I had been squeezed dry.
I have neither the energy nor the mood, so I call my parents and listen to their chatter.
The body is tired, it's okay, it's young, just take a break.
When the heart is tired and sad, life becomes torment.
Parents only see glamour, but children see all their faces:
- When you go to work, you have to look at the face of the leader and the boss.
- When you go out and enter the door, you have to look at the face of the landlord.
- Talking about business depends on the customer's face.
- The person to talk about depends on the face of the parents.
- When I go home, I have to look at my parents' faces.
How can you tell your parents about this kind of life, and how can your parents understand this?
Parents who have worked all their lives in front of their homes will only ask:
Why can't you live closer to home? Why not find a job nearby?
Then, the house is going to be renovated, and the holiday is approaching, can you go home?
I want to go back, it's not fake! I really want to go back, I don't have any money!
What a disfilial piety!
Elderly parents are becoming more and more unable to enter their children's world, and they are becoming more and more unable to understand, why don't they go home?
03 Distress is conscience, and escape is self
My mom asked me why I was becoming more and more reluctant to go home.
Is it because you're having a comfortable time outside, or are you slowly not thinking of this home as your home?
Neither!
I will only be alive if I flee from the distance from my homeland!
Enjoying their true selves that are very different from what they see them all in...
I'm really conflicted:
While trying to escape from my parents, I also want to earn a lot of money and give them the best.
On the one hand, I think they talk too well, and they never consider any of my feelings, and on the other hand, I feel that they are so hard, and every time I hate the feeling of return and feel distressed.
Distress is conscience, and escape is self
You hate his feudal thoughts, and feel sorry for his tired appearance.
It's like giving you artificial respiration and praying for you, but not letting go of the hands that are holding your neck.
Children try hard to make a good life for their parents, but they don't have enough to do.
Parents feel that their children have a future, but they only care about themselves and forget their home.
Who's wrong?
No one is wrong.
It's life that's wrong!
04 Understanding is maturity, and reconciliation is the destination
Parents are parents, but they were also young.
When I was a child, the years were quiet, and it was my parents who were moving forward with a load.
The most common complaints many young people have were:
When I was a child, my parents only knew how to work or work in the fields, and they didn't play with them, and they didn't have money to buy good food.
He only knows that he asks us to read, never understands our minds, doesn't care about our growth, and doesn't give us enough love.
But think about it, you're a parent now.
Are you overwhelmed by work and life?
You also want to give your child the best of everything, but you can't do it too?
Do you want to spend more time with your children, but don't you feel that you don't have the time and energy?
When you get home, you don't want to lie flat for a while, don't want to relax yourself?
Do you want to give your child the best care, do you want to enroll him in the most expensive early education class?
I'm afraid I'm sorry for the child, I'm afraid that the child will lose at the starting line, and I'm afraid that the child will suffer by himself.
Everything you do at this time is what your former parents are doing, but the times are different.
They have worked hard all day and given you the best companionship and the best care in their minds.
Today, no matter how good or bad you are, aren't you stepping on your parents' shoulders and climbing up?
Ask yourself, can you accept the mediocrity of your parents, can you accept the mediocrity of your children like you?
Understanding parents is a kind of maturity.
Try to open your heart to your parents, reconciliation is the ultimate destination.
If you say it well, your parents can listen well.
Take them out to see the outside world and the real you, and they will definitely understand your hardships and hardships.
What are you afraid of?
They are your parents, and they are the people in this world who can really feel sorry for you!