My husband Ruidong and I got married a few years ago, and we are both busy with work, and Ruidong's mother-in-law, Qiu Lian, always takes the initiative to help us take care of our children.
One day, Xiaodong suddenly had a high fever, and we decided to take him to the hospital immediately. The family hurried to the nearby hospital, and I stared at Xiaodong anxiously, while my mother-in-law sat next to me with a calm face.
After arriving at the hospital, Ruidong and I took Xiaodong to register, while my mother-in-law waited outside. After asking about some symptoms, the doctor gave Xiaodong some medicine and told us to wait in the waiting area.
Just as I was about to sit down, I suddenly heard a scream, I looked up, and was surprised to find that my mother-in-law was running into the emergency room with Xiaodong in tow.
In the emergency room, the doctors and nurses were busy, and I saw Xiaodong's face pale and shivering constantly. The mother-in-law stood aside, keeping an eye on the doctor's every move.
My mother-in-law held my hand tightly and said tremblingly: "I just heard Xiaodong shouting, and then he suddenly fainted, I thought something was wrong with him, so I quickly took him to the emergency room."
I listened to my mother-in-law's explanation and immediately understood her worry and nervousness. Although I had doubts about her ability before, at this moment I saw her bravery and calmness in protecting Xiaodong.
After a while, the doctor came to tell us that Xiaodong's condition was not serious, but just fainting due to weakness, and he needed to rest and recuperate.
Back at home, Xiaodong lay on the bed resting, and his mother-in-law was ready to help him bring hot soup. I walked up to my mother-in-law and said affectionately, "Mom, thank you."
With a pleased smile on her face, my mother-in-law gently touched my head and said, "This is my responsibility to my child, and I will do my best to protect him if there is anything wrong with my child."
Since that trip to the hospital, my perception of my mother-in-law has changed drastically. I found that she didn't just pay lip service to her children, but really proved her ability with her actions.
My mother-in-law took my child and not only provided him with warmth and love, but also taught him a lot. Every time I see Xiaodong smiling at my mother-in-law, my heart warms up.
This trip to the hospital made me more aware that family affection is not just a formality, but needs to be interpreted through actions.
However, family harmony seems to be a fragile balance. On this seemingly peaceful day, an accident made me feel the shadow of family disputes.
One day, my mother-in-law and I took Xiaodong to the park to play. Xiaodong ran around excitedly and had a lot of fun.
Suddenly, I heard a cry, looked up, and saw that Xiaodong had fallen in the distance. My mother-in-law and I hurriedly ran over, Xiaodong hugged his arm, his mouth twitching.
We rushed Xiaodong to the hospital, and after examination, the doctor told us that Xiaodong had a broken arm bone and needed surgery.
The operation went well, and Xiaodong was lying on the hospital bed with thick bandages on his hands. I looked at his helpless appearance, and my heart was full of guilt and sadness.
However, I found that my mother-in-law also began to do her best to take care of Xiaodong when I was away. Every time I see my mother-in-law accompanying Xiaodong to do crafts and play games, I feel uneasy in my heart.
Once, when I came home, I heard my mother-in-law say to Xiaodong: "When my mother is away, I am the one who takes you, and I am your real mother."
I walked over and looked at my mother-in-law coldly: "Xiaodong's mother is the only one, you should understand this truth."
The anger in my heart ignited in an instant, and I said to my mother-in-law, "You don't understand what mother's responsibility and love are.
"My mother-in-law stared at me, as if thinking about my words.
From that day on, the relationship between me and my mother-in-law became tense and cold. Every time we met, we avoided positive communication and only focused on Xiaodong.
I understood that the argument between us would only hurt Xiaodong, and I tried to control my emotions and tried to reconcile with my mother-in-law.
However, now I don't know how to start this conversation, and I don't want to hurt my mother-in-law's self-esteem, nor do I want to give up my monopoly on Xiaodong.
I also need to think about the relationship with my mother-in-law and how to deal with family disputes in the family. I believe that as long as we understand and tolerate each other, we will eventually be able to find a way to live in harmony.
