On the first night of the wedding, the mother-in-law suddenly added 30,000 bride price, the man was furious and canceled the wedding, and the woman begged: Can't I do it if I don't want it? Man: Even if you return all the money today, I won't get married!
1. Overview of the case
Ms. Zhang grew up in the palm of her parents' hands, she has been obedient and sensible since she was a child, her parents love her daughter very much, and when her daughter grows up, her parents are even more heartbroken for her future.
However, no matter how old her daughter is, she still has to get married, and soon, Ms. Zhang reached her twenties and fell in love, and her boyfriend's surname was Han, who was a handsome young man.
Mr. Han's family is well-off, handsome, and straight, which is very compatible with the beautiful Ms. Zhang. When the two were in love, Mr. Han was responsive to Ms. Zhang's needs, and Ms. Zhang was also heart-to-heart to Mr. Han.
Mr. Han's mother likes Ms. Zhang's prospective daughter-in-law very much, Ms. Zhang is gentle and petty, both in image and personality, she is a good girl, and she is very attentive to her son, so when the two talked about marriage, they added Ms. Zhang's name to the marriage room.
Ms. Zhang's mother is also very satisfied with Mr. Han, but she still has some concerns, her daughter will marry in the future, and she will be someone else's family, what if her son-in-law treats her daughter badly in the future? What should I do if my daughter is wronged?
Zhang's mother was very worried about this, and when the two parties sat down to talk about marriage, she also tried her best to fight for more rights and interests for her daughter, in case the two had problems in the future, and her daughter would not suffer too much.
At the beginning, the two parties agreed to write Ms. Zhang's name in the man's house, and the bride price was less, giving 30,000 yuan, Ms. Zhang's mother agreed, and the two sides were more happy to talk.
However, Zhang's mother regretted it afterwards, she felt that 30,000 yuan was too little, how could she cherish what she got easily? She offered to give a bride price of 50,000 yuan, and Mr. Han's family agreed after considering it.
Subsequently, Ms. Zhang and Mr. Han received a marriage certificate, and the two families picked a day to prepare for the wedding, but on the first day of the wedding, Zhang's mother was not at ease.
Zhang's mother said to Ms. Zhang that she would get married the next day, and she wanted to give Mr. Han the last test, so that Ms. Zhang could mention it to Mr. Han, plus 30,000 dowry, 80,000 is better than 50,000, and for the Han family, this money is nothing, the main thing is to see if Mr. Han can really listen to Ms. Zhang.
Ms. Zhang has been a good girl since she was a child, so she habitually obeyed what her mother said, and did not consider whether it was inappropriate to do so.
However, what she didn't expect was that Mr. Han was furious when he heard this, and quarreled with Ms. Zhang.
Ms. Zhang was very aggrieved, she didn't understand, for Mr. Han, 30,000 yuan was nothing at all, why couldn't he give it to his mother to rest assured?
After Mr. Han hung up the phone, he told his mother about it, Han's mother also had concerns at this time, her son was also afraid of melting in his mouth since he was a child, and his daughter-in-law had not passed the door, so he asked again and again, and his son would not be manipulated by them in the future?
Mother Han summed it up, and felt that such a daughter-in-law didn't want it. So she told her son this idea, Mr. Han has been very filial since he was a child, and he listened to his mother's advice very well, although he was still very reluctant in his heart, but finally listened to his mother's words.
Ms. Zhang waited for a long time, and finally waited for Mr. Han to contact her, but Mr. Han did not bring the answer Ms. Zhang wanted. Mr. Han said that if she insisted on adding 30,000 yuan, the marriage would not be concluded.
Ms. Zhang was very puzzled, 30,000 yuan was not much, why could he even say that he was not married?
The two quarreled again, Ms. Zhang and Zhang's mother thought that Mr. Han would definitely compromise in the end, and after Mr. Han heard Ms. Zhang say such things, he felt that what his mother said was right, and his heart became more and more determined not to get married.
The next day, Ms. Zhang packed up and waited at home for Mr. Han to pick her up, but as you can imagine, in the end, there was a big ugly, Mr. Han didn't come at all, and the wedding was canceled.
At this time, Zhang's mother looked at her daughter who was crying incessantly, and felt more and more that her daughter was right not to marry. Ms. Zhang was very affectionate to Mr. Han, and was very sad to learn that Mr. Han was no longer married, and contacted Mr. Han to say that she had already negotiated with her mother, and she didn't want 30,000 yuan.
