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My name is Li Feng and I am 53 years old this year. Finally, after getting divorced many years ago, I mustered up the courage to sign up for a blind date. I sat in a private room at the hotel, rubbing my hands nervously, thinking that I must cherish this opportunity and maybe find a partner with whom I can spend the rest of my life.
The door opened, and a middle-aged man with a sparse head but a steady gait walked in. "Hello, my name is Zhao Jinshui, please take care of me." He took the initiative to extend his right hand.
"Hello, I'm Li Feng, please take a seat." I smiled nervously and reached out to shake him politely.
"May I call you Sister Feng?" Zhao Jinshui said with a smile.
"Okay, okay, I'll just call you Brother Jin Shui." I nodded.
"Is Sister Feng a local? Doesn't it sound like an accent local?"
"My hometown is in Changzhou, Jiangsu Province, and I moved to Beijing 10 years ago. Brother Jin Shuidi is from Beijing, right?"
"I'm a native of Beijing, yes, I grew up nearby."
Zhao Jinshui and I briefly introduced ourselves to the family situation. It turned out that he was 4 years older than me and was 57 years old. He has a daughter who has just started college. Like me, he was divorced many years ago and has been living on his own.
"Sister Feng, it's not easy for you to live alone." Zhao Jinshui said with concern.
"Yes, the child is not around, and the life is empty and cold." I smiled wryly and nodded.
"I'm the same, every day when I come home from work, I'm so lonely in front of an empty room." Zhao Jinshui said sympathetically.
A glimmer of hope rose in my heart. The two of us have similar experiences, maybe we can really find a common topic, maybe this is fate.
"Do you have any plans for Brother Jin Shui in the future?" I started talking.
"When I retire, I plan to move to the countryside to grow vegetables and live a simple life." Zhao Jinshui said, "Sister Feng, what about you?"
I hesitated, but plucked up the courage to say, "My greatest wish is to find a partner with whom I can spend the rest of my life and a warm home."
Zhao Jinshui nodded: "I understand Sister Feng's mood. But I'm more traditional, and if I want to develop, I still want to get along for a while and get to know each other. ”
I was a little anxious, held his hand and said, "Brother Jin Shui, we are not children anymore, unlike young people, time is running out." I really want to have a home, you just let me move in with you, and I'll treat you well. ”
Zhao Jinshui dodged slightly, and said slowly: "Sister Feng, I understand your feelings, and I like you a lot." But it's a little too fast, after all. Why don't we meet more first, I can take you home and sit down, get acquainted with it, and see how it feels, okay?"
After the blind date, Zhao Jinshui and I exchanged contact information. When I got home, I had mixed feelings. On the one hand, Zhao Jinshui's first impression on me was good, he was a gentle and steady person. But on the other hand, he had reservations about my request to live together, and I understood his caution, but still felt a little lost.
Two days later, Zhao Jinshui sent me a message inviting me to visit his house for the weekend. I happily agreed, and carefully prepared some fruits and snacks.
On Saturday, I went to Zhao Jinshui's home, which was an old but cleanly cleaned two-bedroom apartment. Zhao Jinshui greeted me in loungewear and looked very happy. I looked around and thought to myself, how nice it would be if I could live with him.
We chatted about daily life, and Zhao Jinshui made a few good home-cooked dishes. I have expressed my desire to live together many times, but Zhao Jinshui still thinks that the time is too short and we need to understand it deeply. I was a little melancholy, but I understood his considerations.
After dinner, Zhao Jinshui proposed to go for a walk by the lake near the community. The moonlight by the lake is beautiful and there is a romantic atmosphere. I took the initiative to take Zhao Jinshui's hand, and he did not refuse. I couldn't help but want to kiss him.
Just as my face was getting closer and closer, Zhao Jinshui refused: "Sister Feng, I know that you have a good impression of me, and I can see that you are a very good woman." But please understand that I need more time. Give me some time to think about it, and also give our relationship a run-in process, okay?"
Although I was a little embarrassed, I still nodded: "Brother Jin Shui, I'm really sorry, I'm too anxious." You're right, we should take it one step at a time. Please give me a chance to prove myself, and I will expedite your understanding of me and accept me. ”
On the way home, I felt both sweet and abrupt. Zhao Jinshui didn't reject me directly, which already made me very happy. But I also knew that it would take effort and time for him to fully accept me.
More than a week passed, and Zhao Jinshui suddenly sent me a message saying that he had thought it through and agreed to let me move to his house to live with him. I was ecstatic, immediately packed my simple luggage, and moved into Zhao Jinshui's house.
For the first week, I tried to play the role of a virtuous girlfriend, doing all the housework and taking care of Zhao Jinshui's daily life. I want him to see my intentions and accept me as soon as possible. But what I didn't expect was that Zhao Jinshui proposed that we should sleep separately, and he needed some personal space. Although I was sad, I couldn't insist on my own demands, so I could only obey for the time being.