Soon after, the mother-in-law's health began to have problems. She often felt tired and dizzy, and after going to the hospital for a check-up, she was told that her blood circulation was not good.
However, the mother-in-law was not willing to reduce her care for Xiaodong. She always insists that she can cope with everything, acting as if she exists to take care of children.
One day, when I came home, I saw my mother-in-law fainting in the living room, and Xiaodong stood aside in a panic. I hurriedly carried my mother-in-law to bed and took out the phone to make an emergency call, but my mother-in-law hurriedly stopped her.
"I'm just tired and need a break." The mother-in-law sat up and said tremblingly.
I know that my mother-in-law is not just because she is tired, she has been persisting because she cares about Xiaodong's health. She said to me, "Xiaodong is so young, he can't be left without someone to take care of him."
I felt conflicted, I understood my mother-in-law's worries and love, but I was also worried that her physical condition would get worse and worse.
Trust me, I'll definitely find a reliable person to help.
My mother-in-law looked at me quietly, and the corners of her eyes were a little moist. After a while, she nodded her head in agreement.
From that day on, I hired an empathetic nanny to help take care of Xiaodong. Although the mother-in-law was a little uncomfortable, she gradually began to accept this new arrangement.
I am relieved that my mother-in-law's health has improved, and I hope that she will be able to enjoy life more instead of blindly worrying and giving.
Because of my previous trip to the hospital, I have a new understanding of my mother-in-law's abilities, and I have begun to trust her ability to take care of her more.
One day, I came home to find that my mother-in-law had cut Xiaodong's hair very short, and I was angry and asked her why she did it.
I couldn't help but be furious and blamed her for making decisions without consulting me. I felt that my authority was violated, and as a mother, I thought I should have the right to dictate the image of my child.
Not to be outdone, the mother-in-law insisted on her own approach: "I am an elder, and I have the qualifications to decide with my children." ”
This conflict made our relationship tense, and the atmosphere was solemn and cramped. I began to wonder if my mother-in-law really recognized my authority as a mother.
As the days passed, the shadow of contradiction gradually dissipated, but our relationship did not seem to fully recover.
However, during this period of recurring contradictions, I gradually came to understand that sometimes in order to maintain family harmony, I need to learn to compromise and understand.
By chance, my mother-in-law and I sat together over tea and chatted. I decided to take the initiative to solve this problem that was bothering us.
I said gently, "Mom, I know that you take care of Xiaodong out of love, but as his mother, I also hope to have a say in his growth and image.
"You're his mom," she said, "and I know what you mean. I will respect your decision, there should be no such contradiction between us.
Hearing my mother-in-law's response, I felt a surge of relief welling up in my heart. Although we had conflicts in the midst of conflicts, through communication and understanding, our relationship was repaired.
Since then, I have started to communicate more actively with my mother-in-law, including the way the child is educated, healthy eating, etc.
The maintenance of family relationships and the cultivation of family affection require effort and communication, and no one is perfect, including myself and my mother-in-law.
Later, as time went on, I found that the conflict with my mother-in-law gradually surfaced.
One night, I unexpectedly heard my mother-in-law complaining loudly on the phone with a friend, saying that I was always criticizing her in raising children and not allowing her to use her abilities.
In order to ease this tense atmosphere, I decided to have a frank conversation with my mother-in-law. When I told my mother-in-law about her complaints, she started to get angry and thought I didn't trust her abilities.
However, she was reluctant to listen to my explanations and insisted that I was finding fault with her.
This conversation has left us both at an impasse, a stalemate. I began to wonder if my mother-in-law would really be able to understand and accept my advice to her to take care of the children.
The existence of this contradiction makes me wonder how to deal with conflicts and disputes between relatives in the family.
I believe that solving this problem will require efforts and communication on both sides. Perhaps, this is just a temporary friction, not a long-term estrangement.
Relationship disputes are an inevitable challenge in the family, but it is important that we are aware of these issues and work to resolve them.