However, what made her unacceptable was that Mr. Han said, even if you return all the bride price to me, I won't get married!
2. Views of both sides
Ms. Zhang said that she thought that 30,000 yuan was not a big problem at all, and Zhang's mother only made this request for peace of mind, so why couldn't Mr. Han reassure his mother?
And Mr. Han believes that the bride price of 50,000 yuan was negotiated early in the morning, so why change the hexagram temporarily? This is a matter of dishonesty, he has been sticking to his love with Ms. Zhang, and her name is written on the house, which he won for Ms. Zhang, why can't Ms. Zhang stick to their love and have to listen to her mother?
Usually what Ms. Zhang buys, he has never been distressed, the money that should be spent is far more than 30,000, and her name is written on the house, what else is there to worry about?
And Ms. Zhang also proposed at this time that Mr. Han said that she was indeed right, but didn't Mr. Han stick to his feelings? Why did he listen to Xie's mother's words, prepared for the wedding for so long, and said that it was canceled?
The mediator said the essence of the matter at this time, and this matter was actually not a problem between two young people at this time, but a struggle between the mothers of both sides.
Mothers love their children, Zhang's mother is afraid that her daughter will suffer a loss, and she is desperate to get protection for her daughter, while Han's mother also loves her son, for fear that her son will suffer in the future, both mothers are fighting for the interests of their children, and the two young people are too obedient to their mothers.
3. Netizens' views
Some people say that this matter is wrong with the woman, and the good things have been changed again and again, and the bride price has been added again and again, is it to sell the daughter? In the end, it's okay, the marriage can't be done.
Some people say that the woman is really wrong, but the man is also a mother-in-law man, and the mother said that this daughter-in-law is not good, and said that if she doesn't get married, her son won't get married. In the future, if the two really get married and listen to their mother in everything, what will happen to the small family?
Some people also say that in fact, this matter is because the mother is too involved in the children's affairs, and the young people's affairs are solved by themselves, they have a good relationship with themselves, and with the support of the elderly, life will not be bad, and the old people will definitely have a bad time in the end.
At first, Zhang's mother just wanted to give her son-in-law a prestige by adding a bride price, and let him listen to her daughter in the future.
Who knew that in the end, Han's mother got a glimpse of her intentions, and Han's mother asked her son to cancel the wedding in order to prevent her son from being pinched by Ms. Zhang's family and not letting her son suffer.
3. Legal analysis
In traditional weddings, the bride price is an important part. However, sometimes this link can also cause some unnecessary contradictions. In this case, we can see that the following legal issues are involved:
1. Freedom to marry:
According to the provisions of the Civil Code, freedom to marry is a fundamental right of every human being. No one can interfere with the freedom of marriage of others in any way.
Therefore, the bride's mother's temporary request for a bride price is a disguised interference, and in fact she has no right to interfere with her daughter's freedom to marry.
The Civil Code clearly stipulates that marriage shall be based on the principle of voluntariness and the feelings of both parties, and shall not be conditional on any form of exchange of property. At the same time, the law also clearly stipulates the scope of application and the amount of bride price in marriage.
In this case, the mother-in-law asked the husband to increase the amount of the bride price, which clearly violated the provisions of the Civil Code, because the bride price is an act of gift, which should be based on the principle of mutual consent, and should not be compulsory.
2. Breach of contract:
According to the provisions of the Civil Code, the bride price is a gift and falls within the scope of the contract law. However, since the bride price relates to the marriage relationship, it is also related to the marriage law.
In this case, if the groom and bride have reached an agreement, then the agreement should be legally binding.
The mother-in-law suddenly changed the conditions the day before the wedding, which was a clear violation of the agreement. Therefore, from the perspective of contract law, the mother-in-law's actions are unlawful.
If the man and the woman have signed a prenuptial agreement or other form of agreement, then either party should bear the corresponding legal liability for breach of contract.
3. Property Disputes:
If the parties have already given the bride price or have other property disputes, then it can be resolved through negotiation or litigation.
In this case, if the man gave the bride price, then they have the right to demand its return. If the woman has received the bride price, then they are also obliged to return it.
In short, this incident is a wake-up call for us. When faced with a lifelong event like marriage, we need to consider not only emotional factors, but also legal issues. Only a legal and compliant marriage can be truly happy.
After mediation, both Ms. Zhang and Mr. Han realized that they had grown up and could not listen to their mothers in everything, and they said that they would reflect on their own problems and reconsider the emotional problems between them.
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