In the second week of living with Zhao Jinshui, he still asked us to sleep in separate rooms, and I began to feel very sad and humiliated.
One night, I plucked up the courage to ask him this question: "Brother Jin Shui, I've been moving in with you for two weeks, why don't you accept me sleeping in your room?"
Zhao Jinshui was slightly embarrassed: "Sister Feng, I said before that it takes a process, I hope you can understand my rhythm."
"I've tried my best to cooperate with you, and you can see that I love you very much and take care of you, right?" I said anxiously, "Am I not good enough?" What the hell are you worried about?"
"Sister Feng, don't worry." Zhao Jinshui persuaded, "I like you very much too, but it takes time to develop a relationship." Your impatience will make it difficult for me. ”
"Brother Jin Shui, you have to give me a clear timetable." I raised my voice, "Otherwise, I can't accept such an ambiguous state." ”
Zhao Jinshui frowned: "Sister Feng, don't force me." We also need to adapt to each other. If you insist on this, you are hurting the relationship. ”
I retorted angrily: "It's you who hurt feelings!" I've given so much, and you're still making those empty excuses, which means that you don't love me at all!"
After that, I rushed out of the door and moved out of Zhao Jinshui's house that night. I deeply regret that I shouldn't have easily believed Zhao Jinshui's promises, all this is ridiculous.
When I returned to my home, I reflected deeply. Maybe my desire for this relationship is too urgent and I ignore Zhao Jinshui's feelings. But he should not bring up the capriciousness of cohabitation. The relationship is destined to be difficult to continue, and we both need time to calm down.
A few days later, I received a letter from Zhao Jinshui, in which he reflected on his mismanagement of the relationship, was too afraid of commitment, and failed to grasp the rhythm reasonably, which made him deeply regretful. I was sorry for his sincerity, but I was also ashamed of my wrong idea at the beginning.
So I picked up my pen and wrote a decent reply. I say thank you for your reflection, but in fact, there is something wrong with me. Feelings need to be cultivated by both parties, and they need understanding, trust, and concession. Maybe the conditions weren't ripe at the time, but I didn't think enough from your point of view. Now after deep thought, I am willing to give this relationship a new beginning.
Later, Zhao Jinshui wrote to me for a date, and we opened our hearts again, communicated frankly, and gradually regained our initial understanding and trust. Perhaps after misunderstandings and breakups, we will cherish and understand each other more than before. The moonlight was still gentle and beautiful that night, and Zhao Jinshui and I held hands, our hearts full of joy and expectation.
After Zhao Jinshui and I regained contact, although it was still some time before we actually lived together, we understood each other better and were more cautious about dating than in the past.
I learned not to force it anymore and to give Zhao Jinshui enough personal space so that he could accept the relationship in a comfortable rhythm. I no longer doubt his feelings because of his hesitation, but expect him to accept me sincerely.
On the other hand, Zhao Jinshui also took the initiative to express his affection for me. From time to time, he would buy me a bouquet of flowers or cook a dish that I loved and brought for me to try. I have the feeling that he is struggling to adjust to a stable relationship.
One day three months later, Zhao Jinshui asked me to come to his house and mysteriously said that there was a surprise for me. I arrived with great anticipation and found that his house was warmly and beautifully furnished, with candles lit on the table.
"Sister Feng, in the past three months, I have gradually experienced what it feels like to be with you." Zhao Jinshui said solemnly, "I am willing to start living with you, this time, I will take my time and will not let you down again." ”
I burst into tears of emotion. We shook each other's hands, and I said, "Brother Jin Shui, I'm ready too." This time, I will be more patient and let the relationship slowly heat up. ”
In this way, after experiencing misunderstandings and breakups, I finally got my wish and started living together with Zhao Jinshui. In the beginning, we were very cautious about this relationship.
After living together, I found that in fact, Zhao Jinshui also longs for the feeling of home in his heart, but he just needs time to establish a sense of security. As the days went by, he became more and more attached to me. One night, he took the initiative to pull me into his arms and invited me to sleep with him.
I feel extremely happy and satisfied. After going through twists and turns, this hard-won relationship has become more and more stable. Zhao Jinshui and I will cherish everything we have now. Every night before we go to sleep, we whisper, "Thank you for being in my life."
After living with Zhao Jinshui, I gradually found the happiness I had not seen for a long time.
During the day, I do some light chores and then go out to hang out with friends and chat. In the evening, I would go home on time to cook dinner, and then spend the night leisurely in front of the TV with Zhao Jinshui.
