This is a topic that has recently caused heated discussions on the Internet, and a new daughter-in-law in the countryside is called "rural young grandmother" by netizens because she is unwilling to do housework, disrespects her in-laws, and does not care about her husband. She posted some complaints and complaints on social platforms, saying that she was forced to marry into the countryside, dissatisfied with the living conditions and treatment of her in-laws, and said that she would never provide for her in-laws and wanted to divorce and go back to the city. These remarks aroused strong disgust and criticism from netizens, who believed that she was a typical "princess disease" patient, lacking a sense of responsibility and gratitude, not knowing how to respect and be considerate of others, and not suitable for rural life. So, what is the story of this "rural young grandmother"? How did she come up with such a way of thinking and behaving? What impact does her presence have on the social atmosphere and family relations in the countryside? Let's look at the background, the causes, and the impacts, and add personal perspectives.
Background: A "vase" that was married back at a high price
The name of this "rural young grandmother" is Wang Li (pseudonym), 25 years old this year, and she is the daughter of an ordinary family in a county town in Henan Province. She has been beautiful since she was a child, and her parents doted on her and provided her with a good education and living conditions. After graduating from high school, she was admitted to a second-class college, and she also had a very prosperous life in school, with many suitors. After graduating, she didn't find a suitable job, so she stayed at home, occasionally going out to do odd jobs or play with friends. She doesn't have any plans for her future, she just wants to find a man with money, a car and a house to marry and live a comfortable life.
The husband of this "rural young grandmother" is Liu Qiang (pseudonym), 30 years old, a farmer in a remote mountainous area of Henan Province. He didn't read much since he was a child, only the first Chinese. His parents were poor farmers, and he had a younger brother and a younger sister. In order to reduce the burden on his family, he has been working outside since he was 18 years old, and has done various jobs in Guangdong, Jiangsu, Zhejiang and other places, such as electronics factories, construction sites, express delivery companies, etc. He has no regular income and shelter, and has no plans to get married and have children. His goal, he said, was to be able to support himself and send some money to his family.
The couple's acquaintance and love affair was introduced through a marriage agency. Liu Qiang's parents have been urging him to get married, but he works in other places and has no time and opportunity to meet girls. He didn't want to find a girl from other places, because he felt that girls from other places were not suitable for rural life, and he would not be filial to his parents. He wanted to find a local girl, but the local girls all disliked him for being poor, without a house, a car, and without culture. He was very distressed, so he found a marriage agency through a friend's introduction. The owner of the marriage agency showed him some photos and information of girls, including Wang Li's. Liu Qiang took a fancy to Wang Li at a glance, and thought that she was very beautiful and a local, so he asked the boss to contact him. The boss told him that Wang Li was a college student and her family conditions were good, but she was a little picky and asked the man to have a house, a car and money. Liu Qiang said that although he has no house, no car and no money, he has a sincere heart and is willing to work hard for Wang Li. Then you have to give her enough bride price to make her satisfied. Liu Qiang said, how much is the bride price? The boss said, at least 100,000. Liu Qiang said, that's too much, right? Where do I have so much money? The boss said, think about it, can you find a better girl than her? If you don't give money, others give money, how can you compete with others? Liu Qiang said, can I meet her first? The boss said, yes, but you have to pay a deposit of 10,000 yuan first. Liu Qiang said, okay, I promise you.
In this way, with the help of the boss, Liu Qiang and Wang Li met. Wang Li didn't have a good impression of Liu Qiang, thinking that he was rustic, poor, and uneducated. But she also knew that she was no longer young, and she couldn't find a suitable partner in the county. She heard that Liu Qiang was willing to give her a bride price of 100,000 yuan, and bought a two-bedroom house in the town as a wedding house. She felt that this was also an opportunity, so she agreed to marry Liu Qiang.
Reason: Spoiled "princess disease"
After Wang Li and Liu Qiang got married, they did not live a happy life. Wang Li found that the house Liu Qiang bought was very small, very old and dilapidated, and had not been renovated. She felt that such a house was not suitable for her own living at all, so she asked Liu Qiang to sell the house and buy a new three-bedroom house in the county town. Mr. Liu said it was a loss and that he had no money to buy a new house. Wang Li fell out with Liu Qiang, saying that he didn't love her, didn't value her, and didn't respect her.