Bride Price and Dowry in Marriage: Material and Emotional Balance When it comes to the fact that love can progress to marriage, many people get into trouble. In addition to the love itself, there are two key issues that need to be addressed: the bride price and the house. For the woman, the bride price represents the man's sincerity to the marriage, and the house is the guarantee of married life. However, in today's society, many people focus too much on the bride price and ignore the dowry. The bride price and dowry are actually the material security provided by the two families to support the new family. However, some people see marriage as a transaction, tying feelings to material things and focusing only on their own interests. This mentality makes the bride price an excuse. Some women's families demand a high bride price, and do not even allow their daughters to bring the money back to their parents' families, let alone a dowry. This practice not only chills the daughter's heart, but also leads to the breakdown of family relationships.
Falling in love is a matter for two people, but once it comes to marriage, family involvement is inevitable. Xu Hui's parents favored sons over daughters, and when their daughter was about to get married, they demanded a bride price of 200,000 yuan. Xu Hui tried to persuade her parents, but was unable to change their decision. For this marriage, Yang Hui had to borrow money from all relatives and friends, and the family's savings were almost exhausted. After marriage, the quality of life dropped sharply, and Xu Hui hoped to get back some of the bride price money from her parents, even if it was only half of it. However, her mother rejected her request and said that the money was to be left for her brother to buy a house. After the mother-in-law learned about this, her attitude towards her daughter-in-law also changed. Yang Hui reluctantly told his wife, but she said that she didn't have to worry, she would take care of the problem. This made Yang Hui understand that his wife's heart knot still could not be untied. Marriage is a big deal for children. As a parent, you should think more holistically.
On the issue of bride price, you can't make it too difficult for your daughter. If you ask too much because of your own selfishness, and you don't allow your daughter to bring the money back to her parents' house, it will only put your daughter in a dilemma at her in-law's house. If you treat your daughter-in-law and daughter unfairly, it will make your daughter feel cold. Even if there is family affection, there will be gaps and estrangements. Naturally, the daughter will not be filial and respectful to her parents in the future. By the time you regret it, it's too late. Therefore, the bride price and dowry should be balanced in the marriage. The bride price should be the sincerity of the man's family for the marriage, while the dowry is the support of the woman's family for the new family. Both families should be clear about the role of bride price and dowry to avoid overemphasizing one party. At the same time, it is also necessary to avoid transforming marriage into a purely transactional relationship, which should not link feelings to material things.
Marriage should be based on mutual respect and love, not on the exchange of interests. In addition, family education also plays an important role. Parents should teach their children to respect each other's family and background, and at the same time teach them to defend their own rights and interests in marriage, but also to respect each other's rights and interests. Marriage is a process of growing together and supporting each other, and both parties should work together to overcome difficulties and maintain each other's feelings. In conclusion, the issue of bride price and dowry in marriage is an issue that needs to be balanced. Focusing too much on the bride price and ignoring the dowry, or turning marriage into a transaction, can have a negative impact on marriage and family relations. Bride price and dowry should play an appropriate role in marriage, and family education should also focus on cultivating respectful and tolerant qualities in children. Only in this way can marriage be built on the basis of love and mutual support, and become a happy and fulfilling relationship.
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