Sometimes we also discuss our plans for the future. I suggested that maybe I could move my family to my hometown of Changzhou after retirement, and Zhao Jinshui agreed that this idea was good. We happily imagined the rural idyllic life, raising chickens and ducks, and growing vegetables.
Of course, cohabitation will inevitably have some minor frictions. Zhao Jinshui sometimes complains about my shopping spending, but I also pay attention to controlling my spending and not letting him worry too much. Once I forgot to turn off the heat and almost burned the pot, Zhao Jinshui blamed me twice, but also apologized the next day.
These small contradictions cannot affect our feelings, but are sublimated in mutual understanding. I often sing, and Zhao Jinshui will hum a few sentences along with me. He laughed and said that I was singing out of tune, but it was nice to his ears.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, we have been living together for a year. The bits and pieces of this year have become small blessings in our lives. I often feel that if I hadn't met Zhao Jinshui, my old age might still be lonely and empty.
I feel happier and more fulfilled right now. Before going to bed, I would look through the photos we had taken together, which were the most precious memories of my life. I am glad that after experiencing misunderstandings and separations, fate still guided us together.
I believe that in the years to come, Zhao Jinshui and I will continue to explore the joy of life together and fulfill our rural dreams. In our lifetimes, we will always cherish each other's existence and be grateful for all these wonderful fates.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, Zhao Jinshui and I have been living together for three years. Our lives are very peaceful and comfortable, and we are becoming more and more accustomed to each other's presence.
One night, I had a whim and said to Zhao Jinshui: "We've known each other for so many years, should we officially go on a date?" Zhao Jinshui readily agreed to my proposal.
So one weekend, Zhao Jinshui took me to a high-end restaurant and ordered a few dishes that we didn't usually eat. I propose that we should take the day off and come here for a date once a year.
After dinner, Zhao Jinshui suddenly knelt down on one knee, took out a small box from his pocket, and said to me: "Sister Feng, I love you and want to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you, are you willing?"
I burst into tears of emotion and agreed to his proposal. We kissed in the restaurant, and the guests around us applauded and blessed us with a long life.
A month later, we had a simple but grand wedding, inviting friends and family from both families. The moment I put on my wedding dress, I was speechless with excitement. After the ceremony, Zhao Jinshui gently wiped away the tears from the corners of my eyes.
After we got married, we lived a very happy life. Together, we traveled around the world, visited many places, and made wonderful memories. In the dead of night, we would look through these travel photos together and feel that we already had such a full and fulfilling life.
Now we are officially retired and moved to our hometown of Changzhou to live a rural life according to the plan. Every day, we grow vegetables, raise chickens and ducks, and are leisurely. In the evening, we will walk together by the lake, enjoy the scenery and chat, and enjoy the family fun.
I often thank God from the bottom of my heart for letting me meet Zhao Jinshui. That blind date, which was full of misunderstandings, turned out to be our happy marriage. I'm truly grateful for every bit of what we've done together.
No matter what setbacks you encounter in life, as long as you have hope, beauty will eventually come. The story of me and Zhao Jinshui is the best interpretation of this truth.
More than ten years have passed, and Zhao Jinshui and I are both old and old, but our relationship is still sweet and strong.
When the grandchildren get married, they often come back to see us and bring their children to play in our yard. Zhao Jinshui and I have slowly passed on life skills such as cooking and gardening to them.
Occasionally, we would go back to Beijing to visit our children and get a feel for the bustling atmosphere of the city. But we still enjoy the simple rural life of Changzhou more. Every plant and tree here makes people feel peaceful and peaceful.
On this day, I made a few of Zhao Jinshui's favorite dishes and waited for him to come back from the field for lunch. "Today's food is so delicious, is it a special day to celebrate?" Zhao Jinshui said with a smile.
I nodded and said, "Do you remember what day it was?" What a blind date we had!"
"Oops, I forgot!" Zhao Jinshui exclaimed, "I can't imagine that we have known each other for so many years." ”
"At that time, we never imagined that we would come to this point." I sighed, "God is amazing and brought us together." ”
Zhao Jinshui clenched my hand, his eyes were full of gratitude: "Sister Feng, thank you for not giving up on me at the beginning." If you hadn't given me another chance, we wouldn't be where we are now. ”
I shook my head lightly and said, "No, I want to thank you for not leaving because of my recklessness." Fortunately, we didn't give up, and we will eventually become married. ”
We cherish this day of great significance. Before going to bed, Zhao Jinshui hugged me and said, "Sister Feng, I love you, no matter what you go through, I will face it with you."
I smiled and closed my eyes. At this moment, I felt that my life was complete.
In the years that followed, Zhao Jinshui and I slowly grew old together, but our love was always young and warm. The most precious thing in this world is the time spent with your loved ones. I'm glad God blessed us with such a perfect ending.